2024 - PH Hive mind
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This might well just vaporise but I I need something.
How is your 2024 going so far and what are the short and long term milestones?
I don’t do resolutions, I just try to be a good person and not take things too seriously but this year has just felt like a bit of a non starter. I sound like a right grump as I have more than a lot including a nice house and decent job and the family is well but by god I’m bored. I need a change, I need something new and challenging.
Got my first funeral this week coming, not a surprise but plays on the mind.
Sober 4.5 years, health is “OK” but I need to lose 2 stone at least for it to be where it needs to be.
As this is PH, I probably have the least PH life since I joined back in 2008. No ballistic R1 or fire spitting cars just a white goods Peugeot 508 thing with an EGR fault that is used to ferry us to and from the stables.
I think more about JAYB final post on here and can’t think I’m just living my life one day closer to death, which we all are neut fun and excitement isn’t a factor.
So, what’s happening PH? What’s occurring and does anyone feel the same?
How is your 2024 going so far and what are the short and long term milestones?
I don’t do resolutions, I just try to be a good person and not take things too seriously but this year has just felt like a bit of a non starter. I sound like a right grump as I have more than a lot including a nice house and decent job and the family is well but by god I’m bored. I need a change, I need something new and challenging.
Got my first funeral this week coming, not a surprise but plays on the mind.
Sober 4.5 years, health is “OK” but I need to lose 2 stone at least for it to be where it needs to be.
As this is PH, I probably have the least PH life since I joined back in 2008. No ballistic R1 or fire spitting cars just a white goods Peugeot 508 thing with an EGR fault that is used to ferry us to and from the stables.
I think more about JAYB final post on here and can’t think I’m just living my life one day closer to death, which we all are neut fun and excitement isn’t a factor.
So, what’s happening PH? What’s occurring and does anyone feel the same?
Davie_GLA said:
This might well just vaporise but I I need something.
How is your 2024 going so far and what are the short and long term milestones?
I don’t do resolutions, I just try to be a good person and not take things too seriously but this year has just felt like a bit of a non starter. I sound like a right grump as I have more than a lot including a nice house and decent job and the family is well but by god I’m bored. I need a change, I need something new and challenging.
Got my first funeral this week coming, not a surprise but plays on the mind.
Sober 4.5 years, health is “OK” but I need to lose 2 stone at least for it to be where it needs to be.
As this is PH, I probably have the least PH life since I joined back in 2008. No ballistic R1 or fire spitting cars just a white goods Peugeot 508 thing with an EGR fault that is used to ferry us to and from the stables.
I think more about JAYB final post on here and can’t think I’m just living my life one day closer to death, which we all are neut fun and excitement isn’t a factor.
So, what’s happening PH? What’s occurring and does anyone feel the same?
Give it chance we're less than 2 weeks into 2024.How is your 2024 going so far and what are the short and long term milestones?
I don’t do resolutions, I just try to be a good person and not take things too seriously but this year has just felt like a bit of a non starter. I sound like a right grump as I have more than a lot including a nice house and decent job and the family is well but by god I’m bored. I need a change, I need something new and challenging.
Got my first funeral this week coming, not a surprise but plays on the mind.
Sober 4.5 years, health is “OK” but I need to lose 2 stone at least for it to be where it needs to be.
As this is PH, I probably have the least PH life since I joined back in 2008. No ballistic R1 or fire spitting cars just a white goods Peugeot 508 thing with an EGR fault that is used to ferry us to and from the stables.
I think more about JAYB final post on here and can’t think I’m just living my life one day closer to death, which we all are neut fun and excitement isn’t a factor.
So, what’s happening PH? What’s occurring and does anyone feel the same?
Unfortunately people die all day everyday, funerals are held irrespective of the time of year, not pleasant but it is what it is.
Most peoples lives are humdrum, it isn't just you, but count your blessings as there is always somebody worse off.
