Can't think straight, not even sure why I'm posting here.
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My head is a mess, and I don't know what to do.
I did a long post, but deleted, this is the short version.
A few weeks ago my grandmother passed away, I was quite close to her, the funeral is coming up soon.
Then a few days ago, my brother hanged himself. He was cut down and revived, and is on life support.
If he survives he will be severely brain damaged.
I have special needs kids who are under 10, and I can't really tell them what happened to my brother, they understand about grandmother. But I really need to keep it together for them. My wife is trying to help, but is also disabled.
As I say, I'm not even sure why I posted, I think I just need to vent.
I did a long post, but deleted, this is the short version.
A few weeks ago my grandmother passed away, I was quite close to her, the funeral is coming up soon.
Then a few days ago, my brother hanged himself. He was cut down and revived, and is on life support.
If he survives he will be severely brain damaged.
I have special needs kids who are under 10, and I can't really tell them what happened to my brother, they understand about grandmother. But I really need to keep it together for them. My wife is trying to help, but is also disabled.
As I say, I'm not even sure why I posted, I think I just need to vent.
Wow, Just hang in there, Isn't there any friends, relatives that you can speak to ? at least you've done the right thing and told us on here about it.Thats the first step.
You need support, I would think alll the agencies are closed at this time of night, although the might have out of hours.
Try and share the load if possible, Don't take everything on yourself. ,
Wish you all the best, Andy.
You need support, I would think alll the agencies are closed at this time of night, although the might have out of hours.
Try and share the load if possible, Don't take everything on yourself. ,
Wish you all the best, Andy.
cjs racing. said:
My head is a mess, and I don't know what to do.
I did a long post, but deleted, this is the short version.
A few weeks ago my grandmother passed away, I was quite close to her, the funeral is coming up soon.
Then a few days ago, my brother hanged himself. He was cut down and revived, and is on life support.
If he survives he will be severely brain damaged.
I have special needs kids who are under 10, and I can't really tell them what happened to my brother, they understand about grandmother. But I really need to keep it together for them. My wife is trying to help, but is also disabled.
As I say, I'm not even sure why I posted, I think I just need to vent.
Vent away, sometimes this place can be a tonic. Make a physical effort to look upwards. You have my, and no doubt others', best wishes.I did a long post, but deleted, this is the short version.
A few weeks ago my grandmother passed away, I was quite close to her, the funeral is coming up soon.
Then a few days ago, my brother hanged himself. He was cut down and revived, and is on life support.
If he survives he will be severely brain damaged.
I have special needs kids who are under 10, and I can't really tell them what happened to my brother, they understand about grandmother. But I really need to keep it together for them. My wife is trying to help, but is also disabled.
As I say, I'm not even sure why I posted, I think I just need to vent.
MrAndyW said:
You are keeping it together for everybody else, but don.t forget to look after yourself as well. That means going somewhere quiet and crying you eyes out if necessary.
Andy
Very much thisAndy
Also if working try and get yourself some compassionate leave, sure most companies would grant given the circumstances.
The mental health charities may also be in a position to help, even if its not you directly affected
Talking about it is best, but this isn't the place for it.
http://www.samaritans.org/
They are there to help you.
http://www.samaritans.org/
They are there to help you.
www.thecalmzone.net
The campaign against living miserably help men deal with stress and depression. It's a fantastic charity that is trying to break the stigma associated with men seeking help and talking about things.
The campaign against living miserably help men deal with stress and depression. It's a fantastic charity that is trying to break the stigma associated with men seeking help and talking about things.
A very tough situation CJS, thoughts are with you. 
As has been asked above, what support network do you have (other family or friends)? The ability to ventilate/debrief is very important. Even posting on here can be a helpful outlet.
Be strong in front of your children but is important you give yourself time to grieve.
Your GP may be able to advise on self ref counselling services, might be worth getting in contact with them.
As has been asked above, what support network do you have (other family or friends)? The ability to ventilate/debrief is very important. Even posting on here can be a helpful outlet.
Be strong in front of your children but is important you give yourself time to grieve.
Your GP may be able to advise on self ref counselling services, might be worth getting in contact with them.
Likewise sorry to hear about your predicaments. Likewise I'd also say The Samaritans are the best bet. My friend volunteers for them, and they receive some pretty intensive training for all scenarios. I would also suggest that if you haven't done so (not knowing what you do, or if you may be self employed) be completely upfront with work and get them onside, they have a legal duty to support you in times of peril, and work stresses are the last thing you need now. All the best.
Edited by Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah on Thursday 26th January 20:25
Edited by Fermit The Krog and Sexy Sarah on Thursday 26th January 20:57
Don't be afraid to post on here, you have a burden which the vast majority of people could not imagine. While pistonheads is full of a load of old s
t, it's also got a lot of very decent very helpful people. I've certainly been helped by posters on here many times.
I do believe in talking so as mentioned speak to the Samaritans, friends, family and here as well.
t, it's also got a lot of very decent very helpful people. I've certainly been helped by posters on here many times. I do believe in talking so as mentioned speak to the Samaritans, friends, family and here as well.
Thank you guys, Samaritans sounds like a good call. Didn't think I was anywhere near needing to talk to them, but as a few of you mentioned them, they could be worth a try.
Too quickly answer a few questions.
I'm a carer for my children, so no job.
1 close friend, who I am talking to.
And then my wife and parents, and we are supporting each other where, and how we can.
Too quickly answer a few questions.
I'm a carer for my children, so no job.
1 close friend, who I am talking to.
And then my wife and parents, and we are supporting each other where, and how we can.
pablo said:
www.thecalmzone.net
The campaign against living miserably help men deal with stress and depression. It's a fantastic charity that is trying to break the stigma associated with men seeking help and talking about things.
ThisThe campaign against living miserably help men deal with stress and depression. It's a fantastic charity that is trying to break the stigma associated with men seeking help and talking about things.
cjs racing. said:
Thank you guys, Samaritans sounds like a good call. Didn't think I was anywhere near needing to talk to them, but as a few of you mentioned them, they could be worth a try.
I think they'd rather talk to you now rather than when you *need* to talk to them.Also as mentioned go to your GP. They will be able to point you in the direction of local services.
williredale said:
cjs racing. said:
Thank you guys, Samaritans sounds like a good call. Didn't think I was anywhere near needing to talk to them, but as a few of you mentioned them, they could be worth a try.
I think they'd rather talk to you now rather than when you *need* to talk to them..
They are there to help whatever the problem. It doesn't have to be at the edge of reason. They are all volunteers. And if you volunteer to help people with problems - you're probably a decent and helpful person.
You carry a heavy weight. They will help carry it, even if only for a short while
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