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The initial message was deleted from this topic on 16 October 2024 at 14:23

[cobra kid]

Mine's a bit simpler really and also bit more of a jealousy/self pity kind of post.

I'm 48 (1/2!) and have a 13 yr old son and a 17 yr old daughter. My mum died 24 years ago and my dad 14 years ago. Hence they missed so many significant moments in my adult life. House buying, kids, graduation, foreign travel with work etc.

I almost resent when some people just palm their kids off onto grandparents or can't be bothered to include their parents in their lives.

It's pure jealousy over what might have been. Luckily my daughter knew my dad for three years but he died while my wife was pregnant with our second.

Anyway......

[Al Gorithum]

Hey mate, there are millions of people (much) worse off. Important to remember this.

Our first born is also disabled and was the only child for 10 years. We now have 2 others which was a game-changer.

Wishing you all the best. Hit me up if you want to chat.

[toasty]

Bloody cyclists, grrrr.

[Eric Mc]

I can't stand whingers.

[PositronicRay]

toasty said:

Bloody cyclists, grrrr.

And they do that black lycra thing so difficult to spot at twilight.

[drmotorsport]

There's nothing like having a disabled child to completely disrupt all those plans, lifestyle, social life, relationship, career and business. I can certainly sympathise and know it's super hard. Just value the good experiences that they have brought into your life Chin up, at least you've made a human, which is more that some people have done.

[TimmyMallett]

PositronicRay said:

And they do that black lycra thing so difficult to spot at twilight.

Specifically at twilight? They only come out at twilight in Black, and then later go back in, change and come back out in red? Or they do something WHILE dressed in black AT twilight? What is the black lycra 'thing'?

I don't cycle, I drive and my beef is the other grubby fools in cars, those are the ones that travel faster and do all the crashing. The fact that someone is on a bike in skin tight clothing is the least of my problems. STOP LOOKING at their arses. Perv.

[Jonmx]

I'm a dad to a son with a life limiting genetic condition (will probably get to 40) and he also has quite pronounced autism. He's 5, but a big lad and likes to hit, bite, kick etc, but all with a smile. He lives with my ex wife, but I'm there every evening to help her with the housework, his therapies etc. I have my own issues with severe bipolar and Sarcoidosis. The bipolar managed to destroy my life prior to diagnosis, and I'm still rebuilding everything now, but I am fortunate that friends and family stuck with me at my worst. Life feels relentless, and if something can go wrong, it does. Everytime. I spent 6 months last year providing palliative care for my stepfather on top of all the above, whilst also supporting my father who can no longer walk and was going through bowel cancer and had a stoma fitted.
However, I'm in a position where I'm investing in property with my mother and her funds to try and get to a position where I can support my ex financially as well as with time etc. My lungs have improved to the point where I'm now at 70% efficiency, up from 48% last year. Life is tough, undeniably st at times, but we have no choice but to get on with it. As you know OP, you can come on PH and talk about anything and everything, and there will always be a local PHer to go for a beer with if you're needing a metaphorical shoulder.