Step child - how does this work?
Step child - how does this work?
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Ari

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19,826 posts

245 months

Friday 23rd March 2018
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Listening to the radio today, and someone was describing having two children with their wife, one 28 and one 15 (I think - I may have that slightly wrong).

But the part that piqued my interest was a step child who was 27 (I'm absolutely sure the step child was one year younger than the oldest).

Now unless one of the parents was an incredibly understanding spouse (no that's fine dear, I'm cool with you having a baby with someone else only a year after our first, and of course the child can live with us!), I can't see how that could happen.

I'm probably missing something really obvious (or I did completely mishear it, but I don't think I did), but it's been bugging me all day. How do you end up with a step child one year younger than your eldest child?

TwigtheWonderkid

49,129 posts

180 months

Friday 23rd March 2018
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Didn't Paul Young have a similar situation with his late wife Stacey? They split up, she had a kid with someone else, that didn't work out, and they got back together. If the couple are happy with it, it's no one else's business really.

LosingGrip

8,881 posts

189 months

Friday 23rd March 2018
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Ari said:
Listening to the radio today, and someone was describing having two children with their wife, one 28 and one 15 (I think - I may have that slightly wrong).

But the part that piqued my interest was a step child who was 27 (I'm absolutely sure the step child was one year younger than the oldest).

Now unless one of the parents was an incredibly understanding spouse (no that's fine dear, I'm cool with you having a baby with someone else only a year after our first, and of course the child can live with us!), I can't see how that could happen.

I'm probably missing something really obvious (or I did completely mishear it, but I don't think I did), but it's been bugging me all day. How do you end up with a step child one year younger than your eldest child?
My dad was with my step mum, my older half sister was born. Step mum kicked him out, he married my mum and I came along, my mum kicked him out and he went back to my step mum and had another daughter. So kinda similar but different ages to your post.

Second Best

6,534 posts

211 months

Friday 23rd March 2018
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The intricacies of family relationships always confuse me.

When I was younger I had a friend who had a nephew that was older than him. His mum had got married, had a kid, divorced, then many years later got remarried and had another kid. In the meantime, his brother (21 years older than him) had had a baby with his girlfriend. Think the nephew was two years older than him.

Took us a little while to work that out as kids.

WindyCommon

3,895 posts

269 months

Friday 23rd March 2018
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In my 8yr old son’s class there are two boys with the same father but different mothers. Ouch..!

PositronicRay

29,022 posts

213 months

Friday 23rd March 2018
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Some friends did this, she'd had an affair.
He was a bigger man than me, the baby was obviously a different colour.

Second Best

6,534 posts

211 months

Friday 23rd March 2018
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WindyCommon said:
In my 8yr old son’s class there are two boys with the same father but different mothers. Ouch..!
That's a bit more uncommon than two siblings with different fathers. Wow!

Evolved

4,079 posts

217 months

Friday 23rd March 2018
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PositronicRay said:
Some friends did this, she'd had an affair.
He was a bigger man than me, the baby was obviously a different colour.
‘Affair’ may have just been the story.

PurpleMoonlight

22,362 posts

187 months

Saturday 24th March 2018
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They weren't married when the first child was conceived (intentional or not) or maybe even been in a proper relationship.

Mother then has a further child with someone else (intentional or not).

They then do get together at a later date and have a second child together.

among all that, they get married.

So the guy as two children with his 'now' wife and one step-child.

33q

1,628 posts

153 months

Saturday 24th March 2018
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Man has child with different partner number to create age 28. Wife has child with A N Other to create child age 27. Years later they meet and create child aged 15.

That must happen quite a lot.