LMAO! Don't invite your family for dinner...
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It's just not worth the hassle!
My Mum is coming to see me from Scotland this weekend so she sent an email to my two cousins who live locally to suggest we 'do lunch' at my place and catch up.
The following is a transcript of My Mum and my cousins email conversation that rapidly turned from a casual lunch invitation to a big family rift!!!
I have edited out all the personal info and replaced it with relevant titles for people which makes it read awkwardly in places, but you will get the idea
You really couldn't make this shit up
It starts with my mum.
Hi 'hedders cousin'
I am coming to London next Wednesday 25th and have arranged with Hedders
to see him on Sunday. Would you both (you and your sister) like to come and have lunch with
us at hedders house at approx 13.00 hrs? (I'm cooking!! - traditional Sunday
roast chicken suit y'all?)
Love 'Hedders Mum' (Aunty J) xx
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Hi Aunty J,
Would be lovely to see you and Hedders but as it is the bank holiday
I may be going away for the weekend. No firm plans in place as yet but if I dont
go away it would be lovely to catch up, however I will more than likely have 'Hedders Nephew'
(Her little brat of a 10 year old son) with me so as long as the invite includes him I would be there.
X
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Hi 'hedders cousin'
I agree, it would be great to catch up on everyone's news. So,
if you don't get a better offer and are free to lunch with your sister, Hedders and me do
join us.
On this occasion I feel that we wouldn't be able to talk freely
in front of 'your son' as I am sure we all have stories to tell that may not be appropriate for a ten year old's ears!
I will be back again in June so if your plans don't fit this
time,perhaps we can meet up and we can include 'the smalls' then - maybe I can
bring 'Hedders Neice' to keep 'your son' company. Does he play Chess - this is
'Hedders neice's' latest passion - perhaps she can teach him a few moves!
Love Aunty J xx
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Aunty J,
Whilst it would be good to catch up I have no intention of telling 'My Son'
and S* (Her new Boyfreind) for that matter that I am going out and that they have been
excluded.
You have not met mine or my sisters boyfriends before and I would
hav hoped that you would have wanted to. Also as 'My son' is in some way
related to you I would have thought/hoped that you would have wanted to catch up
with him too.
Since this is not the case then thanks for the offer but no
thanks.
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'hedders Cousin',
For goodness sake. Why such anger? Blimey, talk about light
the touchpaper and retire to a safe distance. You sound just like
'Your father' (My Mums Brother) he always imagines that he is being victimised and that the world is
against him.
Of course I would love to meet your boyfriends, but 'your sister' didn't
mention bringing 'her boyfreind' neither did you mention 'your boyfreind'. It's not a case of
them being'excluded' as you so dramatically chose to express it.
I can't tell you how upsetting this is when all that was being
suggested was a cosy lunch with my son and my nieces. How things can get blown out
of proportion.
Love Aunty J xx
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Aunty J,
You are not kidding on the "How things can get blow out of proportion" You want to re read
your mail below when you mention sounding just like 'My dad' you dont for a second think that you two are like two peas in a pod do
you? Yes you probably can include me in that cause after all we are all related
so it stands to reason that we ALL have very similar traits YOU INCLUDED. 'My son' is my son and to think that he has been excluded from the
invite is hurtful to me.
You are the person who when mum died was there for me far more than my own
father was. You were then the person who when 'My son' was born was the only
family member who was there for me at all, 'My son' does not have any Grandmothers
at all not to mention much of a family and you have no idea how difficult that is for me. So
for you to then not give two shits about him when you have not seen him for three years IS
very hurtful.
I have nothing that I would want to talk about to you Hedders or 'My sister' in a
family Sunday lunch that I would not want him to hear so see no reason at all why he
should be excluded.
Enough said.
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'Hedders Cousin',
I cant tell you how sorry I am to read your sad and angry e.mail.
