Anyone else changed- a nomad. No not scared of Covid
Anyone else changed- a nomad. No not scared of Covid
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anonymous-user

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83 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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loafer123

16,671 posts

244 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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Older people are often more comfortable “in their own skin” as they say.

It is also true that men often have less good/close friends than women.

Personally, I find the idea of a pint or coffee on my own rather nice…I have certainly enjoyed dining alone when travelling on business.


Louis Balfour

28,176 posts

251 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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loafer123 said:
Older people are often more comfortable “in their own skin” as they say.
That's because there is more room!

Not keen on the dining alone thing though. I am down your way for Jazz on the Pantiles next week and will meet with some of my friends down there. I've done it alone but I prefer company.

loafer123

16,671 posts

244 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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Louis Balfour said:
That's because there is more room!
hehe

Hey…I resemble resent that remark…

miniman

30,019 posts

291 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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Solitude is underrated.

anonymous-user

Original Poster:

83 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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i am comfortable with solitude but i know lots of people who need the companionship, horses for courses i suppose.
I'm not saying i avoid contact with other people, i'm happy to talk to complete strangers when away with the caravan or out and about with the misses and part of my role at work means i have to interact with strangers, i've had a twenty minute conversation with some random guy about flying my drone and the rules and regs of what i can and cannot do when flying it but if i'm on my own, i have no problem with that at all.

Shuff4

222 posts

116 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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Solitude is ok, in some ways, but having a companion (wife / partner) to be along side for me is worth so much.


Pit Pony

11,221 posts

150 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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You should speak to your brother.

Douglas Quaid

2,638 posts

114 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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Not wanting friendship any more sounds odd to me. Maybe you’re depressed or something else.

The ability to sit in a cafe on your own is normal but discarding all contact doesn’t sound right.


TimmyMallett

3,188 posts

141 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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No, and I'm in the same boat. I've given it some.thought and just accepted it. I like my own company. I used to worry that I was a bit abnormal that we don't have loads of friends over for bbq's weekend after weekendlike some we know. My wife is similar.

As long as you are happy, that's the important bit.

WY86

1,555 posts

56 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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I absolutely love my own company. Haven't seen my friends in years and don’t miss the social interaction at all. I guess i get enough interaction during the working week that by the weekend i am not to fussed about seeing people. I am close with my sisters and parents though.

Jasandjules

72,580 posts

258 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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May I enquire as to why you are not speaking to your brother? Life is short, if it is something that can be fixed....

Wheel Turned Out

2,356 posts

67 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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All that matters is you're satisfied in yourself - if you are, then nothing is wrong and what anyone else thinks about it is purely background noise.

mnaylor

300 posts

158 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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How do you feel? Are you happy? Deep questions for a forum I know but if you don't feel right I would encourage you to make an appointment with your GP.

It could be nothing to worry about. I have a good friend in his 60's who happily goes out to the pub on his own, out for breakfast, lunch etc. However he still does socialise with friends on occasion.

I am late 30's and while comfortable with my own company the opportunity comes around rarely due to kids and family life. I can see myself doing things more on my own when I am older but I do still enjoy catching up with friends and family.


MikeM6

6,032 posts

131 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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I am currently say at a wedding, longing for some solitude. I see it as becoming more confident in accepting what is important to you and not necessarily conforming to what others see as normal.

Scrump

23,933 posts

187 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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If you are happy sat at home then I don’t think you are a nomad.
Recluse maybe?

Caddyshack

14,753 posts

235 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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I love doing stuff on my own, today I changed 2 motorbike engines…happy as Larry.

I think there needs to be a balance though, I spent 3 nights / 4 days away with wife and daughter in our horse lorry camper last week and had a brilliant time meeting new friends and helping other people do stuff.

It is likely that modern and busy lives have lost sole solitude and we need to seek out some quiet time too.

Mobile Chicane

21,985 posts

241 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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There are very few people I can stand the sight of at the best of times.

COVID gave me the perfect excuse to avoid them.

poo at Paul's

14,601 posts

204 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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Is it yiu withdrawing for them, or them from you, or bit of both? If you’ve had covid 3 times, maybe your friends see you as someone to stay away from!

littleowl

921 posts

262 months

Saturday 3rd September 2022
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I was like this to a certain extent pre-covid & have got more so during & after.

There's nothing wrong with it as such. It doesn't sound like it's making you unhappy though, so while it may not be an issue for you, it may be a problem for others - if your wife is pointing it out.

You can't shut off all contact though, however tempting it may seem.

I'd check in with your brother though - the longer you leave it, the more difficult it will become to make the first move, unless you ceased contact for other reasons.