Scared of being happy
Discussion
oilandwater said:
With all this enforced happiness around at this time of year, Im scared of being happy in case something or someone comes along to knacker it up with bad news. Anyone else or just me?
It's a serious condition, my wife suffers from it, it can ruin your life. Get some help.PositronicRay said:
It's a serious condition, my wife suffers from it, it can ruin your life. Get some help.
+1avoiding being happy, even avoiding things that you think will make you happy are signs of depression, as PR says, proper help from the docs is needed, no shame attached, the docs see this daily.
Robbo 27 said:
PositronicRay said:
It's a serious condition, my wife suffers from it, it can ruin your life. Get some help.
+1avoiding being happy, even avoiding things that you think will make you happy are signs of depression, as PR says, proper help from the docs is needed, no shame attached, the docs see this daily.
Definitely needs some medical intervention be it talking therapy or medication
Jimmy Recard said:
I wouldn't say I'm scared of being happy, more that I'm apathetic towards it. I just don't see the point - what really will change if I'm unhappy or happy?
I don't think that I'm really either unhappy or happy
Jimmy earlier today:I don't think that I'm really either unhappy or happy
Seriously though - OP, give your GP a call, pop down, have a chat, take it from there.
mrtwisty said:
Seriously though - OP, give your GP a call, pop down, have a chat, take it from there.
Well intentioned But. Give your GP a call ? Fight past the receptionist to get an appointment
Pop down - yes well maybe in a month or so
Take it from there - read the leaflets pressed into your hand and get on the phone to an outside source
techiedave said:
mrtwisty said:
Seriously though - OP, give your GP a call, pop down, have a chat, take it from there.
Well intentioned But. Give your GP a call ? Fight past the receptionist to get an appointment
Pop down - yes well maybe in a month or so
Take it from there - read the leaflets pressed into your hand and get on the phone to an outside source
OP, despite the negativity being shown in a couple of posts here. What you describe is indeed a (more common than you think) condition that can, and should be treated. There is every reason to be happy, your mind and body will thank you for it. Yes it's a pain in the arse to get a GP appointment but it's not impossible. They are trained to identify signs to put you in touch with the best possible resource in order to alleviate your symptoms.
Do it, and start brightening your outlook. I have been where you are and i promise you it is FAR better on the other side.
All the best.
t come along and spoil it"
O/P I have lost two loved ones this year and was told today a third has less than three months to live. I suggest you get happy quick, as it ain't going to last.
[Not so much a 'pull your socks up' member as an 'enjoy it while it lasts' brigade]
As Red said: "I guess it comes down a simple choice - Get busy living, or get busy dying".
[Not so much a 'pull your socks up' member as an 'enjoy it while it lasts' brigade]
As Red said: "I guess it comes down a simple choice - Get busy living, or get busy dying".
Edited by GetCarter on Tuesday 19th December 18:55
techiedave said:
Well intentioned But
. Give your GP a call ? Fight past the receptionist to get an appointment
Pop down - yes well maybe in a month or so
Take it from there - read the leaflets pressed into your hand and get on the phone to an outside source
Except under the nhs constitution everyone is entitled to a gp appt within 7days, you don’t have to tell the receptionist what’s wrong or why you want to see the GP. Give your GP a call ? Fight past the receptionist to get an appointment
Pop down - yes well maybe in a month or so
Take it from there - read the leaflets pressed into your hand and get on the phone to an outside source
Ignorance of the system.
Most GP booking is done via app now, get your code from your practice and get setup with Emis, Evergreen, etc... get a same day or next day appt without speaking to anyone - it’s easy
You can get a referral esp in relation to mental health from other sources but the GP is the best source of referral
If you are struggling for an early doctors appointment here a couple of things that work for many
Go for a long country walk, borrow a dog if you can, try for 4 miles minimum and maybe a pub lunch at the end of it.
Sing! There is something about the deep breathing and singing loudly that works.
Phone someone or invite a neighbour or a friend in for a drink, just an early evening glass of wine to say hi.
Go for a long country walk, borrow a dog if you can, try for 4 miles minimum and maybe a pub lunch at the end of it.
Sing! There is something about the deep breathing and singing loudly that works.
Phone someone or invite a neighbour or a friend in for a drink, just an early evening glass of wine to say hi.
techiedave said:
Well intentioned But
. Give your GP a call ? Fight past the receptionist to get an appointment
Pop down - yes well maybe in a month or so
Take it from there - read the leaflets pressed into your hand and get on the phone to an outside source
Sounds like you've had an unfortunate experience in these matters? My experience differs - considerably. Please don't bring negativity and defeatism to threads like this - that's what N,P&E is for.. Give your GP a call ? Fight past the receptionist to get an appointment
Pop down - yes well maybe in a month or so
Take it from there - read the leaflets pressed into your hand and get on the phone to an outside source
Find something that could be better and improve it :-
Clean a grubby carpet
Paint a scruffy wall
Tidy the shed (or any other messy space)
Wash and/or service the car
You're looking to do something that counts as a tangible achievement; something you can look at with a feeling of a job well done. Because every time you do, you'll feel a bit more useful, a bit more valuable.
Walking some dogs, as previously suggested, is good too. Exercise is an invigorating achievement, especially in the company of a couple of furry lumps of life.
Learn to do something new, like a musical instrument or a sport. Self-improvement has no end, unlike tidying or decorating.
Meet and talk to people.
If you need the GP, and chemical assistance, before you can contemplate other stuff, go. But review early and often - medication is a good servant but a very bad master.
Good Luck.
Clean a grubby carpet
Paint a scruffy wall
Tidy the shed (or any other messy space)
Wash and/or service the car
You're looking to do something that counts as a tangible achievement; something you can look at with a feeling of a job well done. Because every time you do, you'll feel a bit more useful, a bit more valuable.
Walking some dogs, as previously suggested, is good too. Exercise is an invigorating achievement, especially in the company of a couple of furry lumps of life.
Learn to do something new, like a musical instrument or a sport. Self-improvement has no end, unlike tidying or decorating.
Meet and talk to people.
If you need the GP, and chemical assistance, before you can contemplate other stuff, go. But review early and often - medication is a good servant but a very bad master.
Good Luck.
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