Who pays .. you or your partner?

[Jonny TVR]

I have always paid for meals out etc right from the start of my relationship. Is this the norm?

[sc0tt]

Go halves normally but we earn the same so split down the middle.

[pti]

Depends on your relative earnings I suppose.

[ApOrbital]

Depends on who can be arsed to get the card out first makes no difference.

[TurbosSuck]

Seems a bit one sided, does your partner work or do you earn considerably more?

My wife and I split everything 50:50.

[Composite Guru]

It all comes out of the same pot for me so we both pay.

[cobra kid]

Composite Guru said:

It all comes out of the same pot for me so we both pay.

Same here.

[Drew106]

Always paid at the start. A bit of hangover of old times and a good argument for why women shouldn't earn as much

Now, I still handle all the money in the relationship, whether that's paying bills or paying in restaurants, shops etc. But all our money is pooled.

[Integroo]

Normally me so I can get AmEx points, and then I will take the amount paid out of our joint account to which we both contribute to my personal account. So 50/50.

[siovey]

50:50, unless I'm skint ,then she'll pay and vice versa . Works quite well!

[irocfan]

ApOrbital said:

Depends on who can be arsed to get the card out first makes no difference.

This ^^^

[TheGreatSoprendo]

We take it in turns

[CubanPete]

ApOrbital said:

Depends on who can be arsed to get the card out first makes no difference.

This largely.

[red_slr]

Oh jeezus not this again, last thread I did on this nearly cost me a divorce LOL!

[Civpilot]

For me it's always been pretty clear cut on the first date where I have specifically asked a woman out to dinner/drinks. And I have always liked the rule:-

"If you take a lady out and she doesn't offer to pay, she wasn't bought up right. If you don't insist on paying, you weren't bought up right"

(very old school and obviously this is strictly a first date situation where the man specifically asked to take the woman out)

After that and once in a relationship it should be much more equal. Obviously if one side of the partnership insists on going to the most expensive place available then they should be expecting to foot most/all of the bill though. Some married friends I know alternate it each time they go out (or split the bill between drinks and food and the alternate that each time they go out).

[Jonny TVR]

TurbosSuck said:

Seems a bit one sided, does your partner work or do you earn considerably more?

My wife and I split everything 50:50.

I earn a lot more than she does and she has three children to support. We don't live together but spend a lot of time at each others.

[Never you mind]

Wife is a student so I have to pay all the time.

[iphonedyou]

Usually from the joint account. Which is nice because as everybody knows that's basically magic free money that doesn't actually exist.

Otherwise we treat each other sometimes.

[robdcfc]

Depends if shes putting out that night

[Allanv]

Composite Guru said:

It all comes out of the same pot for me so we both pay.

Same for us as well.