concern for person
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It has come to my attention that a family member hasn't been in touch for the last two months. Last known contact was texts sent on the 1st January this year. It's way to far for any of us to just drop stuff and go see, shortest distance any of us would have to travel is about 130 miles to get to her address.
I hasten to add we have been trying to contact her. Texts go unanswered and voice calls go straight to answerphone.
Any ideas on what we could do, apart from going there, to make sure she is at least ok?
Would the police be able to help or is there another way of dealing with this?
I hasten to add we have been trying to contact her. Texts go unanswered and voice calls go straight to answerphone.
Any ideas on what we could do, apart from going there, to make sure she is at least ok?
Would the police be able to help or is there another way of dealing with this?
If you’re really worried i cannot understand why 130 miles is any sort of barrier to travelling and finding out for yourself.
I doubt that the police would be interested unless you have a good reason to be really concerned for this individuals safety. The rub though is that if you are really concerned then I refer you to my first paragraph.
I doubt that the police would be interested unless you have a good reason to be really concerned for this individuals safety. The rub though is that if you are really concerned then I refer you to my first paragraph.
She's 51, single and lives a very poor life. Lives in a suburb of north B'ham, socially she's very isolated because of her general run down appearance and lifestyle.
Doesn't do drink or drugs, in fact she doesn't really do anything, she's just one of those people who've fallen through the cracks in society and she won't go seek help herself thus making her life situation quite bad.
We have tried with her over the years but it's never led to any long term improvement. Her way of life means none of us would want her living with us, but we are concerned that she is at least alive.
ETA after reading responses above......Past experience has shown us that there is no guarantee she'd answer the door and as I'm not a powerfully built company director I don't have the ways and means to freely spend as much as I'd like.
Doesn't do drink or drugs, in fact she doesn't really do anything, she's just one of those people who've fallen through the cracks in society and she won't go seek help herself thus making her life situation quite bad.
We have tried with her over the years but it's never led to any long term improvement. Her way of life means none of us would want her living with us, but we are concerned that she is at least alive.
ETA after reading responses above......Past experience has shown us that there is no guarantee she'd answer the door and as I'm not a powerfully built company director I don't have the ways and means to freely spend as much as I'd like.
Edited by Amused2death on Monday 5th March 14:45
We (the Ambulance service) get frequent 'concern for wellfare' calls, often passed to us from the police, or from careline (after a person pressed their alarm button but then doesn't reply to the person talking to them through the anwer box).
We then turn up, and if there's no anwser at the door we'll see if there's any open doors or windows we can get in through, and we usually have a word with the neighbours etc, if still no reply then we call the police back and either them or the fire service will come and force access so we can all get in.
If we look through a window and can see someone laying on the floor then we can force access by breaking the door and/or windows, in case the person needs urgent medical help.
So as most people have already suggested, ring 101 and they'll probably either send a police car or ambulance round to check on your relative.
We then turn up, and if there's no anwser at the door we'll see if there's any open doors or windows we can get in through, and we usually have a word with the neighbours etc, if still no reply then we call the police back and either them or the fire service will come and force access so we can all get in.
If we look through a window and can see someone laying on the floor then we can force access by breaking the door and/or windows, in case the person needs urgent medical help.
So as most people have already suggested, ring 101 and they'll probably either send a police car or ambulance round to check on your relative.
Bilhound, thanks for your thoughts.
Plan so far is another round of texts and calls giving her a few days to get in touch, emphasising our course of action if she doesn't reply, then if no response it'll be a call to 101.
Given the timescale involved since last contact we feel 48 hours won't make much difference one way or the other in the sense that if something had happened and she'd been found ill/dead we would have been told.
Plan so far is another round of texts and calls giving her a few days to get in touch, emphasising our course of action if she doesn't reply, then if no response it'll be a call to 101.
Given the timescale involved since last contact we feel 48 hours won't make much difference one way or the other in the sense that if something had happened and she'd been found ill/dead we would have been told.
Amused2death said:
Bilhound, thanks for your thoughts.
Plan so far is another round of texts and calls giving her a few days to get in touch, emphasising our course of action if she doesn't reply, then if no response it'll be a call to 101.
Given the timescale involved since last contact we feel 48 hours won't make much difference one way or the other in the sense that if something had happened and she'd been found ill/dead we would have been told.
