How much ahead can you arrange a meeting with your friends?
How much ahead can you arrange a meeting with your friends?
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RMDB9

Original Poster:

1,711 posts

77 months

Saturday 17th October 2020
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Modern times.

"Lets meet next weekend, at about 4pm in this and that cafe"

Does it work?
How many confirmations, re-schedulings, cancellations happen in between?

shopper150

1,583 posts

223 months

Saturday 17th October 2020
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Life appears to be very complex in modern times. Nobody has time.

Spare tyre

12,558 posts

159 months

Saturday 17th October 2020
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Before kids straight forward

Now little Tabitha has donkey tossing contest and Cuthburt has yoghurt knitting lessons. So we need to keep rearranging until no one comes

Jasandjules

72,589 posts

258 months

Saturday 17th October 2020
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Well now that depends on which friends.... We have a set of friends we can say "18 October 2021 let's do X, Y or Z" and we will all be there on that day. Others, what are you doing tomorrow afternoon is likely to result in a message at 10am saying time or location needs to change...

sherman

15,222 posts

244 months

Saturday 17th October 2020
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I havent arranged any meetings more than 3 days in advance for the past 6 months.

wibble cb

4,148 posts

236 months

Monday 19th October 2020
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I have friends who suggest meeting up, with timing and venue, 99% of the time it never goes down that way, they always change it, to them its only ever pencilled in, whereas to me, its a done deal once I have aid yes, I put it down to FOMO.

hutchst

3,727 posts

125 months

Monday 19th October 2020
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Life is so much simpler when you don't have any friends.

glenrobbo

40,508 posts

179 months

Monday 19th October 2020
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I think in our area, under the current guidelines, you are only allowed to meet strangers. confused

Royal Jelly

3,974 posts

227 months

Monday 19th October 2020
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glenrobbo said:
I think in our area, under the current guidelines, you are only allowed to meet strangers. confused
rofl

devnull

3,864 posts

186 months

Monday 19th October 2020
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The key thing here is that because of smartphones, it's much easier TO change your plans on a whim, and in a rather faceless way, with minimal impact.

I would have imagined that this would be much less likely to happen in say, the 90s for example. No smartphone, you agreed a time face to face or over the phone, and if you needed to change, you would need to rely on face to face or phone contact to attune again (unless you were an arse and didn't turn up).

Also, there are way more "things" to distract people in general thesedays and make them change their minds, streaming service and other forms of digital entertainment for example.

tribalsurfer

1,251 posts

148 months

Monday 19th October 2020
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Myself and 5 friends try to meet up for a golf weekend once a year. Friday night through to Sunday afternoon. We tend to stick a pin in the calendar for the following year and stick to it. So far it's worked. Ironically due to Covid restrictions this year we had to shift and left it to 3 weeks notice and we were all available.

We'll meet for a Christmas beer around the 18th December and that could be hard work to find a slot for all of us.

CS Garth

2,873 posts

134 months

Monday 19th October 2020
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Depends on your friends. Most of mine I could arrange to meet up with in 20 years at a specific date and time and, even if we never spoke again, they’d be there.




jdw100

5,488 posts

193 months

Monday 19th October 2020
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Anything from 18 months to 20 minutes.

BrundanBianchi

1,106 posts

74 months

Monday 19th October 2020
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It’s not easy at the moment. If it’s not organised the same day, it gets complicated.