Am I broken? Don't get genuinely excited at anything
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Just got me thinking while watching the football today. I genuinely wanted England to win the WC but obviously not going to happen now. However while watching the match, it occurred to me that I wasn't really getting that excited about it, or indeed, nor do I about most things. I look forward to things, obviously, but I don't get consumed by excitement. I do get a bit more pumped up when in a crowd, I guess.
Maybe I was a bit more excitable when younger, but now, not really at all. My OH doesn't even like football but she was on the edge of her seat, whereas I'm calmly watching it, enjoying it, but not getting stressed in any way. I find this quite often. Other people find comedy funnier than me, get more excited about events, countless examples really. I still really look forward to them but I find it difficult to get overtly animated about it.
Maybe I am a bit dead inside, surely there are others like me???
Maybe I was a bit more excitable when younger, but now, not really at all. My OH doesn't even like football but she was on the edge of her seat, whereas I'm calmly watching it, enjoying it, but not getting stressed in any way. I find this quite often. Other people find comedy funnier than me, get more excited about events, countless examples really. I still really look forward to them but I find it difficult to get overtly animated about it.
Maybe I am a bit dead inside, surely there are others like me???
TameRacingDriver said:
Just got me thinking while watching the football today. I genuinely wanted England to win the WC but obviously not going to happen now. However while watching the match, it occurred to me that I wasn't really getting that excited about it, or indeed, nor do I about most things. I look forward to things, obviously, but I don't get consumed by excitement. I do get a bit more pumped up when in a crowd, I guess.
Maybe I was a bit more excitable when younger, but now, not really at all. My OH doesn't even like football but she was on the edge of her seat, whereas I'm calmly watching it, enjoying it, but not getting stressed in any way. I find this quite often. Other people find comedy funnier than me, get more excited about events, countless examples really. I still really look forward to them but I find it difficult to get overtly animated about it.
Maybe I am a bit dead inside, surely there are others like me???
I'm exactly the same, it's called getting old.Maybe I was a bit more excitable when younger, but now, not really at all. My OH doesn't even like football but she was on the edge of her seat, whereas I'm calmly watching it, enjoying it, but not getting stressed in any way. I find this quite often. Other people find comedy funnier than me, get more excited about events, countless examples really. I still really look forward to them but I find it difficult to get overtly animated about it.
Maybe I am a bit dead inside, surely there are others like me???
tted a seagul this morning. picked it up and it carked it before i could do anything other than sit it in the back of the van, ended up in tears over that 
still feel crap finlo said:
I'm exactly the same, it's called getting old.
Hmm you could be right, but my OH was getting more excited by the football, which she usually doesn't like, than me, despite being a few years older!glazbagun said:
I'm like that until you put beer in me. The change takea some people by surprise and people who first meet me drunk are equally bemused when this fairly placid dude shows up in his place when we next meet.
I'm still capable of some disgraceful behaviour too when i want, that even shocks younguns! I was on a stag in amsterdam, my mates cousin, younger than us, and they were a bit surprised how we 'oldies' went on lolEdited by TameRacingDriver on Wednesday 11th July 22:55
I don't know that it's age related, I'm 21 and I can relate to all of you, very rarely get upset, excited or any sort of strong emotion really. I'm very quiet in day to day life and at work although I liven up a bit when I'm doing something I enjoy, normally car related. I think some people are just very laid back and level. The downside to that is when it goes wrong it's world war 3, fortunately that's rare.
xx99xx said:
Me too.
No major highs but no major lows either. Being calm in a crisis is a good trait to have. I am very laid back so have a pretty low stress life.
Same here.... don't get overly excited about stuff, but also don't flap in a crisis. No major highs but no major lows either. Being calm in a crisis is a good trait to have. I am very laid back so have a pretty low stress life.
I feel happier for not being overly emotional...but I can come across as cold.
