Nice Bloke Disease
Discussion
Well it's about time it had it's own thread, and tonight's appropriate enough.
Any other PHers (apart from me and LM) find themselves lumbered with this affliction - lacking the animalistic aspects of girl-chasing etc, 'caring' too much, ending up with lots of 'friends' but not enough 'lovers'? Finding the way that swaggering, pushy men go about their attractions irritating bordering on the offensive, but somehow they're successful to your detriment?
More to the point, is there a cure?
Any other PHers (apart from me and LM) find themselves lumbered with this affliction - lacking the animalistic aspects of girl-chasing etc, 'caring' too much, ending up with lots of 'friends' but not enough 'lovers'? Finding the way that swaggering, pushy men go about their attractions irritating bordering on the offensive, but somehow they're successful to your detriment?
More to the point, is there a cure?
v8thunder said:
Well it's about time it had it's own thread, and tonight's appropriate enough.
Any other PHers (apart from me and LM) find themselves lumbered with this affliction - lacking the animalistic aspects of girl-chasing etc, 'caring' too much, ending up with lots of 'friends' but not enough 'lovers'? Finding the way that swaggering, pushy men go about their attractions irritating bordering on the offensive, but somehow they're successful to your detriment?
More to the point, is there a cure?
Interesting thread.
Never had this problem myself and yet have Girls who are friends
. I think if you fancy a girl then it's best not to be too matey with them without making them aware of the fact that they 'don't 'alf give you the 'orn'.
Girls like to know that they have a physical effect on Men so make sure they know it.
You don't have to be arrogant to do this
. Duncan
vixpy1 said:
Used to suffer from it alot, because you don't realise that women actually like that, but unless you 'close the deal' so to speak, then they loose interest.
I got bored of hearing girls say "I like you, just not like that" or "your a great friend but.." so I changed my behaviour. I never became a bastard because I'm not like that but you do have to be more forward, they won't think less of you for trying.
I am now a serial monogamist, I have long, good quality relationships and have not been single for more than a month since I was 18 (8 years.) It's not just because I'm superb company, amazingly good-looking and hung like a grand-national winner - although all that helps
From reading your posts it seems like you have the same outlook as I used to in my teen years. You don't have to radically change the way you treat women just let them know you could be tempted into more than just friendship, how you do that depends on your personality at the moment. If you have loads of girls who think of you as mates, then try their mates, then try their mates mates. I lived with 5 girls at uni and although there was no shagging with them, their friends did not have a preconception of me as a mate, therefore, result.
So now, how do you do it? Well my young padowan, discover that for yourself you must.
BliarOut said:
Sorry guys, you need that bad glint in your eye too
Women want a little excitement too
Ah, but 'edge of danger' is different from 'edge of mysogenism', which I find a lot of serial lotharios seem to border on, unfortunately. Maybe it's hard to tell apart when you've only known someone 5 minutes.
Stop being kind and say what's on your mind. Like "I'd like to get to know you better - would you like to go for a meal", and get to know her. When you know them, then say you'd like to date them.
I recommend two neutral dates where you leave alone, on date three invite them over and walk to the restaurant / cinema etc.
When you get back 9 times out of ten she will stay.
Of course you could just say you're interested by suggesting she comes over and that bringing a toothbrush might be a nice idea.
I am of course no expert but it worked with my wife, so there is at least some record of success.
I recommend two neutral dates where you leave alone, on date three invite them over and walk to the restaurant / cinema etc.
When you get back 9 times out of ten she will stay.
Of course you could just say you're interested by suggesting she comes over and that bringing a toothbrush might be a nice idea.
I am of course no expert but it worked with my wife, so there is at least some record of success.
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