Another relationship thread...
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Another poor sap for you to all mercilessly extract urine from 
I did write out a long post explaining the detail, history etc, but honestly I'm not sure it's relevant so I'll keep it short.
Our relationship has been to hell and back - death of a child, another one heavily disabled, a previous affair on her part and she finally called time on it earlier this year.
Fairly quickly (no overlap I'm told...) she started seeing someone who was a recent addition to her circle of friends, was with him for a few months then broke up with him.
She now says she wants to work things out with me and maybe pick things back up - but wishes to remain good friends with the intermediate boyfriend. She still goes out with him during the day, he's with her on nights out, he messages her daily still. If we are to even think about working things out, I have an issue with this being an ongoing thing.
So here's the question: Am I being unreasonable?
I did write out a long post explaining the detail, history etc, but honestly I'm not sure it's relevant so I'll keep it short.
Our relationship has been to hell and back - death of a child, another one heavily disabled, a previous affair on her part and she finally called time on it earlier this year.
Fairly quickly (no overlap I'm told...) she started seeing someone who was a recent addition to her circle of friends, was with him for a few months then broke up with him.
She now says she wants to work things out with me and maybe pick things back up - but wishes to remain good friends with the intermediate boyfriend. She still goes out with him during the day, he's with her on nights out, he messages her daily still. If we are to even think about working things out, I have an issue with this being an ongoing thing.
So here's the question: Am I being unreasonable?
d.The break up wasn't actually down to our relationship directly but rather a big personal issue on her end and I know she's finally getting some help with it, which no matter what happens is great news.
Apparently I would have nothing to worry about, I shouldn't feel threatened etc. I tried to give her my perspective on things, but she just feels it's an unreasonable request on my part.
Guess I'm staying single for now, thanks for the reassurance that I'm not being obstinate
Apparently I would have nothing to worry about, I shouldn't feel threatened etc. I tried to give her my perspective on things, but she just feels it's an unreasonable request on my part.
Guess I'm staying single for now, thanks for the reassurance that I'm not being obstinate
Ermmm let me think about this for a minute.......
Nope, not being unreasonable, but being stupid to think that that is a basis for a relationship going forward. She chose him over you, now wants both of you? You know where that's heading, don't you, really?
Get a grip, get your head on straight and get the hell out of Dodge.
Do. Not. Go. Back.
Nope, not being unreasonable, but being stupid to think that that is a basis for a relationship going forward. She chose him over you, now wants both of you? You know where that's heading, don't you, really?
Get a grip, get your head on straight and get the hell out of Dodge.
Do. Not. Go. Back.
No you're not. She is being quite unbelievably selfish and self centered. If she can't see what she is asking of you, well, you'd better not even dare ever come back here and tell us you're giving it a go! 
Seriously, just don't go there again. She's done the dirty on you once and is refusing to admit it's a 'bad thing' by her behaviour... I would say the chances of her sticking it out with you again are about zero.
Seriously, just don't go there again. She's done the dirty on you once and is refusing to admit it's a 'bad thing' by her behaviour... I would say the chances of her sticking it out with you again are about zero.
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