How do those finding this ongoing situation plan to cope
How do those finding this ongoing situation plan to cope
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Rayan77

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67 posts

105 months

Thursday 24th September 2020
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As it sadly appears that the current situation Regarding restrictions, lockdown etc will unfortunately be around for a considerable amount of time. What plans do anyone have for coping especially if like me it is having a significant impact on physical and mental health.

I did consider going to live with my fathers family abroad as first off all I would be around more family and secondly they have almost normality over there despite having almost the same number of cases as the UK (although a lot less deaths) however I probably couldn’t afford to do so and cause too much stress which I’m trying to avoid

pre lockdown I used to have a evening college course and went to the nearby city at least once a week which is now no longer feasible.

I think living in a horrendous small town makes a already bad situation a 100 times worse


Edited by Rayan77 on Thursday 24th September 19:49

steveo3002

11,205 posts

203 months

Thursday 24th September 2020
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was just saying to the mrs all the stuff like weekends away , holidays , shopping trip or a meal out are finished , just the weekly shop to look forward to now

carreauchompeur

18,321 posts

233 months

Thursday 24th September 2020
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It’s difficult, that’s for sure. I don’t live with my partner, but he really struggled with the last period of WFH so I’m moving him in again hopefully... People just have to make the best of it.

Johnnytheboy

24,499 posts

215 months

Thursday 24th September 2020
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Novelty has worn off, that's for sure.

steveo3002

11,205 posts

203 months

Thursday 24th September 2020
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at least we have the dark cold winter nights to cheer us up

mcelliott

10,494 posts

210 months

Thursday 24th September 2020
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I live in Guernsey, we have no restrictions, but did experience full lockdown early in the year, I actually enjoyed the challenge of that period, kept myself busy with keeping fit and other things I never had time for.

The one thing I am slightly concerned about is my daughter being away at uni in the uk, there's a good chance that because the uk government have managed such a fk up of handling this I may not see her for a very long time.

Rayan77

Original Poster:

67 posts

105 months

Thursday 24th September 2020
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mcelliott said:
I live in Guernsey, we have no restrictions, but did experience full lockdown early in the year, I actually enjoyed the challenge of that period, kept myself busy with keeping fit and other things I never had time for.

The one thing I am slightly concerned about is my daughter being away at uni in the uk, there's a good chance that because the uk government have managed such a fk up of handling this I may not see her for a very long time.
Hopefully she isn’t in a Scottish university as the Scottish government are taking things to absolute extremes including banning students from seeing their family at Christmas time

Mastodon2

14,324 posts

194 months

Thursday 24th September 2020
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I doubt these restrictions will be lifted before the end of winter, I think they will gradually tighten and probably not be eased until Spring next year. I think the mixing of families, sports, entertainment etc, will be in place for the whole country before long. The government seems to be increasing the tension with every briefing.

I'm hoping to have a house move with my partner wrapped up before the stamp duty relief ends. Other than that, cycling indoors and outdoors 5 sessions per week has been tremendous fun and very motivating. I've totally got the cycling bug, lost a load of weight and massively improved my fitness.

I've loved working from home, previously I would do a fair amount of business travel, but we were slowly reorganising to do more remote work and less site visits, it has just pushed us to do it quicker. I appreciate not everyone likes working from home, but it's worked well for me.

Silenoz

962 posts

182 months

Thursday 24th September 2020
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I'm really struggling with the thought of another six months of this suit with the idiots in government making ever more stupid and illogical rules up. As said above, with the prospect of no holidays and limited leisure activities for the foreseeable I don't know why I'm bothering to get up in the morning!

Oakey

27,981 posts

245 months

Friday 25th September 2020
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No plan anymore, I'd hoped we'd be back to some semblance of normality by now but the thought of another 6 months of this and basically fk all support for the self employed and the slim prospects of finding work in this climate are making it difficult to battle dark thoughts.

TameRacingDriver

20,562 posts

301 months

Tuesday 6th October 2020
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I wont lie, I haven't found it easy. Dreadful times really but as someone else said, you just got to try and make the best of it.

My thoughts:-

1. Step away from the media (social or mainstream) or the news
2. Try not to dwell on it (I stepped away from NP&E on here for that very reason)
3. Music - OK this is subjective, always loved music, but I've listened to it a lot more lately
4. Try and get out for exercise, OUTDOORS. I just walk. It's good to get out
5. Remind yourself that this will be over, eventually, even if you don't know when. We can't carry on like this forever
6. Don't sweat the things you can't change, only those you can.
7. Perhaps write about it, it will make you feel better to get thoughts down, and might be interesting to read back in the future.

And good luck, we all need some of that right now.

21TonyK

13,291 posts

238 months

Wednesday 7th October 2020
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I work in a school so back at the start of lockdown when schools were restricted most staff went to home working or odd days which is what I did for several weeks before going back full time for a few weeks before the end of the summer. So that was several months of largely being stuck at home.

During this time I was also diagnosed with a pulmonary condition and was told I should have been shielding all along anyway so that really helped!

Then we had the school summer holidays... another 6 weeks where I was told to remain shielding. Did so, largely but was by this time rather bored of DIY and IT projects!

Finally after 5 months of it I was ready to go back to work!

3 days in I was hospitalised and have now been told its November before I can even consider going back to work and thats if work can be made covid-safe which is very questionable. So half expecting it to be next year at the earliest and then it will be in a reduced capacity.

So, plan is, work from home managing things an hour or so a day. Spend a lot more time trying to get fit and catch up on some bigger DIY plans. Plus I spend at least a couple of hours cooking every day so that fills a lot of time and is varied. I'm also looking at doing some online courses, possibly an FE qualification of some sort.

We have a short break booked soon to get away for a few days but longer term will go abroad to see family for a few weeks, isolating on return won't be an issue!

Fortunately Mrs21 is at home most days so she keeps me sane.

Animal

5,667 posts

297 months

Wednesday 7th October 2020
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We've just moved out of London to a small town, and it's coincided with me leaving my job and I'm happy to admit that I'm struggling. I'm trying to keep structure to my days by doing a lot of exercise and allocating time each day to getting something done around the house, but I find myself counting the hours day and night at present.

''ve also unwittingly developed the annoying habit of waking up at about 2am every day and not being able to get back to sleep for a couple of hours!

A500leroy

8,406 posts

147 months

Wednesday 7th October 2020
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We're all going to die one day anyway, put a mask on wash your hands and crack on with it. Youve got as much chance as waking up with cancer or getting run over so just carry on.

G7orge

294 posts

123 months

Wednesday 7th October 2020
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A500leroy said:
We're all going to die one day anyway, put a mask on wash your hands and crack on with it. Youve got as much chance as waking up with cancer or getting run over so just carry on.
yes

TameRacingDriver

20,562 posts

301 months

Wednesday 7th October 2020
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A500leroy said:
We're all going to die one day anyway, put a mask on wash your hands and crack on with it. Youve got as much chance as waking up with cancer or getting run over so just carry on.
That’s the plan.

I was getting very down in the first lockdown, but at this stage, I’ve reached acceptance. I’ve now accepted things will never be the same again, so you just got to try and make the best of it, however st you think it is.

HustleRussell

26,500 posts

189 months

Wednesday 7th October 2020
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It's got old. I have far too much work to do at the moment. The reward at the end? redundancy.