Davie_GLA said:
This might well just vaporise but I I need something.
How is your 2024 going so far and what are the short and long term milestones?
I don’t do resolutions, I just try to be a good person and not take things too seriously but this year has just felt like a bit of a non starter. I sound like a right grump as I have more than a lot including a nice house and decent job and the family is well but by god I’m bored. I need a change, I need something new and challenging.
Got my first funeral this week coming, not a surprise but plays on the mind.
Sober 4.5 years, health is “OK” but I need to lose 2 stone at least for it to be where it needs to be.
As this is PH, I probably have the least PH life since I joined back in 2008. No ballistic R1 or fire spitting cars just a white goods Peugeot 508 thing with an EGR fault that is used to ferry us to and from the stables.
I think more about JAYB final post on here and can’t think I’m just living my life one day closer to death, which we all are neut fun and excitement isn’t a factor.
So, what’s happening PH? What’s occurring and does anyone feel the same?
How old are you? How is your 2024 going so far and what are the short and long term milestones?
I don’t do resolutions, I just try to be a good person and not take things too seriously but this year has just felt like a bit of a non starter. I sound like a right grump as I have more than a lot including a nice house and decent job and the family is well but by god I’m bored. I need a change, I need something new and challenging.
Got my first funeral this week coming, not a surprise but plays on the mind.
Sober 4.5 years, health is “OK” but I need to lose 2 stone at least for it to be where it needs to be.
As this is PH, I probably have the least PH life since I joined back in 2008. No ballistic R1 or fire spitting cars just a white goods Peugeot 508 thing with an EGR fault that is used to ferry us to and from the stables.
I think more about JAYB final post on here and can’t think I’m just living my life one day closer to death, which we all are neut fun and excitement isn’t a factor.
So, what’s happening PH? What’s occurring and does anyone feel the same?
Sounds like a classic mid-life crisis!
I say that genuinely so please don't take as dismissive/derogatory.
Thinking about how much time you have left, evaluating material possessions, notion that you should be doing something more interesting etc. Most blokes have the same thoughts at some point.
You can get advice but when it comes down to it, these are your personal feelings on life & it's only you that can change it.
What you do if you had no restrictions?
You mention an R1 above - £3,500 for an older 2003 model with 25K on the clock, could likely sell it for £2,500 in 2-years time.
Potential to own and ride one of the best motorbikes ever produced for £500/year - it's a no-brainer.
What is stopping you?
If not bikes, have a think on what could be a hobby. Anything at all - running, rock-climbing, shooting, remote-control car racing, snooker, litter-picking, wood-working, metal-detecting, event-marshalling, flight lessons etc etc.
Whatever you choose, there will be a local group doing the same nearby & by making contact you can expand your social circle - in all honesty, think that's what you need to break the boredom loop.
I've been there & done it.
In my situation, the only time I could free up was before work so started swimming at a pool that opened at 6am.
Saw the same faces most days and after a couple of weeks, conversation naturally started with people taking rest breaks from lengths or in the changing room. From there, got invited to open-water swimming, games of squash, intro to a snooker place, beers at the pub etc.
Met a load of new people, some of who are still friends today.
I'm not an extrovert, making introductions doesn't come naturally at all.
Hated the thought & took a while for me to realise nothing was going to change if I wasn't prepared to change myself.
Blib said:
A good funeral is one you drive away from.
I come from a large family. 60 odd cousins and most of them are now grandparents. I'm familiar with funerals.I was tickled by your phrase about the only good funeral.
I'll be godfather to a newborn soon whilst looking after an elderly non blood relation. Life goes on.
I can fully accept that as we get older it feels like we have less involvement. But that's optional. Enjoy the moments sounds a bit w
ky self help guru crap but it's true at the same time.How is 2024 going?
