Tie required at a wedding?

[Bradgate]

I need some advice on a sartorial matter.

I have been invited to the wedding of a member of my partner's family. It's being held at a function room type venue. I'm expecting it to be a fairly low-key and informal occasion, certainly not a 'smart' wedding. No dress code has been stipulated.

I hate ties with a passion, and only wear one when I have to, so can I get away without wearing one, or should ties always be worn at a wedding? All advice gratefully received.

[Shakermaker]

If you are going all day, I'd suggest wearing a tie. Make a bit of effort. You can always take it off if nobody else is wearing one.

If you are just evening guest, you can more easily get away without wearing a tie.

I went through a period about 6 years ago of not wearing ties to weddings, and then decided I looked a bit shabby during the day, so started wearing one again.

Unless you're under 18, in which case, you can probably get away without one.

[simoid]

My 2p: have one just in case. Doesn't read like you're expecting lots of people to wear ties though. Might be nice to have one on for any photos etc. Remove once eating/drinking/dancing/whatever.

[anonymous-user]

No.

Other people will disagree.

Thread could go on for ages, but it won't alter the fact you don't need to wear one.

The might prefer it if you did.

[Rosscow]

It's a wedding. Of course you should wear a tie.

[Vocal Minority]

desolate said:

No.

Other people will disagree.

Thread could go on for ages, but it won't alter the fact you don't need to wear one.

The might prefer it if you did.

I don't think its worth getting confrontational over necessity v social nicety personally.

The answer was done in two posts.

Stick one in your pocket/partners hand bag - jobs a goodun. Even if others are wearing just have it on for the ceremony, dispense with for the reception.

[anniesdad]

Nothing I've ever seen says that a tie is compulsory at a wedding. they're not. I believe in every instance you should wear what you feel comfortable in unless there is a specific dress code in which case you do comply or don't attend. Or put one on and leave the top button unbuttoned but tie the tie up enough that you still look smart and then take it off in the bogs when you feel comfortable doing.

I hate wearing ties like you OP, my skin gets all warm and rashy, takes me days sometimes for the rash to subside.

[FredAstaire]

Who could hate something as benign as a tie "with a passion".

Be a grown up, wear a tie.

[ecsrobin]

You won't die if you wear a tie, its better to be over dressed than underdressed and it's quite easy to remove when the time suits.

[Parsnip]

FredAstaire said:

Who could hate something as benign as a tie "with a passion".

Be a grown up, wear a tie.

Pretty much this.

Day = Tie. Reception = your call.

If a tie is causing you discomfort, isn't it more to do with the collar of your shirt being wrong?

[Dan_1981]

What will you tie round your head in the evening if you don't wear one?

[Bradgate]

Thanks, chaps. Much appreciated.

I haven't been to a wedding for many years, so I was hoping that with ties having long since disappeared from most workplaces, they had also gone out of fashion at weddings.

I will probably need to buy a new one, and keep it in my pocket in case I'm the only person without one. Joy...

[Shakermaker]

Bradgate said:

Thanks, chaps. Much appreciated.

I haven't been to a wedding for many years, so I was hoping that with ties having long since disappeared from most workplaces, they had also gone out of fashion at weddings.

I will probably need to buy a new one, and keep it in my pocket in case I'm the only person without one. Joy...

I actually enjoy making the effort to look better for a wedding than I do for work.

But for a wedding, it is a special day for someone else - put in a bit of effort for them. A well dressed man, with a decent shirt and tie, will always be appreciated, rather than some scruff who stands out like a sore thumb in all the photos.

suffice to say, I have been to plenty of weddings lately where people didn't get the dress code and looked as if they had just wandered in off the street - Jeans and what they consider a "nice shirt" looking more like something you'd see on a professional darts player, is terribly out of place when everyone else is wearing a suit and tie.

[Major Fallout]

I like ties!

Plus for added kink you can tie up the brides maid you pull. With permission!

[anonymous-user]

Rosscow said:

It's a wedding. Of course you should wear a tie.

You would think so but I've been to a couple where half the guests were in jeans and t-shirts !
I was best man at one so I was in a suit and tie but I was the only 1 apart from the groom.

I'm not a fan of ties myself and at my brothers wedding....based on my previous experiences above...I decided to go tieless but wore an expensive 'flashy' shirt to make up for it.In this case I was the only 1 tieless

OP wear whatever you feel comfortable in

[crofty1984]

Dan has a point. I'm of the opinion that you should wear one. You can always take it off if it turns out it isn't needed.

[Muncher]

Rosscow said:

It's a wedding. Of course you should wear a tie.

I didn't wear one for my own wedding!

[anonymous-user]

Muncher said:

I didn't wear one for my own wedding!

Neither did I, this demonstrating that a tie is not required at a wedding.

Your hosts may prefer that you wore one though.

[ecsrobin]

desolate said:

Muncher said:

I didn't wear one for my own wedding!

Neither did I, this demonstrating that a tie is not required at a wedding.

Your hosts may prefer that you wore one though.

Well for ones own wedding a cravat is of course the correct attire and not a tie.

[Steamer]

If you don't wear a tie what are you going to put on your head for the evening-do?

• Bugger - Just noticed Dan made the same point earlier... I just thought I'd illustrate the point for effect.

Edited by Steamer on Monday 30th January 17:08