What would PH do?
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So typically I've got myself in another predicament....
Very good friend's wedding late next spring, I'm down to be an usher, only I've just realised that an exam date has been moved resulting in me being double booked that day.
Friend - I'm an usher, best mates at Uni, said yes some time ago, location ~1 hour away from home. Time ~10am - late - Surrey
Exam - £500 paid to sit, date moved from normal (hence not checking when booking), one exam day a year, not able to defer, need to do it for career reasons. Time 9am -5pm - Docklands
So what would PH do?
Given the cost and relative importance of the exam I'm currently erring to apologising to my friend over a curry, taking the exam on the day and razzing on the motorbike (surrey way) to get there before the evenings festivities, likely downing my sorrows (again)
Very good friend's wedding late next spring, I'm down to be an usher, only I've just realised that an exam date has been moved resulting in me being double booked that day.
Friend - I'm an usher, best mates at Uni, said yes some time ago, location ~1 hour away from home. Time ~10am - late - Surrey
Exam - £500 paid to sit, date moved from normal (hence not checking when booking), one exam day a year, not able to defer, need to do it for career reasons. Time 9am -5pm - Docklands
So what would PH do?
Given the cost and relative importance of the exam I'm currently erring to apologising to my friend over a curry, taking the exam on the day and razzing on the motorbike (surrey way) to get there before the evenings festivities, likely downing my sorrows (again)
Tell him. Now.
As delighted as you are to have been asked to be a part of the day, he will understand if you tell him now - it certainly is not too late for him to arrange another friend to be an usher if need be.
If this exam is important he will understand. Plus you can still be there for speeches and drinking/dancing in the evening and have a shot at the bridesmaids.
A friend of mine didn't turn up to a wedding a few weeks ago and only told the mate the night before, told him not to worry as his wife and daughter would still go, but, they didn't, and this was over a similar situation where he had things to do and he just never got around to it. He wasn't down as an usher, but had it been explained early enough then I know that the couple could have at least offered the space to someone else.
As delighted as you are to have been asked to be a part of the day, he will understand if you tell him now - it certainly is not too late for him to arrange another friend to be an usher if need be.
If this exam is important he will understand. Plus you can still be there for speeches and drinking/dancing in the evening and have a shot at the bridesmaids.
A friend of mine didn't turn up to a wedding a few weeks ago and only told the mate the night before, told him not to worry as his wife and daughter would still go, but, they didn't, and this was over a similar situation where he had things to do and he just never got around to it. He wasn't down as an usher, but had it been explained early enough then I know that the couple could have at least offered the space to someone else.
yeah, he would be told this week - planned on sorting a curry for next, could never leave him in the lurch
I'm thinking if I wind the bike up id' be there and changed by 18:30 latest (unless I can finish the last paper earlier), love the frozen sausage idea but I'm not taking a flight to Virginia to hammer them into the lawn! - doubt the owners of the exam venue would appreciate sausages scattered around their car park/foyer either (no grass).
I'm thinking if I wind the bike up id' be there and changed by 18:30 latest (unless I can finish the last paper earlier), love the frozen sausage idea but I'm not taking a flight to Virginia to hammer them into the lawn! - doubt the owners of the exam venue would appreciate sausages scattered around their car park/foyer either (no grass).
Edited by kiethton on Thursday 5th October 14:28
Having cleared these exams, I know how challenging they are.
I wouldn't get any pre conceived ideas about leaving early during the afternoon session, you don't know exactly what to expect and need to give it your best shot with time to review.
In the weeks preceding the exam you don't need any distractions or anything else on your mind until you are free at 5pm to get your life back.
Good luck!
I wouldn't get any pre conceived ideas about leaving early during the afternoon session, you don't know exactly what to expect and need to give it your best shot with time to review.
In the weeks preceding the exam you don't need any distractions or anything else on your mind until you are free at 5pm to get your life back.
Good luck!
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