serious question, should i send flowers to...

[PugwasHDJ80]

...my elderly step mother who is about to start chemo for s pretty horrid form of cancer. she may have a couple of years or a couple of months.

we'd like to send something to say we are thinking of her, but are flowers the right thing? i usually associate then with celebration or commiseration. A card seems a bit trite.

lots of love for her here and we're all hoping she gets better soon.

Edited by PugwasHDJ80 on Monday 20th January 19:45

[p4cks]

Just get her a nice card

[condor]

Flowers are always wonderful to receive - but make sure they're easy to enjoy. Tulips are fine this time of year, or another spring type arrangement.
Freesias would be my best choice as they smell lovely.
Add a card too

[Alucidnation]

Do you see her often?

[Patrick magooagain]

How about a phone all for a chat.

[dazwalsh]

original lucozade and grapes, the all time classic gifts for ill people.

[tweenster]

Mrs T is currently undergoing chemo and radiotherapy for a brain tumour. She cannot see and barely comprehends anything; she much prefers a phone call as cards, gifts etc mean nothing to her.

So give her a call, even if it is just for a minute or 2.

[Monkeylegend]

Better to make a direct donation to a cancer charity/ hospice than buy flowers.

[Rewe]

PugwasHDJ80 said:

lots of love for her here and we're all hoping she gets better soon.

Edited by PugwasHDJ80 on Monday 20th January 19:45

Flowers are great and will always be appreciated. What a thoughtful gesture!

[Pippage]

Get her a plant, something living not something dead

[condor]

Pippage said:

Get her a plant, something living not something dead

I'd say definately not that. a plant needs care, watering etc.
Cut flowers or an arrangement are only expected to last a week and can go straight in the compost bin.
I'm slightly biased as I make a fresh flower arrangement for myself to enjoy each week.

[Bungleaio]

When my mum was going through Chemo fresh flowers were something she had to keep away from.

[drmike37]

Some of your time is probably what she wants the most. A hand to hold in the chemo suite, practical help at home etc.

But, yes, flowers are nice. Everyone loves a visual reminder that someone loves them.

[gooner1]

How about writing a letter describing some happier times and memories.
Nothing heavy or gushy, just something that hopefully will make you all smile and reflect.
Good luck and best wishes to you all.

Edited by gooner1 on Thursday 30th January 03:20

[Robbo 27]

Some cancer patients have a weakened immune system and fresh flowers pose an infection risk , something to do with fungal spores, Google neutropenic precautions