I need serious help and advice ..

[Rexii]

So to be honest with you all I’ve not had the greatest childhood and it’s still carrying on to this day .. I can’t complain much as many people have suffered 10x more than what I am but I want genuine advice and help because I’ve just entered adulthood and my old childhood “friends” (who I cut contact with due to how toxic they were) are still trying to ruin my life severely to the point where I’m getting depressed...

Cut a very long story short since leaving secondary school I cut contact with them as they used to belittle me and make me feel uncomfortable and I was the centre of all jokes and I didn’t realise they’ were not my friends until last year when they tried ruining my relationship with my ex girlfriend in which they took all of my bad situations from when I was in school and told her about it in which she broke up with me now fair enough I accept that what I did back in school was very immature in which I cheated on a previous girlfriend but I’m an 18 year old now .. we all go through stages of life so fast forward a year later and I’m dating a new girl who was absolutely lovely and she was fully supportive of everything I did and everything was going smoothly until one day she receives a message from them ... she asks who are they so I explain who they are and what the situation is and she says “oh what are these screen shorter messages they’ve sent me ? Are they photoshopped?” Bare in mind the pictures were of old messages between me and a girlfriend from about 5-6 years ago and I even told her this but she wouldn’t believe me.. so long story short we broke up due to her not trusting that I cheated even though I don’t speak to many girls I have one best friend at work apart from that my time would be spend with her but anyways ... now I’m absolutely fuming so not only am I not speaking to these fools they’re trying to ruin my relationships and life, I think to myself okay whatever it is what it is I can’t change this. However no this doesn’t stop here throughout that year they are now friends with my ex and now getting her to text me nasty stuff and Ive ended up blocking her ... now fast forward to a couple of days ago my ring doorbell goes off and I see them key my car ... that’s right KEY MY CAR ... as you can tell by everything I’ve said I’m extremely stressed I feel like moving out of my area or better yet just being done with life because I can’t escape these people ... two of them live on the same road as me and I have genuine panic attacks when I’m in public because im afraid they will see me

They are continually trying to ruin my life and I don’t know what to do Im genuinely done with everything and I feel trapped all the time ...
and yes before you comment “troll?” It’s not I’m genuinely feeling so stressed and I need advice because This is ruining my life as they’ve even come into my workplace , thankfully I’ve spoken to managers and explained everything in which they agreed that I’ve done nothing wrong ... I just can’t deal with this ... ruining my relationships , destroying my property, potentially ruining my source of income!! As you can tell this is spiralling out of control and URGH IDK WHAT TO DO .. why are they chasing me and trying to be in my life


Please just help me

[berlintaxi]

If you saw them key your car call the police, a visit from them may be enough to scare them off, look at moving if you can, I appreciate it is not easy but stay strong and try to move on with your life.

[Rexii]

It’s very difficult too because I have a provisional license so I can’t drive on my own and I can’t afford to live by myself I work 40-45 hours a week and I barely get 1,400 I’m screwed

[sxmwht]

Quick call to the police, and if that doesn't stop them then just knock one of them the fk out

[Rexii]

See I’m not the type of person to hit them as I don’t want the drama myself and the police round here won’t do anything

[Rexii]

sxmwht said:

Quick call to the police, and if that doesn't stop them then just knock one of them the fk out

And I’m not a strong person I can’t even fight

[berlintaxi]

Mate, a quick call to the police or even pop into the station, a bully works on the basis of you doing nothing, don't give them that opportunity.

£1400 a month should easily be enough to get a room in a shared house if you can't afford your own place, you said work are aware of the situation and understand so hopefully no issues there, public transport to get around until you get your licence, make the first step now and in 10 years time this will be just a bad memory.

Edited by berlintaxi on Wednesday 28th April 11:44

[Rexii]

Like I said before the police won’t do anything

[Miserablegit]

If you have video of them keying your car contact the police. They might not do anything but you need to give them the opportunity. Give the police the background information as well.

Best of luck

[tomsugden]

Do you have video evidence from your doorbell that can identify the person keying your car?

