New wife retaining her maiden name.
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I'm getting married next year, and was discussing the fact in work recently. One colleague asked if my wife to be will be taking my surname. I'd never even considered it to be honest, but in thinking about it, I have 2 not particularly close friends, that have married and their wives have kept their maiden name. I'm may be being old fashioned in my thinking, but wouldn't expect it to be any other way, than my 'wife' taking my surname.
Have any of you guys out there been in a similar situation, having your new wife keep her maiden name, and if so, was there a good reason other than 'I don't want to!'?? I'll need to speak to the wife to be about it................
Have any of you guys out there been in a similar situation, having your new wife keep her maiden name, and if so, was there a good reason other than 'I don't want to!'?? I'll need to speak to the wife to be about it................
I got married last year, and similar to you the discussion came up in work "Will she take your name?"
Someone piped up in the office that taking the husbands surname is an old tradition, to which I replied "So is getting married."
My wife did take my name btw. I know of quite a few couples where the wife has retained her maiden name, or made some double barreled version. I even know of a couple where the husband took his wife's surname.
Each to their own.
Someone piped up in the office that taking the husbands surname is an old tradition, to which I replied "So is getting married."
My wife did take my name btw. I know of quite a few couples where the wife has retained her maiden name, or made some double barreled version. I even know of a couple where the husband took his wife's surname.
Each to their own.
ellroy said:
Pal of mine, his wife is a barrister and kept her name for professional reasons.
I'd imagine there are some other professions where this also may be common, acting for example?
Wife is a GP, she kept her maiden name for work purposes.I'd imagine there are some other professions where this also may be common, acting for example?
She took my surname officially otherwise (passport etc).
I find the above is quite common with doctors who get married.
ellroy said:
Pal of mine, his wife is a barrister and kept her name for professional reasons.
I'd imagine there are some other professions where this also may be common, acting for example?
Scientists as well. Friend’s wife kept hers as she had quite a lot of papers published.I'd imagine there are some other professions where this also may be common, acting for example?
I’m not married but wouldn’t be bothered if future wife wanted to retain her maiden name. I would be bothered if she wanted to double-barrel it as that is one of my pet hates.
My wife took my name, I didn't have to "ask" her to do it, she agreed to it, was happy to do it etc.
I know other couples who as above, have chosen to retain separate names - often for professional reasons, one friend has had a lot of research published under her maiden name and wants to keep if for that reason, but has double barreled her name for personal use etc
We also know one couple who, through variously sad circumstances had no close family on either side, so when they got married they created their own new surname as a portmanteau of bits of their old surnames which still worked - they didn't come out as "Smones" or "Jith" but are now Mr & Mrs Weatherfield - formerly Mr Fielding and Miss Weatherby. I quite like that.
I know other couples who as above, have chosen to retain separate names - often for professional reasons, one friend has had a lot of research published under her maiden name and wants to keep if for that reason, but has double barreled her name for personal use etc
We also know one couple who, through variously sad circumstances had no close family on either side, so when they got married they created their own new surname as a portmanteau of bits of their old surnames which still worked - they didn't come out as "Smones" or "Jith" but are now Mr & Mrs Weatherfield - formerly Mr Fielding and Miss Weatherby. I quite like that.
I got married in June and my wife kept her maiden name, she asked me if I’d mind. I wasn’t remotely fussed. Her name is quite uncommon and mine one of the most common so it’s nice for her to keep it. I certainly don’t understand why anyone would take offence to their wife wanting to keep their name.
djc206 said:
I got married in June and my wife kept her maiden name, she asked me if I’d mind. I wasn’t remotely fussed. Her name is quite uncommon and mine one of the most common so it’s nice for her to keep it. I certainly don’t understand why anyone would take offence to their wife wanting to keep their name.
Out of interest, if you were to have children, which surname would they take?devnull said:
My wife insisted she took mine - I didn't mind either way - in fact I still call her by her old surname!!
I also have friends who quite literally made up their marital surname and both adopted it - pissed off both sets of parents in the process
As in a whole new surname with no commonality to the old ones? I like the idea of that although it would be too tempting to go with something like Skywalker or RockerfellerI also have friends who quite literally made up their marital surname and both adopted it - pissed off both sets of parents in the process
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