When can I get rid of my ex's stuff...
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I split with my ex last year and it's been a torrid time, but attempting to move on she's still trying to mess up my life. She's left a small amount of stuff at my home - but enough for it to always be 'there' - it has no value. I've asked for months and months for her to let me know what to do with it to no avail, so I asked via a solicitor to let me know within a week. All I got back was her solicitor reminding me it would be a criminal offence for me to get rid of the stuff and not providing any time line.
Is this true? And also how long is too long? I've tried to be as nice as possible but it's beyond a joke now.
Is this true? And also how long is too long? I've tried to be as nice as possible but it's beyond a joke now.
Do you know where she lives/works? Take them there and leave them. Leave them at her solicitor's office.
It's only a criminal offence if you have intent to permanently deprive somebody of their goods. If you've offered sufficient reasonable opportunity for them to be collected, then it's not. Send her a letter, giving her a definite timeline after which you will be disposing of them. Ignore her solicitor's threats.
It's only a criminal offence if you have intent to permanently deprive somebody of their goods. If you've offered sufficient reasonable opportunity for them to be collected, then it's not. Send her a letter, giving her a definite timeline after which you will be disposing of them. Ignore her solicitor's threats.
Thankyou4calling said:
Is this the model for whom you shipped over all her clothes?
If so that's really sad as you seemed very happy and I enjoyed that thread.
All the best for the future.
Thanks for not doing the usual PH "ha ha told you so" - but yes, and it's been a pretty harsh 2017. If so that's really sad as you seemed very happy and I enjoyed that thread.
All the best for the future.
The Spruce goose said:
Very sad op i remember your thread in the match at the start and you had a child as well. For the sake of keeping the peace I would box it up and stick it out the way in the loft etc and wait until emotions died down.
Claim it went missing and cash in on the £750k?If she left it on the Tube she'd have three months
https://tfl.gov.uk/help-and-contact/lost-property#...
1. Ask your local secure storage facility how much they would charge to store it, then notify her / her sol that if not collected / removed within 14 days from notice said storage costs will be incurred. At the very least you have incurred time, materials and legal costs in dealing with this
2. Also notify her / her sol that if not collected within 90 days of notice the you will regard it as your propty to do as you see fit. You commit to remove and securely destroy personal data from the item. After that, you either donate it to charity or recycle, dispose of or sell it.
3. Ebay ( http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3639178/Yo... )
4. Profit
https://tfl.gov.uk/help-and-contact/lost-property#...
1. Ask your local secure storage facility how much they would charge to store it, then notify her / her sol that if not collected / removed within 14 days from notice said storage costs will be incurred. At the very least you have incurred time, materials and legal costs in dealing with this
2. Also notify her / her sol that if not collected within 90 days of notice the you will regard it as your propty to do as you see fit. You commit to remove and securely destroy personal data from the item. After that, you either donate it to charity or recycle, dispose of or sell it.
3. Ebay ( http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3639178/Yo... )
4. Profit
The Spruce goose said:
Very sad op i remember your thread in the match at the start and you had a child as well. For the sake of keeping the peace I would box it up and stick it out the way in the loft etc and wait until emotions died down.
This would be easiest. You have a child together, so presumably you'll see her again.If you really want it gone (entirely understandable) then delivery to her solicitors would be the best option. Use receipted Fedex or similar: they may refuse to take it from you personally, and you'll just get a scene.
In a similar position, I delivered to my ex's new address, having warned her in writing that I would do this. It made her very cross (so no change there), but it got it all out of my way, and gave me the brief pleasure of watching her sift through her belongings on the pavement as I drove off.
Collectingbrass said:
If she left it on the Tube she'd have three months
https://tfl.gov.uk/help-and-contact/lost-property#...
1. Ask your local secure storage facility how much they would charge to store it, then notify her / her sol that if not collected / removed within 14 days from notice said storage costs will be incurred. At the very least you have incurred time, materials and legal costs in dealing with this
2. Also notify her / her sol that if not collected within 90 days of notice the you will regard it as your propty to do as you see fit. You commit to remove and securely destroy personal data from the item. After that, you either donate it to charity or recycle, dispose of or sell it.
3. Ebay ( http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3639178/Yo... )
4.Profit
Hold the proceeds, less your reasonable expenses in acquiring them, until such time you can deliver them to her. It is never your money.https://tfl.gov.uk/help-and-contact/lost-property#...
1. Ask your local secure storage facility how much they would charge to store it, then notify her / her sol that if not collected / removed within 14 days from notice said storage costs will be incurred. At the very least you have incurred time, materials and legal costs in dealing with this
2. Also notify her / her sol that if not collected within 90 days of notice the you will regard it as your propty to do as you see fit. You commit to remove and securely destroy personal data from the item. After that, you either donate it to charity or recycle, dispose of or sell it.
3. Ebay ( http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3639178/Yo... )
4.
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