Life goes on. S**t happens. But there is a way through.

[Timmy47]

So 15 months ago my wife of 10 years walked out. She left me with the 3 young kids, a building project, a farm, and a full time job. She saw the kids from time to time, but was then reported to social services for hitting them on her time. I never thought I'd have a call from the local CID asking me to collect my kids whilst she was interviewed.

She proceeded to bombard me with horrific emails and texts, to imply that I was to blame for her behavior, that I gaslighted her, abused her and even got a womens protection charity involved, none of them fact checked what she was saying, and not a word of it was true. But the whole system feels rigged, it was only when I stood up to her and said it would all have to go to court that she backed down and said she didn't want to, ( because I have literally hundreds of abusive messages from her without one single one back from me ).

Women and BAME complain about men dominating board rooms, try being in a meeting with 12 assorted social workers, teachers, etc in which you are the only male and your ex is chatting away to them all like butter wouldn't melt.

We were doing mediation, watch out for mediation, it's unregulated, she basically used it as a financial fishing trip, as soon as she realised there was no hidden money she ceased mediation and filed for divorce. By email, lovely that. She never had the guts to do it to my face.

I have the kids 50/50, they can't stand her, but I feel she should have them.

I'm half a million down, but after a period of reflection my life will get better, and I will ensure my kids are happy.

Life throws up st, there were times I felt like taking a one way drive to a certain local bridge, but it's never worth that. Love and positive thinking eventually get you though. Alot of people are going through alot of st right now. But inner strength is there.

There isn't much more to say, apart from if any of you lot want to chat over whatever st is happening to you, PM away. We men need to talk more.

Oh I forgot to add, she decided she was a lezza. I mean FFS.

Edited by Timmy47 on Tuesday 2nd March 13:56

[spikeyhead]

That sounds like a whole heap of st.

Beers in DDs when it reopens?

you'll be safer, they no longer serve Smirnoff Ice

[Timmy47]

anonymous said:

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Hey Tonker, nope, like the big crocodiles she's in denial. Yep it does just come down to taking it one day at a time. She has issues, but would never face them. Perhaps never will.

[bristolracer]

Timmy47 said:

Oh I forgot to add, she decided she was a

Edited by Timmy47 on Tuesday 2nd March 13:56

I would be careful with that comment, its a public forum and as you have discovered all sorts of stuff gets dragged up and used in court/cafcass etc

Keep your chin up, do the best you can for the kids, show them love and support, do not run her down in front of them.
In time you will realise what a lucky escape you have had, and life will be better.
Take it one day at a time

[Timmy47]

anonymous said:

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TBH it's mainly women with 'orses who want to stick them on my land around here. Not bad in itself, but I've learnt to avoid women with 'orses.

[Psycho Warren]

Timmy47 said:

TBH it's mainly women with 'orses who want to stick them on my land around here. Not bad in itself, but I've learnt to avoid women with 'orses.

Women with horses are the male crazy petrolhead female equivalent.

[Cotty]

spikeyhead said:

Beers in DDs when it reopens?

I think we need a big meet when it reopens

[spikeyhead]

Timmy47 said:

TBH it's mainly women with 'orses who want to stick them on my land around here. Not bad in itself, but I've learnt to avoid women with 'orses.

but jodhpurs, and riding crops...

[Gary29]

spikeyhead said:

but jodhpurs, and riding crops...

Yes, but everyone knows that 'orse women should definitely be approached with extreme caution, the majority have a touch of the craziness about them, especially the ones I've come across. (Insert your pun here)

[anonymous-user]

Sorry to hear that OP. If it’s any comfort at all - things do get better with time. Try to take small steps rather than cover a lot of ground in one leap. Also good to focus on your kids, making time for them and trying to give them as much normality and happiness as you can. Totally get you on the mediation front. We went and I didn’t get along with the counsellor at all, she was a super judgemental man hating vegan shoes type. It was a nightmare. Ended up completely vindicating my partners view that I was being an unreasonable asshole.

You’re going to have low points, but remember they are as temporary as you want to make them. Kept moving forwards and it’s amazing what you can achieve.

All the best, Rob

[StevieBee]

I heard someone mention recently, that Divorces are like Dogs..... you rarely meet anyone who regrets having one.

Best of luck, bud!

[Spare tyre]

Nothing sensible to say other than your clearly are a strong bloke. Good luck pal

[105.4]

Bloody hell Timmy !

Today things are st. Tomorrow things will be ever so slightly less st.

In one, five or ten years time, everything will be hunkydory.

Don’t ask me how I know this. It’s a long story.

Ps: Answers to problems aren’t found in the bottom of a bottle.

[105.4]

anonymous said:

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No I haven’t. I’m up North and IIRC, DD’s was always in the centre of London?

Is it like BT&P with the strawpedos, only worse?

[105.4]

anonymous said:

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I’m not sure if that sounds horrendous or amazing?

[TheAngryDog]

Sounds like a stty situation OP, but you seem like you're getting through it and holding your head high.

And here's me sitting watching TV, drinking Gentleman Jack on a work night feeling miserable as fk, when I have zero right to.

Good luck to you!