I would even bother with the next round of texts..make the 101 call and get it sorted for piece of mind today.Plan so far is another round of texts and calls giving her a few days to get in touch, emphasising our course of action if she doesn't reply, then if no response it'll be a call to 101.
Given the timescale involved since last contact we feel 48 hours won't make much difference one way or the other in the sense that if something had happened and she'd been found ill/dead we would have been told.
bilhound said:
Please - call 101 with this...force... local force
And there's the problem there. She's going to love having the police there when, in her mind there is no need for them to attend.I'm pretty sure there are other alternatives to having the police threaten to break the door down.
A few years ago i had an employee go missing for three days, after repeatedly trying i even called his emergency contact who couldn't get him either.
It was suggested a call to 101 and within an hour an officer was at his address and relayed a message to us that all was well, but on his way home from work he was mugged and his phone was taken, he was still getting over this and hadn't been out of the house since.
It was suggested a call to 101 and within an hour an officer was at his address and relayed a message to us that all was well, but on his way home from work he was mugged and his phone was taken, he was still getting over this and hadn't been out of the house since.
Amused2death said:
Bilhound, thanks for your thoughts.
Plan so far is another round of texts and calls giving her a few days to get in touch, emphasising our course of action if she doesn't reply, then if no response it'll be a call to 101.
Given the timescale involved since last contact we feel 48 hours won't make much difference one way or the other in the sense that if something had happened and she'd been found ill/dead we would have been told.
Seriously????? Plan so far is another round of texts and calls giving her a few days to get in touch, emphasising our course of action if she doesn't reply, then if no response it'll be a call to 101.
Given the timescale involved since last contact we feel 48 hours won't make much difference one way or the other in the sense that if something had happened and she'd been found ill/dead we would have been told.
The family member who your concerned about is 130miles away. Many people commute more than that each way in a day? If your that concerned about their wellbeing, get off your lazy ass and go and check up on them yourself!!
Do you not think the local Police/Fire/Ambulance don't have enough on their plate without you delegating your moral responsibiity to this person on them!
I bet if you needed one of these services in an emergency and you found out they were out checking up on someone because their family were too bone idle to do it themselves, you'd be extremly hacked off!
I hope this is a trolling attempt and your not for real.......
ReverendCounter said:
And there's the problem there. She's going to love having the police there when, in her mind there is no need for them to attend.
I'm pretty sure there are other alternatives to having the police threaten to break the door down.
If only she had a concerned relative.I'm pretty sure there are other alternatives to having the police threaten to break the door down.
hutchst said:
ReverendCounter said:
And there's the problem there. She's going to love having the police there when, in her mind there is no need for them to attend.
I'm pretty sure there are other alternatives to having the police threaten to break the door down.
If only she had a concerned relative.I'm pretty sure there are other alternatives to having the police threaten to break the door down.
Amused2death said:
It has come to my attention that a family member hasn't been in touch for the last two months. Last known contact was texts sent on the 1st January this year. It's way to far for any of us to just drop stuff and go see, shortest distance any of us would have to travel is about 130 miles to get to her address.
I hasten to add we have been trying to contact her. Texts go unanswered and voice calls go straight to answerphone.
Any ideas on what we could do, apart from going there, to make sure she is at least ok?
Would the police be able to help or is there another way of dealing with this?
101 and the police will attend. it may be even graded higher if this is out of characterI hasten to add we have been trying to contact her. Texts go unanswered and voice calls go straight to answerphone.
Any ideas on what we could do, apart from going there, to make sure she is at least ok?
Would the police be able to help or is there another way of dealing with this?
super7 said:
Amused2death said:
Bilhound, thanks for your thoughts.
Plan so far is another round of texts and calls giving her a few days to get in touch, emphasising our course of action if she doesn't reply, then if no response it'll be a call to 101.
Given the timescale involved since last contact we feel 48 hours won't make much difference one way or the other in the sense that if something had happened and she'd been found ill/dead we would have been told.
Seriously????? Plan so far is another round of texts and calls giving her a few days to get in touch, emphasising our course of action if she doesn't reply, then if no response it'll be a call to 101.
Given the timescale involved since last contact we feel 48 hours won't make much difference one way or the other in the sense that if something had happened and she'd been found ill/dead we would have been told.
The family member who your concerned about is 130miles away. Many people commute more than that each way in a day? If your that concerned about their wellbeing, get off your lazy ass and go and check up on them yourself!!
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