When is enough enough
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Was exactly at that point aged 48. Wife and I both remember well the night she said 'f
k it, just quit'. We constructed and sent the email to my boss that night. In my case it turned out to be the best thing. I have no kids though so can't compare really. Just stay away from email after that second bottle of wine, just in case.
k it, just quit'. We constructed and sent the email to my boss that night. In my case it turned out to be the best thing. I have no kids though so can't compare really. Just stay away from email after that second bottle of wine, just in case.Plate spinner said:
Life is short.
If you're not enjoying it and don't have money pressure, focus on an exit plan.
I already know that once the house is paid off and the kids are independent, I'll embark on a second career which will be far more rewarding and pay far less.
Kids won't be independent for a long time yet but hopefully once we downsize it's no longer a pipe dream . If you're not enjoying it and don't have money pressure, focus on an exit plan.
I already know that once the house is paid off and the kids are independent, I'll embark on a second career which will be far more rewarding and pay far less.
I look around constantly at different and local jobs and ideally I'd want to work part time .
No idea what to do however
FocusRS3 said:
Plate spinner said:
Life is short.
If you're not enjoying it and don't have money pressure, focus on an exit plan.
I already know that once the house is paid off and the kids are independent, I'll embark on a second career which will be far more rewarding and pay far less.
Kids won't be independent for a long time yet but hopefully once we downsize it's no longer a pipe dream . If you're not enjoying it and don't have money pressure, focus on an exit plan.
I already know that once the house is paid off and the kids are independent, I'll embark on a second career which will be far more rewarding and pay far less.
I look around constantly at different and local jobs and ideally I'd want to work part time .
No idea what to do however
Surely only you can answer this question.
Can you afford to stop work/go part time?
no mortgage you said, you mentioned downsizing, just do it!
Sell the bigger place, move into a pretty but smaller place, money in the bank to keep you going, quit work, do something you enjoy part time to pay the bills, enjoy life!
Can you afford to stop work/go part time?
no mortgage you said, you mentioned downsizing, just do it!
Sell the bigger place, move into a pretty but smaller place, money in the bank to keep you going, quit work, do something you enjoy part time to pay the bills, enjoy life!
sidekickdmr said:
Surely only you can answer this question.
Can you afford to stop work/go part time?
no mortgage you said, you mentioned downsizing, just do it!
Sell the bigger place, move into a pretty but smaller place, money in the bank to keep you going, quit work, do something you enjoy part time to pay the bills, enjoy life!
Have had the house up for a while and just waiting for a genuine buyer . Mkts definitely slow now so we are in limbo . Can you afford to stop work/go part time?
no mortgage you said, you mentioned downsizing, just do it!
Sell the bigger place, move into a pretty but smaller place, money in the bank to keep you going, quit work, do something you enjoy part time to pay the bills, enjoy life!
Hopefully the house sells and it's big downsize time . I owe money on a flat we have but the downsize could pay this off.
The killer at mo is school fees for two kids but that'll get halved this time next year .
Just feel like I'm treading water rather than making headway and it's depressing
My dad hit this at 42 and mum at 48 - thy both got out within 6myhs of the realisation but luckily had the means to just volunteer and enjoy the rest of the time they have
They’re perennial travellers now and love life and have for nearly 2 decades lol
Life’s waaaaay too short to wait and think what if!?
They’re perennial travellers now and love life and have for nearly 2 decades lol
Life’s waaaaay too short to wait and think what if!?
Exactly this position a year ago...quit, spent three months setting my own agenda, travelling and taking a lengthy time out...all the while half heartedly searching for a new job...
Batteries recharged, time spent with offspring that'd been severely compromised for the last few years and enthusiasm and energy rekindled....the ideal job came up earlier this year and I've never been happier - just regret not having done it years before....
If you've got a few quid to tide you over do it...
