Who Pays the food bills?
Who Pays the food bills?
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MontyC

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539 posts

198 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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I owned my home before my gf moved in two years ago, im in the fortunate situation to be mortgage free and was so before she moved in. We both earn about the same, and I have always paid all the household bills which only seems fair as technically its my house.
She has always paid for the food however last night she comes in and now wants us to now take turns paying for weekly food shop as well is this fair or taking the p**s as I pay for everything else?

Edited by MontyC on Wednesday 18th April 09:17

joestifff

890 posts

136 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Tell her to take turns paying the household bills?

Helical

190 posts

125 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Just get a joint account. Each put some money in every month. Take all bills etc out of that.

randlemarcus

13,646 posts

261 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Perfect opportunity to agree to half the food shopping, and whip out the Rent Book biggrin

paintman

7,860 posts

220 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Another that starts a thread & then gets cold feet & deletes it.
Or did he get caughtlaugh

sr.guiri

498 posts

119 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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My advice, would be to move out and rent the house out. Then either buy something jointly with her, or rent something with her. Keep your house as separate from your relationship as possible.

I'm not up to date on the situation with common-law partners but a friend of mine was in exactly the same position as you. He broke up with his partner after they had both lived together for many years in his house. As she had contributed to the house (and I'm not she if she was paying rent), in terms of up keep, household chores etc. etc. she was awarded a significant sum. And the real sad part was that he had to sell his Jensen Interceptor to pay her off. (not a deliberate attempt to turn this into a car related thread, but the truth).

Or get rid of her, and find one that's grateful for not having to pay rent or a mortgage.


TonyRPH

13,546 posts

198 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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We need a new PH rule.

The first person to respond should always quote the OP.

Always

MontyC

Original Poster:

539 posts

198 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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TonyRPH said:
We need a new PH rule.

The first person to respond should always quote the OP.

Always
Back I just thought it was in the wrong thread!

KingNothing

3,343 posts

183 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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How's it fair that you pay the bills? She not use any electricity, gas, or internet etc.?

I'd say to her, that you'll pay half the food bills each month, and she can pay half the household bills each month, if she doesn't agree, ditch her.

paintman

7,860 posts

220 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Ah. My apologiessmile

GrandAndrew

902 posts

180 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Are you eating an excessive amount of food? Is this her way of getting you to slim down?

If you think you're going to be with her 'forever' then I'd go down the joint account route with all bills, if you don't see it that way just break up. You both have a set amount coming in and you've both got to live in that relationship.

MontyC

Original Poster:

539 posts

198 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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GrandAndrew said:
Are you eating an excessive amount of food? Is this her way of getting you to slim down?

If you think you're going to be with her 'forever' then I'd go down the joint account route with all bills, if you don't see it that way just break up. You both have a set amount coming in and you've both got to live in that relationship.
laugh No not at all, and I mostly eat at work in the largely subsidised canteen, too be honest I don't really mind paying all other household bills as if we ever did ever split up, and im not sure im right in thinking this but food is seen as a necessity so can not be taken into the common law wife clause.

DoubleD

22,154 posts

138 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Have you reminded her that she is living rent and household bills free?

TwigtheWonderkid

49,125 posts

180 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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She needs to be paying you proper rent. With a rent book etc. All documented.

KingNothing

3,343 posts

183 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Common law marriage doesn't exist.

Terminator X

20,738 posts

234 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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TwigtheWonderkid said:
She needs to be paying you proper rent. With a rent book etc. All documented.
Have you ever met a female and do you think that conversation will end well?

TX.

hyphen

26,262 posts

120 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Doesn't sound like she is a keeper...

Is this your uh-oh moment? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8hcCthkvxn8

"ln every doomed relationship, there comes what l like to call the uh-oh moment.
When a certain IittIe something happens, and you know you've just witnessed the beginning of the end.
And suddenIy you stop and you think:
''Uh-oh, iceberg ahead.''


Edited by hyphen on Wednesday 18th April 09:50

Jim the Sunderer

3,261 posts

212 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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Depends if she's your age or 20 years younger.

Over over under steer

808 posts

153 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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KingNothing said:
Common law marriage doesn't exist.
This.

counterofbeans

1,092 posts

169 months

Wednesday 18th April 2018
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MontyC said:
I owned my home before my gf moved in two years ago, im in the fortunate situation to be mortgage free and was so before she moved in. We both earn about the same, and I have always paid all the household bills which only seems fair as technically its my house.
She has always paid for the food however last night she comes in and now wants us to now take turns paying for weekly food shop as well is this fair or taking the p**s as I pay for everything else?

Edited by MontyC on Wednesday 18th April 09:17
According to your garage you own two 911s, one a GT3, and you're worried about the food bills?

This gf may not be the one for you.... (if anyone is).