Feel funny today
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I'm 33 and i sometimes think i'm having some sort of mid(ish) life crisis.
Recently i have found myself looking back wistfully, especially when i was in my early 20's. Good days, good friends....all gone. This probably sounds like rubbish, as it's never easy typing 'feeling' into these threads
I even dreamt about an ex girlfriend last night, and i woke feeling like i missed her and wanted to find her again!! I mean WTF, i'm married (happily) and have 2 young kids. Why does the brain do this???
I then had an overwhelming desire to drive down to where i used to live...and just..oh i dunno
Think you need to get a grip boy...
as an ex boss used to tell me
Anyone else get this..any theories??
Recently i have found myself looking back wistfully, especially when i was in my early 20's. Good days, good friends....all gone. This probably sounds like rubbish, as it's never easy typing 'feeling' into these threads
I even dreamt about an ex girlfriend last night, and i woke feeling like i missed her and wanted to find her again!! I mean WTF, i'm married (happily) and have 2 young kids. Why does the brain do this???
I then had an overwhelming desire to drive down to where i used to live...and just..oh i dunno
Think you need to get a grip boy...
as an ex boss used to tell me Anyone else get this..any theories??
Did you sleep in your clown pyjamas again? 
Yep, know exactly what you mean.
The only thing is to give into it occasionally.
Not the ex-girlfriend bit obviously but get a load of mates together, go away for the weekend and properly 'ave it.
Then when you come home you will actively appreciate the sedate style of later life.
Yep, know exactly what you mean.
The only thing is to give into it occasionally.
Not the ex-girlfriend bit obviously but get a load of mates together, go away for the weekend and properly 'ave it.
Then when you come home you will actively appreciate the sedate style of later life.
Sounds like you and hertsbiker should get together:
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I get it. Im 21, if I take my dog out for a walk and see all the places I used to hang out with old mates 'back in the day' I miss them. The things we did, gone, never going to happen again really. But thats the way it is, so theres no point in dwelling on it... Look forward I say.
Its sounds like a cliche now, but I think its true, regret the things you didnt do. Youre lifes not over! Go and get that convertable! I would!
Its sounds like a cliche now, but I think its true, regret the things you didnt do. Youre lifes not over! Go and get that convertable! I would!
chrisbr68 said:
I get it. Im 21, if I take my dog out for a walk and see all the places I used to hang out with old mates 'back in the day' I miss them. The things we did, gone, never going to happen again really. But thats the way it is, so theres no point in dwelling on it... Look forward I say.
Its sounds like a cliche now, but I think its true, regret the things you didnt do. Youre lifes not over! Go and get that convertable! I would!
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Nostalgia's natural. I like going back to the areas where I grew up now and then, remembering sights and sounds. After a few hours of reverie I'm ready to return to the present though, which ain't that bad 
I have lost touch with all my mates from school, and most from uni, which is a shame. However my friends now, even though the relationships are relatively young by many people's standards, feel like old friends and are a cracking bunch
Nostalgia does tend to edit any bad or tedious memories, which is why we like to look back or go back now and then. Remember you'll look back fondly at whatever you're doing now though, so enjoy yourself and give yourself some great memories.
I have lost touch with all my mates from school, and most from uni, which is a shame. However my friends now, even though the relationships are relatively young by many people's standards, feel like old friends and are a cracking bunch
Nostalgia does tend to edit any bad or tedious memories, which is why we like to look back or go back now and then. Remember you'll look back fondly at whatever you're doing now though, so enjoy yourself and give yourself some great memories.
Hi Waynester. Book a track day, give yourself more "good times" to look forward to! I have done a few motoring events in my Tiv now, and I find myself thinking "Wow, couldn't have done that when I was younger"! Incidentally, if I knew then what I know now, I would have bought a wedge convertible, and had plenty of cash for upgrades! Not sure 'bout white... bet it looks good in the snow though! (HINT: Photo opportunity!)
I get nostalgia pangs sometimes and I'm only 21 too! (what is it with us, eh?). One thing you do start to notice is your friends getting all 'serious' and it actually depresses me to think that sometimes people are so obssessed with the 'realities' of life that they've forgotten who they really are. I say always remember who you are or it'll come back and hit you hard in the form of a midlife crisis.
Just to give you an idea - this first hit me really hard at a house party at a mate's house we had back in the summer. We were all there - people I've known since playgroup, who've all stuck together no matter what all the way through high school, college and now university, so we all know each other very well.
Our parties used to be wild - full of excessive beer-swilling, drunkenness, things got broken, burnt and tattered, loud music into the early hours, the works.
