Opting out.

[220s plenty]

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Edited by 220s plenty on Sunday 12th November 07:20

[Butter Face]

Quit life and go live in the woods somewhere then.

[hoagypubdog]

What do you do for a living?

[davek_964]

I'd love to know what parts of a relationship you want are prohibited by society and the law........

[anonymous-user]

take a train journey and meet me in Manchester in Early December.
We can go round the xmas markets getting steadily happier
Then I plan to visit the new scientology church not far from there. My stay there will be short but you can stay as long as you want.

[Todd Bonzalez]

220s plenty said:

In reality I've been grinding to a gradual halt for a long time. It was an extortionate quote for business insurance (compounded by extortionate business motor insurance) that has stopped me in my tracks. I live a very frugal lifestyle but the rules are perpetually depleting my hard earned resources. If I opt to undertake reasonably paid work, I've no choice but to either work for another man or to spend a lot of money simply for the privilege of working for myself. It's got me thinking - f*ck it, literally f*ck it completely.

How it was up until this point:

• Women, society and the law have made relationships infeasible - I've written that part of life off
• I strongly dislike my job - four years of study for nothing but an expensive certificate and a pat on the back
• I will never own a home worth owning even if I work my backside off - I have what is considered a 'good job'
• The state and rules ensure I will never be wealthy
• Driving has become an infuriating, horrible experience - I'm required to do a lot of driving for work

I'm not really sure how to sum this up or what the point of the post is as I can't foresee a positive solution. For certain I know I'm not happy with the way life is - I feel an almost inconceivable amount of injustice and I'm not prepared to enable such a system.

Get off the internet, especially this sad brained, middle aged, class obsessed internet forum. Go outside and meet people and do stuff. Get a hobby.
If that doesn't work see a doctor/therapist. Stop referring to women as "leeches" and get real.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

220s plenty said:

I feel an almost inconceivable amount of injustice and I'm not prepared to enable such a system.

There's your problem, and the problem with society in general, that no one wants to accept responsibility for their own failings, and wants to blame someone or something.

You need to look in the mirror and accept that what's happened to you is your fault. Only until you do that can you begin to put it right. A bit like accepting you have a drink or gambling issue. But once you've done it, it's quite liberating.

I like to use the following phrase....You only get one chance to fk your life up, and I grabbed mine with both hands.

[DanielSan]

If women have made relationships unfeasible wh not try men?

[Foliage]

Step 1. Get off social media
Step 2. Start to think for yourself, everything you've written can be solved.

[thainy77]

How old are you?

[Higgs boson]

DanielSan said:

If women have made relationships unfeasible wh not try men?

That's thinking "outside the box".

[Eric Mc]

I can't stand whingers.

[Rawwr]

I'm really happy these days

I'm not super wealthy but I'm comfortable. My job isn't the most exciting but it pays more than it probably should and I like the people I work with. I enjoy gaming, motorbikes, cars and other stuff to keep me entertained - none of them are really a hobby as such but they occupy my time. I enjoy reading and learning and researching all kinds of bizarre stuff because everything is interesting if you look into enough. I'm happily single and have a very tight group of close friends but very few casual friends.

Not wishing to blow my own trumpet too much but I'm smart. I'm really smart. I'm certainly smart enough to know that I could've done more with my life; could be in a better job, could have more cash in the bank, could have faster cars and bikes, could have a relationship and children. I could've achieved so much. There was a time when it was an issue for me and I started to believe that I'd let myself down but then I reflect on what I have, what I do, what I enjoy and who I enjoy it with and I realised that I'm far more than content; I'm genuinely happy. I'm the only one responsible for how my life has turned out and why would I want to blame myself for that when I can congratulate myself for it?

If you focus too much and what you haven't done and what you haven't got then you'll never be content, let alone happy.

[C0ffin D0dger]

Todd Bonzalez said:

Get off the internet, especially this sad brained, middle aged, class obsessed internet forum.

How dare you!

[C0ffin D0dger]

Sounds like the OP has no particular commitments so my advice would be to save up a few £ a head off travelling for as long as you want too. Personally I'd probably get as far as New Zealand, buy a surfboard and never leave again. Get work picking fruit or whatever. Just enough for food, beer and surfing.

[sgtBerbatov]

First, I would go to your doctors and speak to him about how you feel. You sound depressed more than anything.

Secondly, if you hate the job then quit and go in to something else.

Thirdly, every pot has a lid. You might be going after ahole women. Try and learn to love yourself, value yourself, and when you go out don't be thinking "I need a woman to make my life happier". You are the only person who can make yourself happy. Once you do this the women will come to you.

Finally, "a house not worth owning". If you buy a house its yours. Its your castle. It doesn't matter if it's a 1 bed apartment or a 25 bedroom mansion. Its yours. Its your home. That's what should matter, not this bullst of having to buy a house with the hope of making £200,000 off it in 5 years time.

[Ari]

220s plenty said:

• Women, society and the law have made relationships infeasible - I've written that part of life off

Some sort of restraining order..?

[WCZ]

Eric Mc said:

I can't stand whingers.

there's nothing worse than when you're down being kicked under the impression you're a whiner....
everyone has sad days and some people are more vocal with it, others suppress it
there's no need for this comment imo

[blueveloce]

Jack it all in and travel,id did not do enough before i settled down and plan a lot more......

Seek professional help for depression and take stock of any positives you do have ie health etc (sorry i am no professional but my youngest son suffered from depression after leaving the army early into his career after being diagnosed with asthma)..

good luck

Edited by blueveloce on Tuesday 7th November 15:09

[anonymous-user]

Ari said:

220s plenty said:

• Women, society and the law have made relationships infeasible - I've written that part of life off

Some sort of restraining order..?

Cruel Ari Cruel

I just suspect the OP needs to change some or all parts of his life.
It's not easy to do so. I can think of several people whom I have known over the years who have done major changes to their lives be it changing jobs, relocating etc. Thing is they did it in reaction to circumstances, not proactively. Redundancies, relationship breakdowns, serious health scares.