I'm similar, don't get too excited by most things and don't get too down about most things, certainly in comparison to my family and friends etc, the only thing I find weird about myself is I really struggle to lol as they say or laugh out loud at most things, if I find something genuinely funny I will lol, but that is a rare occasion, even when I find things quite funny to me I can manage no more than a smirk, which often makes me feel uncomfortable as people around me will be in hysterics. I have a good sense of humour (obviously in my opinion) but I feel really uncomfortable telling jokes etc especially in larger groups, but in a small group with people I know well, I wouldn't say I'm the life and soul of the party but I probably come across quite well, I suppose everyone is different. I could go on but I won't.
I'm pretty calm, and prefer reasoned discussion to flights of emotional excess.
My Dad passed away in 2015 (diagnosed with stomach cancer in September; passed on four weeks (!!) later). Of course, I wept but in private. Not on the news of his passing, nor at his funeral, though. I swear my wife grieved more, but I had more quality memories to fall back on I suppose. It was only when, some days later, I played "Mr Blue Sky" by ELO that grief washed over me.
Which brings me to music.
I've been playing guitar for about 30-odd years, and I always get excited learning a new tune. "Dream a Little Dream of Me" was a good one, but I wept openly and copiously when I learned this and played along to it:-
All We Do
My Dad passed away in 2015 (diagnosed with stomach cancer in September; passed on four weeks (!!) later). Of course, I wept but in private. Not on the news of his passing, nor at his funeral, though. I swear my wife grieved more, but I had more quality memories to fall back on I suppose. It was only when, some days later, I played "Mr Blue Sky" by ELO that grief washed over me.
Which brings me to music.
I've been playing guitar for about 30-odd years, and I always get excited learning a new tune. "Dream a Little Dream of Me" was a good one, but I wept openly and copiously when I learned this and played along to it:-
All We Do
I can relate to the laughing thing but I've never really been bothered by it. I could be watching the funniest thing in the world but still not feel the need to even smile or laugh but inside I'm finding it funny and enjoying it.
Emotions in general are probably suppressed in a lot of men. That's not necessarily a bad thing although it is a constant source of arguments between me and (highly strung/emotional) partner.
An interesting test I tried recently (in the evening) is to try and describe the emotions you went through earlier in your day. I couldn't do it, because I'm not an emotional person so find it hard to recognise emotions. My partner thinks there is something seriously wrong with me for not being able to do that little test.
For me as well, I think being laid back and 'emotionally resilient' I don't let things bother me that would bother an emotional personal and trigger an emotional response. E.g. if I'm stuck in traffic, I'll just sit there quite happy, maybe a bit bored but not angry or annoyed.
Emotions in general are probably suppressed in a lot of men. That's not necessarily a bad thing although it is a constant source of arguments between me and (highly strung/emotional) partner.
An interesting test I tried recently (in the evening) is to try and describe the emotions you went through earlier in your day. I couldn't do it, because I'm not an emotional person so find it hard to recognise emotions. My partner thinks there is something seriously wrong with me for not being able to do that little test.
For me as well, I think being laid back and 'emotionally resilient' I don't let things bother me that would bother an emotional personal and trigger an emotional response. E.g. if I'm stuck in traffic, I'll just sit there quite happy, maybe a bit bored but not angry or annoyed.
Other people laugh like mad at some things on TV, I can see that some TV bits are funny but not laugh out loud funny.
And yet I could weep at certain things on TV, even stuff like Car SOS, or flashmob clips.
Some people think that collecting things, especially from childhood, is an attempt to put us back in touch with things that make us happy.
At the start of this thread, I thought we would be talking about depression, perhaps its just getting old.
And yet I could weep at certain things on TV, even stuff like Car SOS, or flashmob clips.
Some people think that collecting things, especially from childhood, is an attempt to put us back in touch with things that make us happy.
At the start of this thread, I thought we would be talking about depression, perhaps its just getting old.
Edited by Robbo 27 on Thursday 12th July 07:13
glazbagun said:
I'm like that until you put beer in me. The change takea some people by surprise and people who first meet me drunk are equally bemused when this fairly placid dude shows up in his place when we next meet.
This is me too. I am a very quiet person, until I have a drink. Takes many people by surprise!I do talk to people, make polite conversation etc, but can't get excited about much. I wouldn't say I was miserable, as I am genuinely happy and have a lovely life.
Certainly don't get excited about the football!
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