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So what is the general behaviour these days?
We got married back in her home country where weddings are big (our 200 person wedding was "small") and a f*Ctonne more expensive than the average wedding here is nearly 20 years on.
We had a wedding list, of the few things we hadn't got for home, via I think John Lewis.
However, we knew back at her home, form was to stick some money in an envelope - the general rule was to cover the cost of the meal and as everyone back from the home place knew roughly what each venue cost.So you sort of planned your wedding around what you knew your friends family could give / afford and went on from there.
So hungover, two days after the wedding I was there wondering what customs would say if they found the £xx,000 in various forms of Sterling from all parts of the UK and Euros I had upon me. Even more sh**ing it going to the bank in my home town I don't think I'd ever had even a twentieth of that cash on my person.
What in Gods mind happened though with all the friends from England that came over for the wedding. Now between the church and the reception 30 miles away, there is a minor famous pottery that make china plates. So how come almost everyone from England ignored the John Lewis list, and I can only presume after the ceremony in the chapel thought "Oh, look a pottery, lets get them some tableware, you know, cause sticking £50 in an envelope is so crass". The irony being, my wife, living in the home country, coming from a frugal nation, built up a 12 piece dinner set bit by bit over the years from said pottery by buying bits here and there with her birthdays and Christmases. So we ended up with a great night, everyone saying it was one of the best weddings they'd been to (English people don't seems to have ever experienced a "Celtic Mummer wedding at 10pm in the reception"), help on the balance for paying for the reception part of the do and a 27 1/2 piece dinner set.
But no toaster. (We did get a Breville Sandwich maker, which I have just checked, it is still happily in it's box with the moulding veneer of having being used just once in 2003).
We got married back in her home country where weddings are big (our 200 person wedding was "small") and a f*Ctonne more expensive than the average wedding here is nearly 20 years on.
We had a wedding list, of the few things we hadn't got for home, via I think John Lewis.
However, we knew back at her home, form was to stick some money in an envelope - the general rule was to cover the cost of the meal and as everyone back from the home place knew roughly what each venue cost.So you sort of planned your wedding around what you knew your friends family could give / afford and went on from there.
So hungover, two days after the wedding I was there wondering what customs would say if they found the £xx,000 in various forms of Sterling from all parts of the UK and Euros I had upon me. Even more sh**ing it going to the bank in my home town I don't think I'd ever had even a twentieth of that cash on my person.
What in Gods mind happened though with all the friends from England that came over for the wedding. Now between the church and the reception 30 miles away, there is a minor famous pottery that make china plates. So how come almost everyone from England ignored the John Lewis list, and I can only presume after the ceremony in the chapel thought "Oh, look a pottery, lets get them some tableware, you know, cause sticking £50 in an envelope is so crass". The irony being, my wife, living in the home country, coming from a frugal nation, built up a 12 piece dinner set bit by bit over the years from said pottery by buying bits here and there with her birthdays and Christmases. So we ended up with a great night, everyone saying it was one of the best weddings they'd been to (English people don't seems to have ever experienced a "Celtic Mummer wedding at 10pm in the reception"), help on the balance for paying for the reception part of the do and a 27 1/2 piece dinner set.
But no toaster. (We did get a Breville Sandwich maker, which I have just checked, it is still happily in it's box with the moulding veneer of having being used just once in 2003).
Edited by StanleyT on Saturday 7th July 17:15
The Sun I think.
At least today's wedding was a 12 o'clock one though suits in the weather for photos after, for two hours outside the chapel in every form of people connectedness was a bit piss poor.."Now can we have all the people who just sloped off under that tree to watch the England build up on their Iphones back again for a photo in the full glare of the sun against the chapel, please...."..........not again if I can help it.
And then I came home after with the kids as this was a "no kids" wedding reception. Which was good, as I could watch the match, bought a minor present off the present list (A Foreman grill, 2010s equivalent of the Breville?) and would, had it not been for excess unexpected sun exposure earlier in the day started on a skinful. Instead I feel early heat signs and that dodgy tummy feeling when you get a bit dehydrated.........need a cold room.
