Mis-matched drives?
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Just been reading a thread which made me decide to put my problem to the PH massive.
I've set up a new username just for this thread (To spare my blushes) as I'm having a problem with my fiancee (Who I love very much) lately.
We've always had a good sex life, but recently its becoming less frequent. Don't get me wrong when she's in the mood there's plenty of input from both parties and its fantastic. But often she's not in the mood and as she never makes the first move (too embarrassed apparently) I won't find out either way until I try and then I'm made to feel guilty for it.
Is the problem with me or is there something deeper to this? I'm worried I might be losing her and won't know for sure until its too late
Please help.
I've set up a new username just for this thread (To spare my blushes) as I'm having a problem with my fiancee (Who I love very much) lately.
We've always had a good sex life, but recently its becoming less frequent. Don't get me wrong when she's in the mood there's plenty of input from both parties and its fantastic. But often she's not in the mood and as she never makes the first move (too embarrassed apparently) I won't find out either way until I try and then I'm made to feel guilty for it.
Is the problem with me or is there something deeper to this? I'm worried I might be losing her and won't know for sure until its too late
Please help.
maybe the problem is she is disgusted at your blue balls - have you been to the doctor? 
edit:: the best person to ask is the one who told you she is embarrased... no point asking the PH collective as we don't know the circumstances.
Good luck either way
>> Edited by docevi1 on Monday 11th April 00:03
edit:: the best person to ask is the one who told you she is embarrased... no point asking the PH collective as we don't know the circumstances.
Good luck either way
>> Edited by docevi1 on Monday 11th April 00:03
docevi1 said:
maybe the problem is she is disgusted at your blue balls - have you been to the doctor?
Why do you think they might be blue?
I've tried asking her. Just get the 'tired' and that sort of thing. I appreciate that may be true but can't help thinking I'm up for work far earlier and for twice as long, she's healthier and fitter than me so I wonder if its just an excuse?
>> Edited by blueballs on Monday 11th April 00:08
blueballs said:You chose the username not me fella
maybe the problem is she is disgusted at your blue balls - have you been to the doctor?
Only hanking your ch..., no hangon I don't want to say that. Only pulling your leg, thats the one
Its a communication problem mate..
Talk to her, you should be able to talk to the person you are about to marry about anything.
The question is.. does she ever refuse it to you, cos that would indicate something is amiss, it might not be emotional though and it might not be to do with you!
Talk to her, you should be able to talk to the person you are about to marry about anything.
The question is.. does she ever refuse it to you, cos that would indicate something is amiss, it might not be emotional though and it might not be to do with you!
All sorts of things affect sex drive mate.
Stress is a big one. Also if you have been together a while it's easy to get into a rut.
But you're talking to the wrong people. You need to talk to her, tell you're worried about it. Tell her she needn't be embarrassed about initiating. If you are getting married you have to be able to talk about this sort of stuff!
Good luck!
Stress is a big one. Also if you have been together a while it's easy to get into a rut.
But you're talking to the wrong people. You need to talk to her, tell you're worried about it. Tell her she needn't be embarrassed about initiating. If you are getting married you have to be able to talk about this sort of stuff!
Good luck!
blueballs said:
Is she often tired emotionally and or physically?
Is she happy outside of the bedroom?
She seems happy otherwise and just physically tired I'm led to believe.
When I try to bring it up it creates an atmosphere and as I said, I'm made to feel guilty for it.
Could be the colour of your testes
2 Smokin Barrels said:
Strange post for a first post. (Especially when you know how to bold never.)
She's obviously getting it elsewhere mate.
First post under this name, changed it for anoniminity (If thats a word).
Starting to wonder if your second point is right though, thought it was just me heading that way (Although I've always been a bit insecure).
You need to read this book mate.
www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0752846191/202-5875581-0940601
You will learn so much about a woman. May help you understand what is happening to you now.
HTH
Dave
www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0752846191/202-5875581-0940601
You will learn so much about a woman. May help you understand what is happening to you now.
HTH
Dave
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