So far could do better
Health is mostly okay bar a long term cough - docs say chest and lungs are clear but it could be acid reflux, could be a hiatus hernia, could be something else or it could be the mold in the building i live in
Work wise, same as last year - busy busy
Car wise - changed the horrible Kia for a mazda CX-60
Plans? Do at least one drone flight a week from February. To that end, learn photo shopping. Start writing the book i planned to write years ago but always said i would start tomorrow.
Depending upon the result of the capsule Sponge test i had last week - deeply unpleasant by the way -could mean my other plans are either on hold/good to go or just plain dead in the water.
Outlook? Fair, i am never going to be a millionaire with the dream lifestyle, i will never have perfect health but overall things could always be a lot worse.
I have a roof over my head, i have food in my belly, clothes on my back and a life that some people in the world can only dream about, so i am pretty lucky really
So far could do better
Health is mostly okay bar a long term cough - docs say chest and lungs are clear but it could be acid reflux, could be a hiatus hernia, could be something else or it could be the mold in the building i live in
Work wise, same as last year - busy busy
Car wise - changed the horrible Kia for a mazda CX-60
Plans? Do at least one drone flight a week from February. To that end, learn photo shopping. Start writing the book i planned to write years ago but always said i would start tomorrow.
Depending upon the result of the capsule Sponge test i had last week - deeply unpleasant by the way -could mean my other plans are either on hold/good to go or just plain dead in the water.
Outlook? Fair, i am never going to be a millionaire with the dream lifestyle, i will never have perfect health but overall things could always be a lot worse.
I have a roof over my head, i have food in my belly, clothes on my back and a life that some people in the world can only dream about, so i am pretty lucky really
My 2024 is going OK so far. 2 young kids that I spend the majority of my time looking after.
Health is OK, but I definitely need to try and live healthier. I cycle to work once a week, hoping to make that twice soon (it's a 22 mile round trip).
I own a Megane RS265 as my daily commute/fun car, family car is an X3. I keep toying with selling the Meg, but I also don't want to lose having a fun car, even if I never drive it for fun anymore (see kids above...).
As for OP, it's never too late. Find a hobby, join a club, find like minded people. Have something to look forward to regularly. Be it summer festivals, car shows, comedy clubs, theatre. Enjoy life, it's only here once. I for one cannot wait until the kids are just that little bit older to free up a bit of time!
Health is OK, but I definitely need to try and live healthier. I cycle to work once a week, hoping to make that twice soon (it's a 22 mile round trip).
I own a Megane RS265 as my daily commute/fun car, family car is an X3. I keep toying with selling the Meg, but I also don't want to lose having a fun car, even if I never drive it for fun anymore (see kids above...).
As for OP, it's never too late. Find a hobby, join a club, find like minded people. Have something to look forward to regularly. Be it summer festivals, car shows, comedy clubs, theatre. Enjoy life, it's only here once. I for one cannot wait until the kids are just that little bit older to free up a bit of time!
But it is on the list of things i need to start Different stages of the MLC - did all the car stuff, Caterham etc. when I got to 40 and it worked...for a while.
Now I'm 20 years further on and cars, and material stuff, and being defined by your work, just doesn't do it anymore.
I now find myself drawn to mentoring and passing on my knowledge and experience, of what and what not to do!, to youngsters (doing that with my son was one of the most rewarding phases of my life but now he's 'up' and doing his own thing).
It's so true that you eventually eschew materialism as you get older and look for more meaningful stuff in life - I find myself continuously thinking about it but coming to no particular conclusion.
Mentoring, either work or just life skills, is definately something I will seek out once I've eventually retired though.
Now I'm 20 years further on and cars, and material stuff, and being defined by your work, just doesn't do it anymore.
I now find myself drawn to mentoring and passing on my knowledge and experience, of what and what not to do!, to youngsters (doing that with my son was one of the most rewarding phases of my life but now he's 'up' and doing his own thing).
It's so true that you eventually eschew materialism as you get older and look for more meaningful stuff in life - I find myself continuously thinking about it but coming to no particular conclusion.
