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Wasn’t sure whether to put this in the lounge or here but it’s almost more of a mental health question.
I kind of feel as though I’ve been coasting for as long as I can remember and never really putting 100% into anything. I did ok at school but more through luck than anything else, I got a good degree but coursework was always last minute and I always crammed for exams rather than really knowing it in depth. I have a reasonable job but it bores me and I do enough to get by rather than really applying myself. I’ve done some sporting events, marathon and ridden a century but I missed training runs/rides and know I could have done better.
Does anyone/everyone else do this as well? Has anyone changed and now lives life totally differently (if so, what prompted the change?). Does anyone live completely differently and applies themselves 100%, what it that like?!
I’d love to enter an event or something and really apply myself to see the difference in results, I’m just struggling to think of anything I care that much about!
I kind of feel as though I’ve been coasting for as long as I can remember and never really putting 100% into anything. I did ok at school but more through luck than anything else, I got a good degree but coursework was always last minute and I always crammed for exams rather than really knowing it in depth. I have a reasonable job but it bores me and I do enough to get by rather than really applying myself. I’ve done some sporting events, marathon and ridden a century but I missed training runs/rides and know I could have done better.
Does anyone/everyone else do this as well? Has anyone changed and now lives life totally differently (if so, what prompted the change?). Does anyone live completely differently and applies themselves 100%, what it that like?!
I’d love to enter an event or something and really apply myself to see the difference in results, I’m just struggling to think of anything I care that much about!
In for the replies.
I've been feeling like this for as long as I can remember. I wonder what I could achieve if I really applied myself. I'm in a very similar boat to you by the sounds of it, I do ok, did well at school/college with out any real effort, half decent job (but bores me).
I'm feeling particularly reflective this morning, and decided to work towards my Masters from the OU.
I think the truth is probably that no one can force you to get off your arse and apply yourself.....apart from yourself.
I've been feeling like this for as long as I can remember. I wonder what I could achieve if I really applied myself. I'm in a very similar boat to you by the sounds of it, I do ok, did well at school/college with out any real effort, half decent job (but bores me).
I'm feeling particularly reflective this morning, and decided to work towards my Masters from the OU.
I think the truth is probably that no one can force you to get off your arse and apply yourself.....apart from yourself.
Well, firstly, you need to acknowledge your achievements. Running a marathon is no mean feat even if you came last!
As for the rest of your life, try different things, try a new job, take a risk. You won't know if you could achieve anything great unless you're willing to try different things. Maybe do some voluntary work with a local charity either to inspire you into thinking about how you can positively impact your community or at least give you a sense of purpose.
As for the rest of your life, try different things, try a new job, take a risk. You won't know if you could achieve anything great unless you're willing to try different things. Maybe do some voluntary work with a local charity either to inspire you into thinking about how you can positively impact your community or at least give you a sense of purpose.
jamest1988 said:
Wasn’t sure whether to put this in the lounge or here but it’s almost more of a mental health question.
I kind of feel as though I’ve been coasting for as long as I can remember and never really putting 100% into anything. I did ok at school but more through luck than anything else, I got a good degree but coursework was always last minute and I always crammed for exams rather than really knowing it in depth. I have a reasonable job but it bores me and I do enough to get by rather than really applying myself. I’ve done some sporting events, marathon and ridden a century but I missed training runs/rides and know I could have done better.
Does anyone/everyone else do this as well? Has anyone changed and now lives life totally differently (if so, what prompted the change?). Does anyone live completely differently and applies themselves 100%, what it that like?!
I’d love to enter an event or something and really apply myself to see the difference in results, I’m just struggling to think of anything I care that much about!
That could literally have been written word for word about me! Interested in the replies.I kind of feel as though I’ve been coasting for as long as I can remember and never really putting 100% into anything. I did ok at school but more through luck than anything else, I got a good degree but coursework was always last minute and I always crammed for exams rather than really knowing it in depth. I have a reasonable job but it bores me and I do enough to get by rather than really applying myself. I’ve done some sporting events, marathon and ridden a century but I missed training runs/rides and know I could have done better.
Does anyone/everyone else do this as well? Has anyone changed and now lives life totally differently (if so, what prompted the change?). Does anyone live completely differently and applies themselves 100%, what it that like?!
I’d love to enter an event or something and really apply myself to see the difference in results, I’m just struggling to think of anything I care that much about!
Gary29 said:
In for the replies.
I've been feeling like this for as long as I can remember..
I've been feeling like this for as long as I can remember..
WolfieBot said:
That could literally have been written word for word about me! Interested in the replies.
Well, I suppose at least its not just me! I'm not entirely sure coasting is such a bad thing, its just that I'm not comfortable with it. Plenty of old boys where I work are quite happy to cruise for the next 5-10 years but its not a decision i want to consciously make.
As an interesting contrast, Eddie Hall is the same age as I am and won worlds strongest man last year. I read his autobiography recently, the guy sacrificed time with his family, holidays and even his health for the one goal he was aiming for. I personally think that is too far the other way, I just need to find a happy medium.
I think most people just try to make their life a pleasant journey, not a comparative race which they are driven to win.
I do have a friend who tries to squeeze every last drop out of life. He’s in his mid-40s, with more achievements and life experience than most twice his age. But I don’t he’s happier than most people I know.
I guess if you are surrounded by over achievers, then ‘coasting’ could feel like failure. But if you’re enjoying your life, then you must be doing something right.
I do have a friend who tries to squeeze every last drop out of life. He’s in his mid-40s, with more achievements and life experience than most twice his age. But I don’t he’s happier than most people I know.
I guess if you are surrounded by over achievers, then ‘coasting’ could feel like failure. But if you’re enjoying your life, then you must be doing something right.
SpudLink said:
I think most people just try to make their life a pleasant journey, not a comparative race which they are driven to win.
I do have a friend who tries to squeeze every last drop out of life. He’s in his mid-40s, with more achievements and life experience than most twice his age. But I don’t he’s happier than most people I know.
I guess if you are surrounded by over achievers, then ‘coasting’ could feel like failure. But if you’re enjoying your life, then you must be doing something right.
Sounds like we have the same friend. I genuinely don't no how it does it, his life is booked 12 months in advance - every weekend will be crammed full of "events". Definitely not happier than those of us who'll happily spend the weekend tidying the garden or watching movies with the kids on the couch. Doing stuff doesn't always equal happiness.I do have a friend who tries to squeeze every last drop out of life. He’s in his mid-40s, with more achievements and life experience than most twice his age. But I don’t he’s happier than most people I know.
I guess if you are surrounded by over achievers, then ‘coasting’ could feel like failure. But if you’re enjoying your life, then you must be doing something right.
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