You seem to have completely overlooked that I suggested that we all meet
up next month. Does that sound like 'excluding' anyone? My question "are
you free for Lunch" could so simply have been answered "Sorry, no I have
other plans" and all this nastiness could have been so easily avoided.
Love Aunty J
xx
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Aunty J,
your question Are you free for lunch could have so easily included
'My son' in the first place. Do you honestly think I am going to try and find a baby
sitter to look after my son whilst I go for a family meal that he could have been
included in?
If he had been included then all of this upset could have been avoided.
Not by me trying to clarify that he was invited at all, personal I would have
thought him being invited was a given.
Lets leave it now. You have made me very hurt and angry and I think that
I am justified.
Not looking for sympathy, dont think the world is against me just really
dissapointed that my one and only child is not invited to lunch and the reasons for
that.
Nothing more than that.
Speak soon
'Hedders Cousin'
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End of lunch negotiations...
>> Edited by hedders on Monday 23 May 18:45
My Mum is coming to see me from Scotland this weekend so she sent an email to my two cousins who live locally to suggest we 'do lunch' at my place and catch up.
The following is a transcript of My Mum and my cousins email conversation that rapidly turned from a casual lunch invitation to a big family rift!!!
I have edited out all the personal info and replaced it with relevant titles for people which makes it read awkwardly in places, but you will get the idea
You really couldn't make this shit up
It starts with my mum.
Hi 'hedders cousin'
I am coming to London next Wednesday 25th and have arranged with Hedders
to see him on Sunday. Would you both (you and your sister) like to come and have lunch with
us at hedders house at approx 13.00 hrs? (I'm cooking!! - traditional Sunday
roast chicken suit y'all?)
Love 'Hedders Mum' (Aunty J) xx
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Hi Aunty J,
Would be lovely to see you and Hedders but as it is the bank holiday
I may be going away for the weekend. No firm plans in place as yet but if I dont
go away it would be lovely to catch up, however I will more than likely have 'Hedders Nephew'
(Her little brat of a 10 year old son) with me so as long as the invite includes him I would be there.
X
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Hi 'hedders cousin'
I agree, it would be great to catch up on everyone's news. So,
if you don't get a better offer and are free to lunch with your sister, Hedders and me do
join us.
On this occasion I feel that we wouldn't be able to talk freely
in front of 'your son' as I am sure we all have stories to tell that may not be appropriate for a ten year old's ears!
I will be back again in June so if your plans don't fit this
time,perhaps we can meet up and we can include 'the smalls' then - maybe I can
bring 'Hedders Neice' to keep 'your son' company. Does he play Chess - this is
'Hedders neice's' latest passion - perhaps she can teach him a few moves!
Love Aunty J xx
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Aunty J,
Whilst it would be good to catch up I have no intention of telling 'My Son'
and S* (Her new Boyfreind) for that matter that I am going out and that they have been
excluded.
You have not met mine or my sisters boyfriends before and I would
hav hoped that you would have wanted to. Also as 'My son' is in some way
related to you I would have thought/hoped that you would have wanted to catch up
with him too.
Since this is not the case then thanks for the offer but no
thanks.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
'hedders Cousin',
For goodness sake. Why such anger? Blimey, talk about light
the touchpaper and retire to a safe distance. You sound just like
'Your father' (My Mums Brother) he always imagines that he is being victimised and that the world is
against him.
Of course I would love to meet your boyfriends, but 'your sister' didn't
mention bringing 'her boyfreind' neither did you mention 'your boyfreind'. It's not a case of
them being'excluded' as you so dramatically chose to express it.
I can't tell you how upsetting this is when all that was being
suggested was a cosy lunch with my son and my nieces. How things can get blown out
of proportion.
Love Aunty J xx
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Aunty J,
You are not kidding on the "How things can get blow out of proportion" You want to re read
your mail below when you mention sounding just like 'My dad' you dont for a second think that you two are like two peas in a pod do
you? Yes you probably can include me in that cause after all we are all related
so it stands to reason that we ALL have very similar traits YOU INCLUDED. 'My son' is my son and to think that he has been excluded from the
invite is hurtful to me.