[Rexii]

It doesn’t show a lot I’ve already look you can see just a black hood walk away slightly in the corner

[Rexii]

I just feel so depressed and hopeless , it’s affecting my mental health and I’m hating just breathing

[Haltamer]

I'd still contact the police for documentation if nothing else. Ideally you'd want to build a case to show long term harrasment for a court order I'd have thought.

The police may do something, especially if you have identifiable video evidence.

[berlintaxi]

Rexii said:

Like I said before the police won’t do anything

They won't if you don't tell them.

[Rexii]

I reported a kid throwing a rock at a car and they did nothing just a case number

[Turbo cab]

Rexii said:

I just feel so depressed and hopeless , it’s affecting my mental health and I’m hating just breathing

Chap as others have said report to police, if you want to help yourself then get a good therapist and talk to them - it helps a LOT and that's from personal experience.

[paintman]

Rexii said:

So to be honest with you all I’ve not had the greatest childhood and it’s still carrying on to this day .. I can’t complain much as many people have suffered 10x more than what I am but I want genuine advice and help because I’ve just entered adulthood and my old childhood “friends” (who I cut contact with due to how toxic they were) are still trying to ruin my life severely to the point where I’m getting depressed...

Cut a very long story short since leaving secondary school I cut contact with them as they used to belittle me and make me feel uncomfortable and I was the centre of all jokes and I didn’t realise they’ were not my friends until last year when they tried ruining my relationship with my ex girlfriend in which they took all of my bad situations from when I was in school and told her about it in which she broke up with me now fair enough I accept that what I did back in school was very immature in which I cheated on a previous girlfriend but I’m an 18 year old now .. we all go through stages of life so fast forward a year later and I’m dating a new girl who was absolutely lovely and she was fully supportive of everything I did and everything was going smoothly until one day she receives a message from them ... she asks who are they so I explain who they are and what the situation is and she says “oh what are these screen shorter messages they’ve sent me ? Are they photoshopped?” Bare in mind the pictures were of old messages between me and a girlfriend from about 5-6 years ago and I even told her this but she wouldn’t believe me.. so long story short we broke up due to her not trusting that I cheated even though I don’t speak to many girls I have one best friend at work apart from that my time would be spend with her but anyways ... now I’m absolutely fuming so not only am I not speaking to these fools they’re trying to ruin my relationships and life, I think to myself okay whatever it is what it is I can’t change this. However no this doesn’t stop here throughout that year they are now friends with my ex and now getting her to text me nasty stuff and Ive ended up blocking her ... now fast forward to a couple of days ago my ring doorbell goes off and I see them key my car ... that’s right KEY MY CAR ... as you can tell by everything I’ve said I’m extremely stressed I feel like moving out of my area or better yet just being done with life because I can’t escape these people ... two of them live on the same road as me and I have genuine panic attacks when I’m in public because im afraid they will see me

They are continually trying to ruin my life and I don’t know what to do Im genuinely done with everything and I feel trapped all the time ...
and yes before you comment “troll?” It’s not I’m genuinely feeling so stressed and I need advice because This is ruining my life as they’ve even come into my workplace , thankfully I’ve spoken to managers and explained everything in which they agreed that I’ve done nothing wrong ... I just can’t deal with this ... ruining my relationships , destroying my property, potentially ruining my source of income!! As you can tell this is spiralling out of control and URGH IDK WHAT TO DO .. why are they chasing me and trying to be in my life


Please just help me

If you've seen your car being damaged - or even better got video of it happening - then report to to the Police.

You may also want to speak to the Police about this continuing harassment as there may be a number of offences being committed including Stalking and Harassment. Bit technical but try & have a read through this:
https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/stalking-and...

Keep all messages from this group & keep a record of incidents & those involved in each incident.

ETA I've read some of your replies whilst I was writing this & all I can say is that if you're not prepared to do anything to try & resolve this problem for whatever reason then you'll just have to put up with it until they get bored & look for another victim.

Edited by paintman on Wednesday 28th April 11:50

[Rexii]

Is there any free ones? I can’t afford therapy

[berlintaxi]

Rexii said:

I reported a kid throwing a rock at a car and they did nothing just a case number

But in this case you know who it is, so I would put money on it they will pay them a visit.

[Rexii]

True I shall rack up the courage to talk to police