Pregnant wife. Keeps making stupid decisions.
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Hi all,
Happily my wife and I are expecting our first child. Both of us are over the moon about the news and have been planning, with family as much as we can.
However, Mrs Joe5y is an elite athlete physio so does travel and whilst not amazingly physical it's no office job.
On a trip last month she joined her 'team' and played bubble football. For those of you that don't know, this is 5-a-side football with mini bubble spheres over you that you run as hard as you can into the opponent. Not great for someone that is pregnant as you can imagine.
You'll probably assume that I wasn't happy about this and with the help of her sister (a GP) told her in very clear terms that she shouldn't be doing this so of activitiy. She was 12 weeks pregnant at this point.
Roll for 4 weeks - so now 16 weeks, and still early days in my book, she is away on another camp. I get a call last night from Mrs Joe5y saying "don't be mad but". In short, she played basketball with the team, get sideswiped, hit the floor and has been experiencing serious stomach pains since.
With the exception of being angry, upset, frustrated, resentful, furious and everything inbetween what can I do? She's got an emergency midwife appointment tomorrow to see if all is well. But what if it's not! What if it's okay? What the f**k can i do to drum it home to her that she's being a stupid arse?
Happily my wife and I are expecting our first child. Both of us are over the moon about the news and have been planning, with family as much as we can.
However, Mrs Joe5y is an elite athlete physio so does travel and whilst not amazingly physical it's no office job.
On a trip last month she joined her 'team' and played bubble football. For those of you that don't know, this is 5-a-side football with mini bubble spheres over you that you run as hard as you can into the opponent. Not great for someone that is pregnant as you can imagine.
You'll probably assume that I wasn't happy about this and with the help of her sister (a GP) told her in very clear terms that she shouldn't be doing this so of activitiy. She was 12 weeks pregnant at this point.
Roll for 4 weeks - so now 16 weeks, and still early days in my book, she is away on another camp. I get a call last night from Mrs Joe5y saying "don't be mad but". In short, she played basketball with the team, get sideswiped, hit the floor and has been experiencing serious stomach pains since.
With the exception of being angry, upset, frustrated, resentful, furious and everything inbetween what can I do? She's got an emergency midwife appointment tomorrow to see if all is well. But what if it's not! What if it's okay? What the f**k can i do to drum it home to her that she's being a stupid arse?
Edited by Joe5y on Friday 28th July 18:10
How old is she? Because she doesn't sound mentally ready to be a parent. It almost sounds like reality hasn't kicked in yet, which is odd, because pregnant women are usually turn into a raging mess of hormones much earlier in the pregnancy, it's usually the father that it doesn't hit home with until labour starts. Maybe she's in denial?
I feel your pain. My wife dropped the little one last week, but was playing hockey (she's a goalie) last year, and amazingly her team mates, coach etc all thought this fine. In fact several of them had carried on playing for much longer than my wife did when they were pregnant, before she plugged her brain back in and stopped playing. Something will click in her mind eventually and the maternal protective instinct will make her be sensible
Edited by Jonmx on Friday 28th July 18:37
I thought if you played sports etc that if you just keep on doing it from the start, then it's generally fine. I know people who swam for a long time while pregnant and only really took time out when they got too big to do tumble turns. Another I know is a body builder and she was still hitting the gym whilst looking like she was about to burst.
Granted bubble footy doesn't sound too sensible. But at 12 weeks it's probably going a to be thoroughly bedded in and not moving anywhere? Basketball at 16 week doesn't sound that bad in the sense of activity; running, chucking a ball, jumping....but of course getting hit in the mid section by a clumsy tackle isn't ideal.
Fingers crossed all is ok!
Granted bubble footy doesn't sound too sensible. But at 12 weeks it's probably going a to be thoroughly bedded in and not moving anywhere? Basketball at 16 week doesn't sound that bad in the sense of activity; running, chucking a ball, jumping....but of course getting hit in the mid section by a clumsy tackle isn't ideal.
Fingers crossed all is ok!
Very irresponsible.
High-contact sports = very bad.
Light-contact sports = bad.
No-contact sports = good.
Read her this:
http://www.parents.com/advice/pregnancy-birth/my-p...
High-contact sports = very bad.
Light-contact sports = bad.
No-contact sports = good.
Read her this:
http://www.parents.com/advice/pregnancy-birth/my-p...
Willy Nilly said:
She's pregnant, not ill. Let her do what she wants to do while she can.
What an idiotic thing to say. Playing a contact sport while pregnant is just plain stupid, and hopefully the OP's wife will come to her senses now and do the right thing for the baby.My OH is currently 16 weeks pregnant and I've encouraged her to continue running until the point where she feels it's uncomfortable or a bad idea, but doing sports where there's a constant risk of falling is a no-no. Incidentally there was an article in the paper recently about a woman who ran a marathon and gave birth two hours later!!!
Unexpected Item In The Bagging Area said:
Willy Nilly said:
She's pregnant, not ill. Let her do what she wants to do while she can.
What an idiotic thing to say. Playing a contact sport while pregnant is just plain stupid, and hopefully the OP's wife will come to her senses now and do the right thing for the baby.My OH is currently 16 weeks pregnant and I've encouraged her to continue running until the point where she feels it's uncomfortable or a bad idea, but doing sports where there's a constant risk of falling is a no-no. Incidentally there was an article in the paper recently about a woman who ran a marathon and gave birth two hours later!!!
Unexpected Item In The Bagging Area said:
Willy Nilly said:
She's pregnant, not ill. Let her do what she wants to do while she can.
What an idiotic thing to say. Playing a contact sport while pregnant is just plain stupid, and hopefully the OP's wife will come to her senses now and do the right thing for the baby.My OH is currently 16 weeks pregnant and I've encouraged her to continue running until the point where she feels it's uncomfortable or a bad idea, but doing sports where there's a constant risk of falling is a no-no. Incidentally there was an article in the paper recently about a woman who ran a marathon and gave birth two hours later!!!
A friend of mine was still going to pilates with both her pregnancies until we broke up for summer and still riding her horse until should couldn't get on it, and one of the clients at work was still working with the horses with the rest of the girls until a couple of weeks before she calved.
Women have babies in war zones, yours (the OP's) is being carried by an athlete, let her get on with it.
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