You are the person who when mum died was there for me far more than my own
father was. You were then the person who when 'My son' was born was the only
family member who was there for me at all, 'My son' does not have any Grandmothers
at all not to mention much of a family and you have no idea how difficult that is for me. So
for you to then not give two shits about him when you have not seen him for three years IS
very hurtful.
I have nothing that I would want to talk about to you Hedders or 'My sister' in a
family Sunday lunch that I would not want him to hear so see no reason at all why he
should be excluded.
Enough said.
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'Hedders Cousin',
I cant tell you how sorry I am to read your sad and angry e.mail.
You seem to have completely overlooked that I suggested that we all meet
up next month. Does that sound like 'excluding' anyone? My question "are
you free for Lunch" could so simply have been answered "Sorry, no I have
other plans" and all this nastiness could have been so easily avoided.
Love Aunty J
xx
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Aunty J,
your question Are you free for lunch could have so easily included
'My son' in the first place. Do you honestly think I am going to try and find a baby
sitter to look after my son whilst I go for a family meal that he could have been
included in?
If he had been included then all of this upset could have been avoided.
Not by me trying to clarify that he was invited at all, personal I would have
thought him being invited was a given.
Lets leave it now. You have made me very hurt and angry and I think that
I am justified.
Not looking for sympathy, dont think the world is against me just really
dissapointed that my one and only child is not invited to lunch and the reasons for
that.
Nothing more than that.
Speak soon
'Hedders Cousin'
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End of lunch negotiations...
>> Edited by hedders on Monday 23 May 18:45
mxdi said:
Oooer, and I thought my family were funny. Have they made up yet?
Nope...
next time I see her I will casually drop into the conversation that my mum wanted to suprise Her and tell her that she was going to re-write her will to include her and thought it best that her kid wasn't there...but don't worry about it now...she has changed her mind
Unless the son doesn't normally live with her, I do think it's a bit odd to invite her and not the child. What's she supposed to do with him while she's out? After all it is a family Sunday Lunch at home, not a grown-up evening dinner with alcohol etc. If the boy normally lives with Dad, then that's a slightly different matter.
On the other hand it's bloody rude to receive an invitation and to get on your high horse because you can't receive an invitation for one and issue an acceptance for 3...
On the other hand it's bloody rude to receive an invitation and to get on your high horse because you can't receive an invitation for one and issue an acceptance for 3...
Rude Girl said:
Unless the son doesn't normally live with her, I do think it's a bit odd to invite her and not the child. What's she supposed to do with him while she's out? After all it is a family Sunday Lunch at home, not a grown-up evening dinner with alcohol etc. If the boy normally lives with Dad, then that's a slightly different matter.
On the other hand it's bloody rude to receive an invitation and to get on your high horse because you can't receive an invitation for one and issue an acceptance for 3...
Actually the boy does live with his dad half of the time and her half of the time, my Uncle (the boys granddad) lives round the corner and would give up a season ticket to the playboy mansion to spend some time with his grand-son on a sunday afternoon if dad wasn't around to tale care of him. And we gave her a weeks notice
hedders said:
next time I see her I will casually drop into the conversation that my mum wanted to suprise Her and tell her that she was going to re-write her will to include her and thought it best that her kid wasn't there...but don't worry about it now...she has changed her mind
You evil b
d. Superb! Don't worry - all families appear to be well capable of this sort of nonsense. I have managed to escape it by simply "losing touch" with any of 'em exhibiting such strange behaviour.
Don said:
You evil b
Don't worry - all families appear to be well capable of this sort of nonsense. I have managed to escape it by simply "losing touch" with any of 'em exhibiting such strange behaviour.
Losing touch with people is one of my forte's, this dinner invite was quite a significant gesture, one I won't be making again in a hurry, its easier if we just don't talk at all...
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