12 Year old switch
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Kids are funny....
Daughter went to comprehensive school in September. It seems someone has flicked a switch so she now spends all of her time in her room, rather than in the living room... This is apparently common.
I am at the stage where I am almost wanting her to spend some time downstairs, despite the mess that follows..
Is this a national trend?
Daughter went to comprehensive school in September. It seems someone has flicked a switch so she now spends all of her time in her room, rather than in the living room... This is apparently common.
I am at the stage where I am almost wanting her to spend some time downstairs, despite the mess that follows..
Is this a national trend?
Mine is going through the same thing, about to turn 13 in July. I've been relegated from lovely daddy to a constant embarrassment with anything I do or say!
Luckily I still get the odd moment when she just wants a cuddle and goes back to being the sweet girl she always was.
It's just part of growing up I guess and we were probably exactly the same!
Luckily I still get the odd moment when she just wants a cuddle and goes back to being the sweet girl she always was.
It's just part of growing up I guess and we were probably exactly the same!
Don’t let them have a computer in their room and arrange it so that the WiFi won’t reach their room. If they have no connectivity up there they won’t spend much time in their room. God forbid they actually have to read a book.
On the down side you’ll have to put up with the constant moaning that the WiFi won’t reach.
On the down side you’ll have to put up with the constant moaning that the WiFi won’t reach.
nute said:
Don’t let them have a computer in their room and arrange it so that the WiFi won’t reach their room. If they have no connectivity up there they won’t spend much time in their room. God forbid they actually have to read a book.
On the down side you’ll have to put up with the constant moaning that the WiFi won’t reach.
That would appear to be the answer. On the down side you’ll have to put up with the constant moaning that the WiFi won’t reach.
Worth bearing in mind too that once you lose them to the Internet you may never get them back. I know children in their mid twenties (ah, but that makes them adults you say! If only) still hiding in their bedrooms at their parents house permanently logged in.
Or buy decent IT gear.
Just bought 3 ubiquiti unifi waps for the house, under 200quid for the lot. Supposed to be for small businesses so i can now do proper access control for individual devices, (e.g access denial at night), see browsing histories etc. just me and the mrs here but could see how handy this would be for those with kids.
Just bought 3 ubiquiti unifi waps for the house, under 200quid for the lot. Supposed to be for small businesses so i can now do proper access control for individual devices, (e.g access denial at night), see browsing histories etc. just me and the mrs here but could see how handy this would be for those with kids.
shirt said:
Or buy decent IT gear.
Just bought 3 ubiquiti unifi waps for the house, under 200quid for the lot. Supposed to be for small businesses so i can now do proper access control for individual devices, (e.g access denial at night), see browsing histories etc. just me and the mrs here but could see how handy this would be for those with kids.
I get the impression you don't trust the missus! Just bought 3 ubiquiti unifi waps for the house, under 200quid for the lot. Supposed to be for small businesses so i can now do proper access control for individual devices, (e.g access denial at night), see browsing histories etc. just me and the mrs here but could see how handy this would be for those with kids.
Good call for all parents though.
JulianPH said:
I get the impression you don't trust the missus!
Good call for all parents though.
Lol. Other way round..... I dont speak russian so have little ability to snoop effectively even if i had the inclination. Good call for all parents though.
Bought it as it was cheaper than home a mesh system and far better all round. Does appear to be a well featured approach if you are actively trying to manage access and/or content.
My niece is 13 now, at 12 she went somewhat askew.
You need to have control over her internet, my brother and his family are now in a world of pain, confusion, torment.
In general there lives have gone to hell in a handcart due to their beautiful middle daughter.
This is probably an extreme case but you need to have a good idea what she is doing
You need to have control over her internet, my brother and his family are now in a world of pain, confusion, torment.
In general there lives have gone to hell in a handcart due to their beautiful middle daughter.
This is probably an extreme case but you need to have a good idea what she is doing
They will always find out the WiFi password or find a way around it, and will get online either at home or with friends. Trying to control it will, IMO, lead to bigger problems overall.
Mine turned 13 a couple of weeks ago. We've gone down the route of having a serious talk that there is s
t on the Web that he can't unsee, and regarding porn etc that it is all fake (let's not get in to the pretend-amateur stuff) and not in any way what to expect or how to behave in real life. Yeah he lives in his room but there are rules about food upstairs and other bits, and he does his football, drumming lessons, D&D online, I think he's gonna be a pretty normal, know-it-all, punchable teenager
Mine turned 13 a couple of weeks ago. We've gone down the route of having a serious talk that there is s
t on the Web that he can't unsee, and regarding porn etc that it is all fake (let's not get in to the pretend-amateur stuff) and not in any way what to expect or how to behave in real life. Yeah he lives in his room but there are rules about food upstairs and other bits, and he does his football, drumming lessons, D&D online, I think he's gonna be a pretty normal, know-it-all, punchable teenager 
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