Absconded Inheritance
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Looking for some advice regarding a sensitive matter.
My father recently died. In his will it he gave his signet ring to my older brother, as he was the oldest.
Our dad separated from our mum when we were little, so upon his death his then partner returned the ring to my grand mother (who's family it came from). She asked my brother if she could keep it for a while as she felt closer to him wearing it. My brother agreed, understanding it would be returned to him later.
My brother has now asked for it back, but she's refusing to return it. Saying she now wants to pass it on to her other son upon her death, with her son then passing it onto my brother.
What can be done about this to get the ring back, without damaging the relationship? This is the only thing my dad left my brother, and it's something we both remember our dad always wearing. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
My father recently died. In his will it he gave his signet ring to my older brother, as he was the oldest.
Our dad separated from our mum when we were little, so upon his death his then partner returned the ring to my grand mother (who's family it came from). She asked my brother if she could keep it for a while as she felt closer to him wearing it. My brother agreed, understanding it would be returned to him later.
My brother has now asked for it back, but she's refusing to return it. Saying she now wants to pass it on to her other son upon her death, with her son then passing it onto my brother.
What can be done about this to get the ring back, without damaging the relationship? This is the only thing my dad left my brother, and it's something we both remember our dad always wearing. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Hi there,
as the last will of your farther is written, confirmed and unchallenged, the ring belongs to your brother. The tricky thing is keeping the relationship together. If you haven't already, I would get a copy of or the original Will and take to the current keeper of the ring and gently remind her that the last will of your father was that this ring pass to your brother. Ask her how she feels about going against your father's last wish, expressed in his Will. If she is adamant about this and you wish to challenge this, suggest that it would be very sad and unfortunate to have to involve a solicitor.
I would also add that if upon receiving the ring your brother gifted to your grandmother that is a different matter but in your text it sounded very much like the ring passed to your grandmother for temporary comfort.
In avoiding the legal route you could always speak to your uncle.
I hope that is of help
as the last will of your farther is written, confirmed and unchallenged, the ring belongs to your brother. The tricky thing is keeping the relationship together. If you haven't already, I would get a copy of or the original Will and take to the current keeper of the ring and gently remind her that the last will of your father was that this ring pass to your brother. Ask her how she feels about going against your father's last wish, expressed in his Will. If she is adamant about this and you wish to challenge this, suggest that it would be very sad and unfortunate to have to involve a solicitor.
I would also add that if upon receiving the ring your brother gifted to your grandmother that is a different matter but in your text it sounded very much like the ring passed to your grandmother for temporary comfort.
In avoiding the legal route you could always speak to your uncle.
I hope that is of help
rb26 said:
Looking for some advice regarding a sensitive matter.
My father recently died. In his will it he gave his signet ring to my older brother, as he was the oldest.
Our dad separated from our mum when we were little, so upon his death his then partner returned the ring to my grand mother (who's family it came from). She asked my brother if she could keep it for a while as she felt closer to him wearing it. My brother agreed, understanding it would be returned to him later.
My brother has now asked for it back, but she's refusing to return it. Saying she now wants to pass it on to her other son upon her death, with her son then passing it onto my brother.
What can be done about this to get the ring back, without damaging the relationship? This is the only thing my dad left my brother, and it's something we both remember our dad always wearing. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
When you mentioned about the Grand Mother wanting the ring for a while I had a feeling what subsequently happened would happen. My father recently died. In his will it he gave his signet ring to my older brother, as he was the oldest.
Our dad separated from our mum when we were little, so upon his death his then partner returned the ring to my grand mother (who's family it came from). She asked my brother if she could keep it for a while as she felt closer to him wearing it. My brother agreed, understanding it would be returned to him later.
My brother has now asked for it back, but she's refusing to return it. Saying she now wants to pass it on to her other son upon her death, with her son then passing it onto my brother.
What can be done about this to get the ring back, without damaging the relationship? This is the only thing my dad left my brother, and it's something we both remember our dad always wearing. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Unfortunate situation. The will is pretty explicit, she has no rights to hold onto it.
fasteddie71 said:
Hi there,
as the last will of your farther is written, confirmed and unchallenged, the ring belongs to your brother. The tricky thing is keeping the relationship together. If you haven't already, I would get a copy of or the original Will and take to the current keeper of the ring and gently remind her that the last will of your father was that this ring pass to your brother. Ask her how she feels about going against your father's last wish, expressed in his Will. If she is adamant about this and you wish to challenge this, suggest that it would be very sad and unfortunate to have to involve a solicitor.
I would also add that if upon receiving the ring your brother gifted to your grandmother that is a different matter but in your text it sounded very much like the ring passed to your grandmother for temporary comfort.
In avoiding the legal route you could always speak to your uncle.
I hope that is of help
Good post.as the last will of your farther is written, confirmed and unchallenged, the ring belongs to your brother. The tricky thing is keeping the relationship together. If you haven't already, I would get a copy of or the original Will and take to the current keeper of the ring and gently remind her that the last will of your father was that this ring pass to your brother. Ask her how she feels about going against your father's last wish, expressed in his Will. If she is adamant about this and you wish to challenge this, suggest that it would be very sad and unfortunate to have to involve a solicitor.
I would also add that if upon receiving the ring your brother gifted to your grandmother that is a different matter but in your text it sounded very much like the ring passed to your grandmother for temporary comfort.
In avoiding the legal route you could always speak to your uncle.
I hope that is of help
Thanks for the replies guys. To update, my brother managed to get the ring off our Granny with some convincing.
My brother and Is relationship, with our fathers side of the family, was destroyed in the course of the divorce when we were 7 and 6 respectively. We both loved our dad, but he was a very flawed man in many respects.
My brother and Is relationship, with our fathers side of the family, was destroyed in the course of the divorce when we were 7 and 6 respectively. We both loved our dad, but he was a very flawed man in many respects.
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