At least today's wedding was a 12 o'clock one though suits in the weather for photos after, for two hours outside the chapel in every form of people connectedness was a bit piss poor.."Now can we have all the people who just sloped off under that tree to watch the England build up on their Iphones back again for a photo in the full glare of the sun against the chapel, please...."..........not again if I can help it.
And then I came home after with the kids as this was a "no kids" wedding reception. Which was good, as I could watch the match, bought a minor present off the present list (A Foreman grill, 2010s equivalent of the Breville?) and would, had it not been for excess unexpected sun exposure earlier in the day started on a skinful. Instead I feel early heat signs and that dodgy tummy feeling when you get a bit dehydrated.........need a cold room.
I bought for my friends wedding a travel map here https://www.1dea.me/ they were always dreaming about. You know that one where you can mark the places you`ve already been to and the one you are only planning to visit. My friends began to scratch on it during their honeymoon.
We're getting married in September and don't have a wedding gift list. We've got two (both had our own homes when we met) or three (bought a house off a family emigrating and they left stuff behind) of most household things.
We've suggested donations towards our honeymoon but that's already paid for. I know some of our parents' friends are giving us JL vouchers.
We're not fussy. We've invited people we're happy to pay for our of our own pocket. If they want to contribute something to make our honeymoon that bit more special, say a flight upgrade or nice meals when we're there, it's gratefully received.
We've suggested donations towards our honeymoon but that's already paid for. I know some of our parents' friends are giving us JL vouchers.
We're not fussy. We've invited people we're happy to pay for our of our own pocket. If they want to contribute something to make our honeymoon that bit more special, say a flight upgrade or nice meals when we're there, it's gratefully received.
Mark83 said:
We're getting married in September and don't have a wedding gift list. We've got two (both had our own homes when we met) or three (bought a house off a family emigrating and they left stuff behind) of most household things.
We've suggested donations towards our honeymoon but that's already paid for. I know some of our parents' friends are giving us JL vouchers.
We're not fussy. We've invited people we're happy to pay for our of our own pocket. If they want to contribute something to make our honeymoon that bit more special, say a flight upgrade or nice meals when we're there, it's gratefully received.
I am currently planning my wedding for next September and I am in the same thoughts. We have our own houses (rent one out, live in the other) we have everything we need but are looking to buy a camper to travel Europe so if we get any contributions towards that great, if not then so be it. We just want close family and friends to share our special day we and we are happy to pay for these people.We've suggested donations towards our honeymoon but that's already paid for. I know some of our parents' friends are giving us JL vouchers.
We're not fussy. We've invited people we're happy to pay for our of our own pocket. If they want to contribute something to make our honeymoon that bit more special, say a flight upgrade or nice meals when we're there, it's gratefully received.
Getting married next month. We just asked for cash or vouchers as our house is fully furnished. My parents said they got married before they had a house and things so it makes sense now but mostly people marry older and are already set. Not really bothered if people don't bring anything at all tbh.
This thread was just a not so subtle way for OP to brag that he got over 10 grand in gifts though lol.
This thread was just a not so subtle way for OP to brag that he got over 10 grand in gifts though lol.
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ker here. I'll give a wedding card but never a gift. Between the stag and the wedding it's normally cost me between £400 and £1000 to be there (depending on whether they've decided to marry a Brit or not) and they can all afford it, so I'd rather send them a written expression of my good wishes than spend another £50 buying them a toaster they could very well go and buy for themselves.
ker here. I'll give a wedding card but never a gift. Between the stag and the wedding it's normally cost me between £400 and £1000 to be there (depending on whether they've decided to marry a Brit or not) and they can all afford it, so I'd rather send them a written expression of my good wishes than spend another £50 buying them a toaster they could very well go and buy for themselves.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff