New hobbies in retirement?
New hobbies in retirement?
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Original Poster:

67 posts

82 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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My job is relatively well paid, stress-free, very easy, but incredibly dull. I hate it with a growing passion.

I am now 55. I planned to retire at 55 and financially I could stop working tomorrow and live relatively comfortably on savings and pensions. What is stopping me?

1. The money is too good to turn down and greed kicks in. If I work another 6, 12 or more months I can bank most of it and that would add a not insignificant amount to spend over the first 5 to 10 years of active retirement. But I said that last year. And the year before that.

2. I have absolutely no idea how I would fill my days in retirement.

I have no real hobbies; no children; no aged parents; no dependants or relatives; no responsibilities; nothing I can think of to occupy my time for an extra 6 or 7 hours per day, every day, for ever. I golf - but currently play 4 or 5 times a week now anyway, so retirement would not change that too much.

My wife is still working and plans to do so for another 4 or 5 years. I always intended to retire before her - to test the water and adjust. I reckoned it could be a complete disaster if we both retired at the same time, and had the same problems working out what to do with ourselves.

I think I need some new hobbies. But what?

Things I am definitely not interested in:

- gym / cycling / swimming / running / anything to do with extra physical exercise
- gardening / DIY
- doing-up old cars / bikes / tinkering in a shed
- volunteering / charity work
- starting or buying a business
- part-time menial work
- anything to do with animals / pets
- further education just for the sake of it
- fishing / sailing / shooting
- photography / creative arts
- bird-watching / trainspotting / collecting stuff
- politics / protesting / activism
- religion

I really can't think of anything I want to do that could fill enough of my time. I don't want to work, but I don't want to be sitting in my pants all day watching TV or stretching 30 minute tasks out to 6 hours just to keep occupied.

When my wife retired we will probably spend some time travelling / living abroad for part of the year. But that does not really solve the problem of what to do in retirement if you don't have anything to fill the time.

I realise that I am incredibly fortunate to be in a position where I have some choice in the timing of my retirement. But I can see myself just drifting along like I have for the last 40+ years with no real plan in place (other than saving for a retirement that I am not sure I am going to enjoy). The easiest thing is to just go to work again tomorrow.





Matt Cup

3,260 posts

126 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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The easiest thing is to just go to work again tomorrow.
Think you have answered your own question, and until you can think of something to do to fill your time you might as well earn some £££

Edit: or the above

g3org3y

22,043 posts

213 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Work on your post count.

Jaybmw

325 posts

103 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Fly.. I got my pilots licence but I'm to busy most of the time to use it. I can assure you it will fill your time and mind. May empty your wallet though

GAjon

3,992 posts

235 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Buy a race car, do your ARDs and compete.

This will take up all your time and use up all your money!


MYOB

5,087 posts

160 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Why are you against the idea of voluntary work? No idea what line of work you're in but would you not consider the Rotary Club. They do lots for the community. Not just fund raising, but mentoring etc.

If you have valuable skills, you could share these with others and so on.

Welshbeef

49,633 posts

220 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Read the Koran and bible and Male a choice then become a Decon or equivalent and speed the world of God or Allah

anonymous-user

76 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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I retired at 56.

The last year I did as you mentioned and out all my earnings into a pension.

Since I retired I have:
Cycled
Joined a band or two
Bought a kit car (better to tinker than build imho)
Taken up proper home brewing (all grain)
Lots of DIY
Go to the cinema when it isn't busy


It's amazing how your days fill up


Fast and Spurious

1,802 posts

110 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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What hobbies did you have or what interested you when you were younger? Could you take any of them up again?
The list of things you don't want to do makes it difficult!

A suggestion:
Learn to play chess to a decent level. You can NEVER master it, but put some hours in and it can be rewarding intellectually.


Edited by Fast and Spurious on Saturday 11th May 10:44

anonymous-user

76 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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My last post tried to be helpful.

This one...

You seem to have made a list of things you don't want to do that covers pretty much all life.

There's only one thing left, shooting.
You could do it to yourself if your life is that miserable.

Welshbeef

49,633 posts

220 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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keirik said:
I retired at 56.

The last year I did as you mentioned and out all my earnings into a pension.

Since I retired I have:
Cycled
Joined a band or two
Bought a kit car (better to tinker than build imho)
Taken up proper home brewing (all grain)
Lots of DIY
Go to the cinema when it isn't busy


It's amazing how your days fill up
Out call service
Jelcing
Go for walks
Cut the grass verges along the whole of your street weekly
Put people’s bins back once collected


classicaholic

2,136 posts

92 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Get a narrowboat, the pace of life will suit you.

Fast and Spurious

1,802 posts

110 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Welshbeef said:
keirik said:
I retired at 56.

The last year I did as you mentioned and out all my earnings into a pension.

Since I retired I have:
Cycled
Joined a band or two
Bought a kit car (better to tinker than build imho)
Taken up proper home brewing (all grain)
Lots of DIY
Go to the cinema when it isn't busy


It's amazing how your days fill up
Out call service
Jelcing
Go for walks
Cut the grass verges along the whole of your street weekly
Put people’s bins back once collected
rofl
Jelqing?

Whoozit

3,859 posts

291 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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I have no real hobbies; no children; no aged parents; no dependants or relatives; no responsibilities; nothing I can think of to occupy my time for an extra 6 or 7 hours per day, every day, for ever. I golf - but currently play 4 or 5 times a week now anyway, so retirement would not change that too much.
With no hobbies, or nothing to pursue as a passion, it's a tough one. My FIL retired in his late 60s after selling his business. It took him a couple of years to transition. His days now revolve around running two allotments including keeping bees, and being on-call babysitter/chauffeur for the eight grandchildren. He's now mid 70s and fitter than he ever was while working, in spite of a new hip and knee.

I plan to sell my business in ~5 years time. All being well, I can afford not to work again. The plan already in place is ski ~6 months a year in Whistler, spend a month or two surfing in the summer in nice places (rent a shack on the beach type places), pursue fine art landscape photography as a serious hobby/make beer money, act as business coach to local startup businesses again for beer money. All that, plus reading regularly, plus yoga as exercise, will keep my body and brain ticking over.

It seems you need to think about what will engage your attention and desire to participate. Perhaps something community-based? It'll also increase your circle of friends which is an increasing issue as you get older.

anonymous-user

76 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Seconding canal boat if you live near a network. Ready made community. The boat is a bit like a pet and needs care and attention. You can cruise from pub to pub.

As a compromise between work and leisure, maybe set up a business with low expenses that you can pick up and drop as mood dictates. (No catering!)

4941cc

25,867 posts

228 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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classicaholic said:
Get a narrowboat, the pace of life will suit you.
The idea of this appeals hugely.

Evangelion

8,332 posts

200 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Whoozit said:
... My FIL retired in his late 60s after selling his business. It took him a couple of years to transition ...
So he's now your MIL?

RDMcG

20,426 posts

229 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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I am 70 and could not imagine not working- it gives me the reason to distinguish Mondays from weekends, and makes leisure more valuable. For me, an infinite amount of leisure would be very destructive. I like the changes I can make when I am working and the new things I learn.

Perhaps you may want to think about what other work you might want to try..a change is good.

I do not mean to have no hobbies...I drive at tracks, collect cars and wine, read, travel a lot. On the other hand, I did all of that most of my life. Working, plus some health stuff is good. We all deteriorate and a moderate gym attendance with a trainer will make you feel better. I never went near one till I was 45 and was quite self conscious about it, but then I began to enjoy it. Not trying to be some kind of Arnold Schwarzenegger, just to be able to do the things I always did.

Part of change is to stop doing the things you hate. If work is a dissatisfied, it may be the job rather than the idea of working.

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Original Poster:

67 posts

82 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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Whoozit said:
With no hobbies, or nothing to pursue as a passion, it's a tough one. My FIL retired in his late 60s after selling his business. It took him a couple of years to transition. His days now revolve around running two allotments including keeping bees, and being on-call babysitter/chauffeur for the eight grandchildren. He's now mid 70s and fitter than he ever was while working, in spite of a new hip and knee.

I plan to sell my business in ~5 years time. All being well, I can afford not to work again. The plan already in place is ski ~6 months a year in Whistler, spend a month or two surfing in the summer in nice places (rent a shack on the beach type places), pursue fine art landscape photography as a serious hobby/make beer money, act as business coach to local startup businesses again for beer money. All that, plus reading regularly, plus yoga as exercise, will keep my body and brain ticking over.

It seems you need to think about what will engage your attention and desire to participate. Perhaps something community-based? It'll also increase your circle of friends which is an increasing issue as you get older.
Exactly my dilemma. Spent all of my life working - not enough time for any real hobbies that take up large amounts of time - holidays and downtime spent just relaxing and winding down. Work was my main hobby: there was a point where I considered myself lucky to be getting well paid for something I would have done for nothing. But those days are gone - I really can't be arsed with work any more.

I would like to spend the winters skiing, and the summers playing as much golf as possible. I might just be able to do that once my wife retires. Other than that though, I have no real idea on how to fill the days. Summer should be no real problem - it is the UK winters I dread. For now, I can just keep working - at least I get paid for it.

I already do enough exercise and keep quite fit - I just don't really want to do a huge amount more just for the sake of filling the time. Same with reading, etc.

The pilot's licence thing from one of the above posts does intrigue me: not something I had seriously considered as being possible. I imagine very expensive and highly addictive - I might have to keep working to pay for it!

Jasandjules

71,895 posts

251 months

Saturday 11th May 2019
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RC planes or helicopters? Give all your excess money to me and I will spend it on your behalf to save you the anguish?