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rolex said:
watched a parent dieing? is it the most awful thing to watch in real life?
If you have just been through this, I am sorry for your loss 
But no, I would think watching your child die would be worse.
My parents are now in their 70's and my mother is ten yrs older than her parents ever made it too, but I just can't accept that she is at that age where she could die and nobody would be surprised..
Its truly devastating, especially if they die far to young.. my dad died 8 years ago aged 57. He was in hospital with myself and 2 sisters sitting on the bed next to him, trying to keep his O2 mask on when all of a sudden...he went quiet. My initial thought was thank God hes got his breathing under control...until literally seconds later when both my sisters screamed. Then i realized. My younger sister (by 18 months) collapsed. I felt at that precise time was to be big brother and be their immediately for them. Once i had time myself.....i kissed my dad on his forehead, said goodbye, and had to walk away to a quiet part of the hospital to be alone...and cry. It still hurts every bit as much today as it did in 2010.
I have to agree with thr above poster though. I have 2 children, daughter 21 and a son 18..... to lose them, i would lose myself.
I have to agree with thr above poster though. I have 2 children, daughter 21 and a son 18..... to lose them, i would lose myself.
rolex said:
watched a parent dieing? is it the most awful thing to watch in real life?
At 9, I watched whilst on holiday, my dad break his neck, not there as it was about 1/2 a mile away in the sea, but the ensuring results of his tragic accident, as he brought to shore then the hospital, i wouldn't want anyone to go through it. Some say it can make or break you but life for a small percentage isn't always easy, the rest are lucky.pidsy said:
Dad died in front of me on mount snowdon. He was 42.
I was 11.
Was it just the two of you or were you with others? That must have been awful for you. I'm sorry for your loss.I was 11.
Thesprucegoose said:
At 9, I watched whilst on holiday, my dad break his neck, not there as it was about 1/2 a mile away in the sea, but the ensuring results of his tragic accident, as he brought to shore then the hospital, i wouldn't want anyone to go through it. Some say it can make or break you but life for a small percentage isn't always easy, the rest are lucky.
Holy crap. did he survive?Coolbanana said:
Watching your Mom die from a self-inflicted bullet-wound to the head is pretty horrifying; especially as a teenager. Time heals, however.
Still, as others have said, watching your own child - or any child for that matter - die would be a terrible experience.
Wow. That's fStill, as others have said, watching your own child - or any child for that matter - die would be a terrible experience.
king awful. How do you recover from that?pidsy said:
Dad died in front of me on mount snowdon. He was 42.
I was 11.
I was 28 when my dad was diagnosed with some sort of asbestos related cancer.I was 11.
Went downhill fast, then picked up and became normal for a couple of weeks on steroids, but then just withered away until we got the call to get to the hospice place quickly.
Luckily made it in time and got to see him before he went. Then I remember walking outside and it being a lovely sunny July day.
Went totally off the f
king wall for a few years afterwards, but that's another story.Yes, it's absolutely horrible.
Depends on the circumstances.
For my Mum it was from Cancer, which she battled for about 8 months. As the final stages approached, she clung on for 3 whole days, but we were all around her when she went.
For us it was a relief, but we'd been through all the other emotions in the week running up to it.
For my Mum it was from Cancer, which she battled for about 8 months. As the final stages approached, she clung on for 3 whole days, but we were all around her when she went.
For us it was a relief, but we'd been through all the other emotions in the week running up to it.
I held my Mums hand, and watched her pass away in 2015.
5-10mins before she passed, her breathing changed - it was very shallow.
I carried on holding her hand, and then eventually the breathing was out of rhythm, less frequent and eventually stopped.
One of the hardest things I've seen/done/witnessed. It breaks my heart.
Even now, it's making me quite emotional to think about it.
She was 62, I was 31.
5-10mins before she passed, her breathing changed - it was very shallow.
I carried on holding her hand, and then eventually the breathing was out of rhythm, less frequent and eventually stopped.
One of the hardest things I've seen/done/witnessed. It breaks my heart.
Even now, it's making me quite emotional to think about it.
She was 62, I was 31.
No he's dead, unfortunately skiathos finest just weren't enough to save him. Like i say if i had the choice to watch a loved one die, it is always better not to be there. It isn't like the movies, it can be brutal, a horrible gorefest, the ones that haven't gone through it are very lucky, I wish I was lucky.
Nanook said:
It wasn't pleasant, but I've only seen 3 other people die, and I only knew one of them (not very well), so I don't have too much to compare it to.
I am not trying to be funny or rude or anything but i am curious how you come to see people die so 'often'?I am 50 and have never yet actually seen anyone die. I came close once with a room mate who had overdosed and to all intents and purposes she was pretty much dead but only for a minute.
Other people in my life have died, but not in my presence.
I watched my mum slip away totally out of the blue, back in late December 2016. It was a blessing for her, but the hardest thing I have ever been through. Dad and I were with her and she was at home with us, so in a way it was a good way to go, but watching the paramedics trying to revive her and then being told that there was nothing they could do was just beyond words. I miss her like crazy and am actually off with my dad to scatter her ashes in West Sussex tomorrow. Let's hope it is a good sunny day for her.
rolex said:
watched a parent dieing? is it the most awful thing to watch in real life?
It isn't easy by any far stretch of the imagination. It is part of the cycle of life though and some part of a sort of passage of growing up too.
You realise over time that all you can hope for, short life or long life, is to be loved throughout it and if possible be at peace when the time comes.
RW
Nanook said:
Is 3 'often'?
Seeing as you are not in the emergency services/military i think it is certainly higher than average!I worked as a theatre porter for a year or two and never saw anybody die during that period. Not saying people didn't die..I just didn't see it and never saw a 'body'.
I have never seen a 'real life dead person' let alone watch someone die.
S100hp - just the 2 of us.
About 10 mins after he collapsed there was a group from a private school in St Albans coming up. Their leaders took over and everything happened - mountain rescue, sea king, the lot.
All completely academic but I’m thankful to this day that they pretended he could be saved for the length of time that they did, just to give the illusion to an 11 year old that it wasn’t all over.
About 10 mins after he collapsed there was a group from a private school in St Albans coming up. Their leaders took over and everything happened - mountain rescue, sea king, the lot.
All completely academic but I’m thankful to this day that they pretended he could be saved for the length of time that they did, just to give the illusion to an 11 year old that it wasn’t all over.
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