Batteries recharged, time spent with offspring that'd been severely compromised for the last few years and enthusiasm and energy rekindled....the ideal job came up earlier this year and I've never been happier - just regret not having done it years before....
If you've got a few quid to tide you over do it...
Tim-D said:
Exactly this position a year ago...quit, spent three months setting my own agenda, travelling and taking a lengthy time out...all the while half heartedly searching for a new job...
Batteries recharged, time spent with offspring that'd been severely compromised for the last few years and enthusiasm and energy rekindled....the ideal job came up earlier this year and I've never been happier - just regret not having done it years before....
T
If you've got a few quid to tide you over do it...
If all ends tomorrow work wise then we have z few years cash which covers school fees too so we'll have breathing space . Batteries recharged, time spent with offspring that'd been severely compromised for the last few years and enthusiasm and energy rekindled....the ideal job came up earlier this year and I've never been happier - just regret not having done it years before....
T
If you've got a few quid to tide you over do it...
Finding the ideal job as you say is a dream . What is it you do ?
FocusRS3 said:
Have had the house up for a while and just waiting for a genuine buyer . Mkts definitely slow now so we are in limbo .
Hopefully the house sells and it's big downsize time . I owe money on a flat we have but the downsize could pay this off.
The killer at mo is school fees for two kids but that'll get halved this time next year .
Just feel like I'm treading water rather than making headway and it's depressing
I don't want to sound soppy but if your paying to put your kids through private school you are making headway. It's just that it's as a family rather than in the narrow sense as an individual.Hopefully the house sells and it's big downsize time . I owe money on a flat we have but the downsize could pay this off.
The killer at mo is school fees for two kids but that'll get halved this time next year .
Just feel like I'm treading water rather than making headway and it's depressing
My lad got his first offer for a university last night. The course he wanted at lower grades than he thought. I felt surprisingly proud about the whole thing.
desolate said:
I don't want to sound soppy but if your paying to put your kids through private school you are making headway. It's just that it's as a family rather than in the narrow sense as an individual.
My lad got his first offer for a university last night. The course he wanted at lower grades than he thought. I felt surprisingly proud about the whole thing.
Many congrats to you and your son, proud moment indeed .My lad got his first offer for a university last night. The course he wanted at lower grades than he thought. I felt surprisingly proud about the whole thing.
The school fees are being funded by the cash reserves I've built up over time so it's not like all in ( including all other running costs) I'm adding is what I meant . Family is all that matters to me and we are a tight family unit .
My thinking is two more years on the hamster wheel when hopefully house is gone and I'm at ripe old age of 51 then it's hit the beach time
FocusRS3 said:
Tim-D said:
Exactly this position a year ago...quit, spent three months setting my own agenda, travelling and taking a lengthy time out...all the while half heartedly searching for a new job...
Batteries recharged, time spent with offspring that'd been severely compromised for the last few years and enthusiasm and energy rekindled....the ideal job came up earlier this year and I've never been happier - just regret not having done it years before....
T
If you've got a few quid to tide you over do it...
If all ends tomorrow work wise then we have z few years cash which covers school fees too so we'll have breathing space . Batteries recharged, time spent with offspring that'd been severely compromised for the last few years and enthusiasm and energy rekindled....the ideal job came up earlier this year and I've never been happier - just regret not having done it years before....
T
If you've got a few quid to tide you over do it...
Finding the ideal job as you say is a dream . What is it you do ?
99% though it's the change of characters / colleagues....now surrounded by folk that actually want to and enjoy working!!!
Tim-D said:
Insurance marketing... Not everyone's ideal...but I love it... Went from large lumbering corporate with zero ambition or aspiration to a much smaller outfit with drive and budget ....
99% though it's the change of characters / colleagues....now surrounded by folk that actually want to and enjoy working!!!
You've hit the nail on the head there regards work colleagues . 99% though it's the change of characters / colleagues....now surrounded by folk that actually want to and enjoy working!!!
Guys I work with now are nice , it's the industry that's getting me down
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