Mentoring, either work or just life skills, is definately something I will seek out once I've eventually retired though.
Thanks all. Good to see perspective. Someone asked about midlife crisis I think I peaked to early there and bought the R1 and cars a little early and now any spare cash goes towards my daughters things.
I think I need to take stock and figure out things a day at a time. Without my daughter I don’t think I’d have much to get up for at all which is so selfish given that I have a great job and while not rolling in cash I am getting by. I think I am going to consider going back contracting as well to top off the war chests.
My health needs to continue to be my focus, a single slip will put me back years.
I think I need to take stock and figure out things a day at a time. Without my daughter I don’t think I’d have much to get up for at all which is so selfish given that I have a great job and while not rolling in cash I am getting by. I think I am going to consider going back contracting as well to top off the war chests.
My health needs to continue to be my focus, a single slip will put me back years.
Thanks. I think you’re right. I need to get out of my own head.
Recently I have been thinking about death. What it means and what’s left behind. I am not in the frame of mind to do anything silly but it’s troubling.
In 2019 when I was at my worst with booze and health I made peace and wrote letters to people. Set up things to happen after I go and that focussed the mind.
Not sure why admitting to you lot all of this is cathartic, there are a handful of people on this site I’ve met face to face and at all times project confidence. Fools gold.
Recently I have been thinking about death. What it means and what’s left behind. I am not in the frame of mind to do anything silly but it’s troubling.
In 2019 when I was at my worst with booze and health I made peace and wrote letters to people. Set up things to happen after I go and that focussed the mind.
Not sure why admitting to you lot all of this is cathartic, there are a handful of people on this site I’ve met face to face and at all times project confidence. Fools gold.
Sometimes it's healthy just to talk. Hearing or seeing your thoughts can have an effect on your future behaviour and/or choices. I definitely encourage you reach out to a professional for a chat if nothing else.
Sometimes depression sets in for no reason, at least it did for me. I nearly did something stupid one night when drunk, which made me realise just how screwed up I was mentally. Since that moment I am constantly aware of how I'm feeling.
Death will come for all of us, but that doesn't make it any easier to accept or understand. It's what we do inbetween that matters.
Sometimes depression sets in for no reason, at least it did for me. I nearly did something stupid one night when drunk, which made me realise just how screwed up I was mentally. Since that moment I am constantly aware of how I'm feeling.
Death will come for all of us, but that doesn't make it any easier to accept or understand. It's what we do inbetween that matters.
Davie_GLA said:
Thanks. I think you’re right. I need to get out of my own head.
That's easier said than done though. 
There's a well known saying that hits me - "Wherever I go, there I am!". Means what it says, you can't escape from yourself. Best try to work on trying to be more positive so that the person you carry around with you is a person you like.
I'm mid-50's, morbidly obese and have been single for 15 years now. That may all be connected! Though I still have my sense of humour. My youngest two children still live with me, I'm happy with that, they're 23. Older two children 32 and 28, live away, don't see much of them or the grandchildren.
Started this year hoping to lose the 7.5 stone I really should lose. Back before COVID when I was happier, I lost five stone in ten months by addressing my eating and walking about 1,000 miles. COVID arrived and as an incredibly sociable bloke, I found it difficult to cope with having to be non-sociable. Put all the weight back on inside 18 months. Aiming for similar numbers this year but trying not to be obsessed with it. Have walked about 50 miles so far this year.
Have a full time job, a part time job, a voluntary admin role and a little sideline hobby, all in football. It's too much and I need to declutter my life big time as every night, I can't relax. Would love to sit and read a book but I can't as I don't have time. So given that the stress comes from the voluntary role and the evenings are taken up by the sideline hobby, getting shot of those two. Want to change my full time job but not sure what to. Love the part time job so will keep that going as long as possible.
Good luck OP and maybe a trip to your GP would be a good move. Wish you well.
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