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Now, this is me:
OTOH my mum is the complete opposite. She has to renew her insurance today and phoned me up to check which credit card numbers they'll want.
How the hell do you get someone to stop worrying about every little thing?
It's as if someone's told her that the more you worry, the better things will be.
And before you ask, it is affecting her health - without medicine, her BP is something like 220/160. She's not overweight (and I'm the worst critic for spotting a fatty), walks a lot etc.
OTOH my mum is the complete opposite. She has to renew her insurance today and phoned me up to check which credit card numbers they'll want.
How the hell do you get someone to stop worrying about every little thing?
It's as if someone's told her that the more you worry, the better things will be.
And before you ask, it is affecting her health - without medicine, her BP is something like 220/160. She's not overweight (and I'm the worst critic for spotting a fatty), walks a lot etc.
Edited by Hoofy on Wednesday 30th December 12:36
Willy Nilly said:
If there was a way of profiting from my worrying I would be a very wealthy man. Obviously I'd worry about profiting from it, what to do with the money, not spending enough of it, spending too much of it, you get the picture
Ha. And perhaps because I don't worry enough, I'm not rolling around in a Bugatti?popeyewhite said:
Still a bit high. Was anxiety the only reason she had a systole of 220?
It's long term anxiety due to death and serious illness in the close family. She has been primary carer and has been very diligent with her care. Perhaps caring too much.Obviously, I give and gave a s
t about the recent family problems too but, still, 
Hoofy said:
popeyewhite said:
Still a bit high. Was anxiety the only reason she had a systole of 220?
It's long term anxiety due to death and serious illness in the close family. She has been primary carer and has been very diligent with her care. Perhaps caring too much.Obviously, I give and gave a s
t about the recent family problems too but, still, popeyewhite said:
Sure, we do the best we can for our parents - that's the main thing - but you still have to have your own life. I tried, and still do, to take my mother away on holiday - Italian Lakes, Switzerland etc - but all I hear is "oh no I couldn't bear to go through an airport again". Not easy.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
My mum is mid 70s. We were watching the news the other day and when it was done she said "I like hearing about Islamic fundamentalism, war, famine, flooding and global warming....it helps take my mind off things.
She has a point. What does she have to worry about, though?
After becoming sufficiently mature, I developed an attitude to worrying that works for me.
I consider worrying as something whose relative value warrants much consideration. As in...
Q: Does it do any good?
A: Apart from functional, cautionary worries (e.g. did I turn the gas off, are my tyres properly inflated?) it does no good at all. It is therefore valueless.
Q: Is it expensive?
A: Probably not it financial terms. In psychological terms, it is sensationally costly.
O: Is it worth my worrying?
A: No - there's no positive outcome whatsoever.
I consider worrying as something whose relative value warrants much consideration. As in...
Q: Does it do any good?
A: Apart from functional, cautionary worries (e.g. did I turn the gas off, are my tyres properly inflated?) it does no good at all. It is therefore valueless.
Q: Is it expensive?
A: Probably not it financial terms. In psychological terms, it is sensationally costly.
O: Is it worth my worrying?
A: No - there's no positive outcome whatsoever.
davhill said:
After becoming sufficiently mature, I developed an attitude to worrying that works for me.
I consider worrying as something whose relative value warrants much consideration. As in...
Q: Does it do any good?
A: Apart from functional, cautionary worries (e.g. did I turn the gas off, are my tyres properly inflated?) it does no good at all. It is therefore valueless.
Q: Is it expensive?
A: Probably not it financial terms. In psychological terms, it is sensationally costly.
O: Is it worth my worrying?
A: No - there's no positive outcome whatsoever.
It all makes sense.I consider worrying as something whose relative value warrants much consideration. As in...
Q: Does it do any good?
A: Apart from functional, cautionary worries (e.g. did I turn the gas off, are my tyres properly inflated?) it does no good at all. It is therefore valueless.
Q: Is it expensive?
A: Probably not it financial terms. In psychological terms, it is sensationally costly.
O: Is it worth my worrying?
A: No - there's no positive outcome whatsoever.
Can somebody tell me what the difference is between thinking about something and worrying about something? and when does thinking about something became worrying about something?
I know it sounds like a silly question but my doctor told me to stop worrying about things but sometimes it very hard they are always in the back of your mind!
I know it sounds like a silly question but my doctor told me to stop worrying about things but sometimes it very hard they are always in the back of your mind!
Kev880 said:
Can somebody tell me what the difference is between thinking about something and worrying about something? and when does thinking about something became worrying about something?
I know it sounds like a silly question but my doctor told me to stop worrying about things but sometimes it very hard they are always in the back of your mind!
Thinking about something can be fine if you're just planning how to deal with the situation. If it puts you in a negative emotional state, then you have a problem. That's how I see it. Women tend to "think" about things too much and before you know it, they've jumped to a bad conclusion "reading between the lines" (usually where there was nothing to read) and assuming that you meant something really bad when you didn't, and now have got all upset about it.I know it sounds like a silly question but my doctor told me to stop worrying about things but sometimes it very hard they are always in the back of your mind!
Kev880 said:
Can somebody tell me what the difference is between thinking about something and worrying about something? and when does thinking about something became worrying about something?
I know it sounds like a silly question but my doctor told me to stop worrying about things but sometimes it very hard they are always in the back of your mind!
I haven't a precise answer but can pass on a relevant piece of advice that I read.I know it sounds like a silly question but my doctor told me to stop worrying about things but sometimes it very hard they are always in the back of your mind!
Aimed at insomnia sufferers, it was simply this: 'Stay out of your head'.
Experience suggests there a hierarchy along these lines:-
Think > Overthink > Fret > Full on Worry.
Edited by davhill on Saturday 2nd January 17:11
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