Long distance relationship

[toastybase]

The initial message was deleted from this topic on 12 August 2018 at 08:37

[johnwilliams77]

toastybase said:

I’ll keep it brief but just need some suggestions from anyone who’s experienced similar.

I’ve met a female 3 weeks ago and I’ve fallen head over heels.

She was only over in the uk Until November however that’s been cut short as she’s been offered a dream job she’s now going abroad to work in the next couple of weeks.

I’ve already told her that I really like her a lot and I’d love to visit her out there once she’s settled, she agrees I think.

But there’s going to be about 6 months where we don’t see each other. I’ve never been in this situation.

I’m not sure what to say when I drop her off at the airport, how to continue contact etc..

She’s a free spirit and love to travel so I’m happy for her.

We’ve spent as much time as we can together knowing she’s going soon.

What do you want suggestions for? What to say to her at the airport?

[PositronicRay]

It's going to be tough and may or may not work.

[johnwilliams77]

PositronicRay said:

It's going to be tough and may or may not work.

Tough?!!? He only met her 3 weeks ago!

[Pericoloso]

You haven't said how far away she's going to be.
Presumably too far to pop over for a weekend ?

[anonymous-user]

Assuming she feels the same way, she''ll need to stay or more likely, you'll need to follow her. Whatever you do, don't let the right one get away,

[snake_oil]

3 weeks? Free spirit? Off around the world?

She'll be banging the st out of Pablo within the month. Move on son. Move on.

[ST_Nuts]

Bang her as many times as you can, once she's gone you won't see her again.

[Wobbegong]

Just sy you’ve enjoyed your time together and you hope you’ll be able to go and visit her. If she can’t be arsed to contact you once she goes, you know how she feels.

As for long distance relationships, they do and can work, however most develop over a period of more than 3 weeks.

[Condi]

ST_Nuts said:

Bang her as many times as you can, once she's gone you won't see her again.

Basically this, although I dont agree that you'll never see her again.

You might take a visit to her new place once or twice if she feels the same, and she'll presumably come home once in a while, but if you honestly think neither of you are going to meet other people then you're very naive.

Free spirited travellers often have little difficulty finding friends in different parts of the world. If they did, they wouldn't be as comfortable jetting off somewhere new.

[longshot]

wormus said:

Assuming she feels the same way, she''ll need to stay or more likely, you'll need to follow her. Whatever you do, don't let the right one get away

I lost my 'the one' a couple of months ago after being together for 2 years due to circumstances so incredibly complicated, I'd need an hour to type it all up and the emotional pain I am going through right now is indescribable and unbearable.
Heartbroken and devastated don't come close.

If you believe she is the one for you do whatever it takes to stay together.

I've learned that no sacrifice is too great.

Edited by longshot on Saturday 11th August 20:09

[creampuff]

Yeah, 3 weeks is enough to know. Just make sure it is mutual.

[Hoink]

ST_Nuts said:

Bang her as many times as you can, once she's gone you won't see her again.

This.

[vonuber]

Just make sure you take and keep as many videos and pictures as possible for the future memory wk bank.

[Japveesix]

Just tell her you love her and say you'd like to move over with her and get a flat and a dog together. Hold her hand tightly and don't let it go even when she's going to miss her flight. Cry a bit. Drop to your knees and beg her to stay with you or you 'don't know what you might do'...

[Prizam]

snake_oil said:

3 weeks? Free spirit? Off around the world?

She'll be banging the st out of Pablo within the month. Move on son. Move on.

Aye, this. unfortunately.

[Robertj21a]

I'm sorry to say it but if she truly felt the same way then she wouldn't be going after this 'dream job'.

Just 3 weeks is still in very much the early 'novelty' stage, not the 'lifetime' stage.

[FN2TypeR]

I'm sure that it was great whilst it lasted but I suggest that you move on; sorry to say.

[anonymous-user]

Is she coming back to the UK, is she from the UK? I wasn’t sure from your post?

Either way, It’s going to be awful for about 3 months then you’ll get over her. perhaps you’ll get together in the future, perhaps you’ll meet someone else.

Good luck with it all.

[creampuff]

Robertj21a said:

I'm sorry to say it but if she truly felt the same way then she wouldn't be going after this 'dream job'.

Just 3 weeks is still in very much the early 'novelty' stage, not the 'lifetime' stage.

Dunno about that. I met a girl when I was working in Beijing. Didn't know her that long. Shortly after we met, she took a job overseas.

That was 14 years ago. I'm watching one of our two kids play the piano now.