Question for fathers - is one car enough?
Question for fathers - is one car enough?
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AudiMan9000

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817 posts

79 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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So a year ago Mrs Audiman and I traded both of our cars in for one bigger family car. In the past we both needed a car. We both needed one for work. Now I work from home 99.9% of the time, and my wife is a full time mum. Things are fine for now. Whilst I work, she goes out and about. When I finish work, I am the driver and we do everything together. Our two kids are pre-school age. Both went to the same nursery but one is starting primary school in Sept.

For those of you who are fathers - as the kids get older, is a one car family viable? Are there scenarios we haven’t foreseen that will require us both to have a car, even if my work never have me back at the office?

Krikkit

27,939 posts

212 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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I'd definitely want two with multiple kids, they'll inevitably want to be in different places at the same time soon.


sam.rog

1,617 posts

109 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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After school activities at the same time or opposite sides of town is the only real headache with one car.

Dynion Araf Uchaf

5,196 posts

254 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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Some people have 3 or 4 kids and no car at all. Appears to be a bit of a first world problem.

Earthdweller

19,676 posts

157 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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Kids after school clubs/sports/clubs etc etc

Guarantee they will be at the same time in opposite directions for each kid

It’s mayhem at times trying to work out how to get them there

At times both of you could be needing to head off at the same time

Gad-Westy

16,636 posts

244 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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AudiMan9000 said:
So a year ago Mrs Audiman and I traded both of our cars in for one bigger family car. In the past we both needed a car. We both needed one for work. Now I work from home 99.9% of the time, and my wife is a full time mum. Things are fine for now. Whilst I work, she goes out and about. When I finish work, I am the driver and we do everything together. Our two kids are pre-school age. Both went to the same nursery but one is starting primary school in Sept.

For those of you who are fathers - as the kids get older, is a one car family viable? Are there scenarios we haven’t foreseen that will require us both to have a car, even if my work never have me back at the office?
On the 'need' front, totally dependent on circumstances. Ignoring work, scenarios it would cause us issues, two kids activities/clubs on the same evening? Mrs away at her parents for weekend in the car. Car in for a service on a school day etc... TBH as well, I'm too much of a car nerd to be satisfied with one family bus. I need a bit of variety and escapism. I appreciate that last one is a personal requirement.

SteveStrange

7,802 posts

244 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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House full of kids (4, from 13 down to 3 months) and I've got a 911 and an old camper with 2, non-retractable seatbelts.

If we need to go on a whole-family road trip we hire.

Otherwise we do fine.

AudiMan9000

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817 posts

79 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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I should add we have a nearby retired grandparent with a car.

The Rotrex Kid

35,100 posts

191 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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2 kids, 3 cars, just in case hehe

Edible Roadkill

2,229 posts

208 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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I’ve tried both scenarios I’ve the past 10yrs of having a family.

Always end up reverting back to 2 cars in the end. One just leads to arguments, public transport or reliance on lifts or borrowing cars. None of which works in the long run.

Just now I’ve got a good family car and a cheap yet reliable runaround. We find that most effective.

Biiiig 7 seater suv and a £1k fiesta.

Both cars between them do everything well. Whether that’s packing a fortnight worth of gear into the car and going on holiday or nipping to the shops, her work etc

Only complaint from her in charge is the lack of AC on the fiesta, which in my mind is just one thing less to break on the puddle jumper.

paradigital

1,109 posts

183 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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The Rotrex Kid said:
2 kids, 3 cars, just in case hehe
Two kids, 4 cars, just in case two break down wink

havoc

33,495 posts

266 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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Krikkit said:
I'd definitely want two with multiple kids, they'll inevitably want to be in different places at the same time soon.
This. One kid, MAYBE you can manage it, as long as you're all happy doing everything together*. Two kids, once they're at school or are doing weekend activities (sports/swimming, play-dates, parties), has the potential to become a headache. And you'll find your spare time is precious enough that you won't want to lug both of you and an unwilling 'other child' along to these things.

Plus what if one of you has to be away with work, or gets called to visit family urgently, or any one of half a dozen 'ooh, I need a car quick' scenarios.

Edit: Been reflecting...our kids are 10 and 4, and with me now WFH / taking the train, the times that we're both using a car are about at most once a week, typically where the kids have clashes, where one of us wants to be doing something on our own, or where for time convenience we try and do two things at once (e.g. one of us shopping, the other taking kid(s) out somewhere).



I get the cost aspect, but buy sensibly (i.e. with regard to what will be reliable and will sell easily / with minimal depreciation) and it won't be that bad. Plus the second car can be...ah...a little less practical! biggrin




* I couldn't...love my family dearly but need time away from them at least once a week.

Edited by havoc on Monday 1st August 21:43

The Rotrex Kid

35,100 posts

191 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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paradigital said:
The Rotrex Kid said:
2 kids, 3 cars, just in case hehe
Two kids, 4 cars, just in case two break down wink
Forward planning. Love it thumbup

One of my mates has 7 cars and 2 kids, he was in the Boy Scouts.

a311

6,426 posts

208 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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Two cars for us used to be a necessity, post covid it's a convenience.

I WFH the majority of the time now, my wife goes into work more. She's drops the kids off at school, I pick them up, I start and finish earlier than her which allows us to do this.

If we had one car, I'd either have to drop the kids off and then her, or just the kids and she uses public transport. She doesn't work too far from where we live. Maybe a 20-25 min walk so I could walk and get the car then get the kids in theory.

First World problems, my mother didn't learn to drive until later in life, with 3 kids we used to get the bus, family friends who could drive would help.

In your situation you'd be ok. With the direction the cost of living is going in I'd maybe rethink trying to go down to one car.

HughG

3,749 posts

272 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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We’ve got a Passat estate for family duties. Then I got my 996 thinking that’d be fine if 2 cars needed. MrsG drove it a couple of times then declared it wasn’t for her, so now we have an electric Renault Zoe as well. The lease on the Zoe and electricity for it is cheaper than fueling the Porsche, but less fun.

2nd family car normally needed if one of us is away with the big car, doing different weekend activities etc.

ChrisH72

3,151 posts

83 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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We have just the one 6 year old. Mostly we could manage with one car but there's one day a week where I'm out all day in my car and our son has an after school activity that requires driving to. But in all honesty I like having two cars. You have the perfect opportunity for one family car and something else a bit more joyful. Even if you go for a 2 seater you'd be fine as whoever needs space for 3 uses the family motor. You could probably argue the case for two cars quite successfully with your OH too.

toddygti

96 posts

169 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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3 kids and a dog, both of us work from home predominantly but attend the office one day a week, usually on differing days. We have 1 car that is for family duty, a VW Taigo and I've got a new Cayman S coming and that'll do nicely, my only concern is when I have to leave her indoors with the Porsche.

Puzzles

3,642 posts

142 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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How times have changed! When I were a lad not all that long ago not many families had 2 cars.

Mouse Rat

2,111 posts

123 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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One car is fine. Just be prepared for that car to get trashed.

PD9

2,040 posts

216 months

Monday 1st August 2022
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Edible Roadkill said:
Just now I’ve got a good family car and a cheap yet reliable runaround. We find that most effective.

Biiiig 7 seater suv and a £1k fiesta.
This is the way to go. Decent family car and a run about (for me a modest estate).