But this time was different. We were all sat on sofas and easy chairs with glasses of wine. Instead of my car-minded friends talking about supercars and top speeds, they were comparing the mpg of their Escorts and Volvos. No-one had any laugh-riot tales of excess, instead they were talking about future plans and house prices. At the time, two of them were also engaged to each other. The BBQ outside went out, so instead of dowsing it in lighter fuel and enjoying burnt offerings, we went to the kitchen and put it on the grille. The music was subdued - it always used to be some ska-punk, Britpop or house (didn't like house but it was a party so who cares), this time it was some '80s power-ballads followed by something like Roykksop.
Me and my best mate, Dave, went to get some beer (real ale this time, not cans of lager) out of the fridge, and we both commented about how damn old everyone seemed, so responsible, and how something as familiar a concept as 'childhood' was visibly slipping away.
Then the old photos came out. Photos of when we'd all, as a group, gone in black-tie to high school and college leaver's balls in hired limos, looking so excited and smart yet somehow naive, on holiday together, looking so carefree as we casually tried our hand at the odd extreme sport, or got drunk and raced cars round a field in the middle of the night. I stood back again and noticed that they all looked very misty-eyed, so it certainly wasn't just me. I realised that, instead of a bunch of schoolkids in front of me, there was a future pilot, doctor, policeman, physiotherapist, computer programmers, lawyers, businessmen, and me.
Funny thing was, after everyone else had left (this house is only 30 second's walk away from my own) me and the guy who's house it is just sat on the sofa, getting drunk on spirits and watching MTV. There was a '90s special, featuring a load of our favourites, and they only told you when they were released at the end of the song, so we played a bit of a guessing game.
Some dance tune came on that we both instantly recognised as an 'old favourite'. We guessed it at about 1997-1999.
It came out in 1991, and hadn't been remixed or re-released.
I will never forget that night. Probably the first time I really felt like an adult.
Just to give you an idea - this first hit me really hard at a house party at a mate's house we had back in the summer. We were all there - people I've known since playgroup, who've all stuck together no matter what all the way through high school, college and now university, so we all know each other very well.
Our parties used to be wild - full of excessive beer-swilling, drunkenness, things got broken, burnt and tattered, loud music into the early hours, the works.
But this time was different. We were all sat on sofas and easy chairs with glasses of wine. Instead of my car-minded friends talking about supercars and top speeds, they were comparing the mpg of their Escorts and Volvos. No-one had any laugh-riot tales of excess, instead they were talking about future plans and house prices. At the time, two of them were also engaged to each other. The BBQ outside went out, so instead of dowsing it in lighter fuel and enjoying burnt offerings, we went to the kitchen and put it on the grille. The music was subdued - it always used to be some ska-punk, Britpop or house (didn't like house but it was a party so who cares), this time it was some '80s power-ballads followed by something like Roykksop.
Me and my best mate, Dave, went to get some beer (real ale this time, not cans of lager) out of the fridge, and we both commented about how damn old everyone seemed, so responsible, and how something as familiar a concept as 'childhood' was visibly slipping away.
Then the old photos came out. Photos of when we'd all, as a group, gone in black-tie to high school and college leaver's balls in hired limos, looking so excited and smart yet somehow naive, on holiday together, looking so carefree as we casually tried our hand at the odd extreme sport, or got drunk and raced cars round a field in the middle of the night. I stood back again and noticed that they all looked very misty-eyed, so it certainly wasn't just me. I realised that, instead of a bunch of schoolkids in front of me, there was a future pilot, doctor, policeman, physiotherapist, computer programmers, lawyers, businessmen, and me.
Funny thing was, after everyone else had left (this house is only 30 second's walk away from my own) me and the guy who's house it is just sat on the sofa, getting drunk on spirits and watching MTV. There was a '90s special, featuring a load of our favourites, and they only told you when they were released at the end of the song, so we played a bit of a guessing game.
Some dance tune came on that we both instantly recognised as an 'old favourite'. We guessed it at about 1997-1999.
It came out in 1991, and hadn't been remixed or re-released.
I will never forget that night. Probably the first time I really felt like an adult.
Imagine yourself forwards 10 years. You're 43, your wife has left you and turned the children against you. You're not allowed to see them and you've just lost your job. You wish you could go back 10 years to when everything was lovely.
Open your eyes - bingo - you just went back to when you were only 33. Now you can appreciate what you've got
Open your eyes - bingo - you just went back to when you were only 33. Now you can appreciate what you've got
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