Friends with kids
Discussion
crofty1984 said:
Wish I had done now. Oh well. Guess I'll have another bugger about with the seating plan and budget.
yup, I think you don't have much choice unless you want to alienate those friends.(I am your side by the way! )
My pet peeve is that when I was growing up, everywhere seemed to be 'adults only' so places like pubs were these mysterious places were children only dreamed of getting in but the language was too blue and the smoke filled rooms obviously not good for the kids. But really grown ups just didn't want bloody kids running around.Dad would go for a few pints and the kids were left in the car with a bag of crisps and a coke,or if they were very lucky..in the beer garden.
Then it seems like right around the time i was old enough to finally get in, they all became family fun centres and you had to behave yourself because there were children running around..and then they banned smoking too so the adults had to go outside and the kids could stay inside!!
Grumble grumble..
Probably a combination of pubs wanting to make more money (so they became food/family orientated) and families wanting to go out more (to family orientated pubs).
I agree with OP to an extent. For me, it would depend on the age of the kids, how well behaved they were and whether they stopped you doing what you normally would've done if they weren't there. On the flip side, I suspect the dads who have to take their kids everywhere they go probably wouldn't be able to go out without them so at least you get to see your mate.
I agree with OP to an extent. For me, it would depend on the age of the kids, how well behaved they were and whether they stopped you doing what you normally would've done if they weren't there. On the flip side, I suspect the dads who have to take their kids everywhere they go probably wouldn't be able to go out without them so at least you get to see your mate.
1. Baby sitters are £10++ per hour
2. Arranging a baby sitter needs notice
3. Most working parents in reality see their kids a tiny amount of time Mon to Friday due to leaving early for work (potentially before they are awake) and evenings they are in bed 6:30pm ) so the only time to see them properly is on the weekend.
4. Kids come first way above “mates”
5. hookers and long nights out on the piss - not realistic when you have kids as they will wake you at 4am and be up and going not really doable if you’ve been to a lappy late
2. Arranging a baby sitter needs notice
3. Most working parents in reality see their kids a tiny amount of time Mon to Friday due to leaving early for work (potentially before they are awake) and evenings they are in bed 6:30pm ) so the only time to see them properly is on the weekend.
4. Kids come first way above “mates”
5. hookers and long nights out on the piss - not realistic when you have kids as they will wake you at 4am and be up and going not really doable if you’ve been to a lappy late
Welshbeef said:
1. Baby sitters are £10++ per hour
2. Arranging a baby sitter needs notice
3. Most working parents in reality see their kids a tiny amount of time Mon to Friday due to leaving early for work (potentially before they are awake) and evenings they are in bed 6:30pm ) so the only time to see them properly is on the weekend.
4. Kids come first way above “mates”
5. hookers and long nights out on the piss - not realistic when you have kids as they will wake you at 4am and be up and going not really doable if you’ve been to a lappy late
My post was more to do with the difference between our initial views of that "person x" now means "person x + child" as the immediate assumption. I totally appreciate they prefer their kids to me.2. Arranging a baby sitter needs notice
3. Most working parents in reality see their kids a tiny amount of time Mon to Friday due to leaving early for work (potentially before they are awake) and evenings they are in bed 6:30pm ) so the only time to see them properly is on the weekend.
4. Kids come first way above “mates”
5. hookers and long nights out on the piss - not realistic when you have kids as they will wake you at 4am and be up and going not really doable if you’ve been to a lappy late
Then it turned into a rant about my wedding.
Edited by crofty1984 on Saturday 7th July 09:38
Welshbeef said:
1. Baby sitters are £10++ per hour
2. Arranging a baby sitter needs notice
3. Most working parents in reality see their kids a tiny amount of time Mon to Friday due to leaving early for work (potentially before they are awake) and evenings they are in bed 6:30pm ) so the only time to see them properly is on the weekend.
4. Kids come first way above “mates”
5. hookers and long nights out on the piss - not realistic when you have kids as they will wake you at 4am and be up and going not really doable if you’ve been to a lappy late
This sums it up really. When you have kids you give your lives over to them for about 20 years. Accept this and move on.2. Arranging a baby sitter needs notice
3. Most working parents in reality see their kids a tiny amount of time Mon to Friday due to leaving early for work (potentially before they are awake) and evenings they are in bed 6:30pm ) so the only time to see them properly is on the weekend.
4. Kids come first way above “mates”
5. hookers and long nights out on the piss - not realistic when you have kids as they will wake you at 4am and be up and going not really doable if you’ve been to a lappy late
snotrag said:
Inviting people to a wedding and expecting them not to bring their children is outrageous, IMO. The whole point of weddings is 'family' isn't it!?
Not really. We are getting married next year and are specifically not allowing people to bring their kids. When we are spending money on people being there we want them to be able to enjoy the party without leaving at 9pm because their child has to be in bed. The only kids coming are ours, and four cousins. They will go home with child minders. I think it’s perfectly reasonable.
Lucas CAV said:
snotrag said:
Inviting people to a wedding and expecting them not to bring their children is outrageous, IMO. The whole point of weddings is 'family' isn't it!?
This.All of my friends are glad for a weekend away without them.
Lucas CAV said:
snotrag said:
Inviting people to a wedding and expecting them not to bring their children is outrageous, IMO. The whole point of weddings is 'family' isn't it!?
This.It's the same as saying no elderly relatives really. It's all part of family and makes a wedding what they should be. Children and the elderly often bring the same issues to weddings too, moaning, wetting themselves, sliding around on the dance floor injuring themselves, etc.
ETA: I have young kids and it is difficult to go out without them especially as a couple, it needs planning more than you'd think.
Our wedding invitations stated ‘adults only’, and we were very glad it did. Not that I have anything against my friends’ children, but not having them around made for a great evening bash which went well into the night.
I wouldn’t have begrudged anyone for being unable to come on the grounds of child ownership, however, that didn’t happen. I suspect that secretly, most of them looked forward to a smart evening event with friends, without loads of kids running around.
I wouldn’t have begrudged anyone for being unable to come on the grounds of child ownership, however, that didn’t happen. I suspect that secretly, most of them looked forward to a smart evening event with friends, without loads of kids running around.
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