Watching your parents growing older
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anonymous said:
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I remember being a young wipper snapper, and over hearing a conversation: Two older blokes talking about how painful it was to watch. Its like growing older yourself, when you're younger, you feel eternal youth flowing through your own veins. A good thing Im sure. Although growing old is a certainty.UKbob said:
Im still in my late 20's, my parents are in their mid 50's, and my moms back has seen better days Its suprising how painful it can be for us the offspring, watching our parents growing older.
i am like you. it's weird my dad is going so old now. my parents in law to be still have the brother in law to be living with them and it's amazing how much younger they are staying.
without me there to berate him his belt line has been rising and he rambles on about local stuff and him and the wicked step mother are taking more of an interest in the birds in the garden...
>> Edited by baskey on Thursday 15th September 10:20
I would be glad to see my father grow older, unfortunately I will never have the chance
Edited to add... Although I would dearly love to have my father still around to see my son, I do sometimes wonder whether it is worse to lose them in the prime of life but have all the good memories, or to watch them slowly degenerate and end up remembering them as a shell of their former self.
>> Edited by Mrs Fish on Thursday 15th September 10:23
Edited to add... Although I would dearly love to have my father still around to see my son, I do sometimes wonder whether it is worse to lose them in the prime of life but have all the good memories, or to watch them slowly degenerate and end up remembering them as a shell of their former self.
>> Edited by Mrs Fish on Thursday 15th September 10:23
cosmoschick said:
Its suprising how painful it can be for us the offspring, watching our parents growing older.
Worse still, is watching them battling serious illnesses.
I completly agree.
I have to find the positive in every situation. Now I do my best to spend more time with my parents and the time I do spend, I cherish. The most special people in your life, you must do your best to make sure you will never look back and regret.
Mrs Fish said:Why not Mrs Fish, if you're not... sick, then he is?
I would be glad to see my father grow older, unfortunately I will never have the chance
Edited to add... Although I would dearly love to have my father still around to see my son, I do sometimes wonder whether it is worse to lose them in the prime of life but have all the good memories, or to watch them slowly degenerate and end up remembering them as a shell of their former self.
>> Edited by Mrs Fish on Thursday 15th September 10:23
Yes it is tragic I lost both of them. I lost my mum last year (81) she was slowly turning into a child. Very sad to see. 
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My father kept looking back on his life and remembering how he was (86) that was 5 years ago and we only seemed to connect about 6 months before the end.
Trouble is you now want them more. I am only 40! so they were always much older.
. My father kept looking back on his life and remembering how he was (86) that was 5 years ago and we only seemed to connect about 6 months before the end.
Trouble is you now want them more. I am only 40! so they were always much older.
My Dads 85, and still fit and healthy, farms an acre of land, plays the piano, shaves every day and still looks rather dashing.
My Mum has always appeared older than her years, and now as she she turns 70 and continues to fight a long dignified battle with breast cancer, I think she looks surprisingly good.
I do hope life will be kind to them and allow them not to be apart for too long when the time comes
My Mum has always appeared older than her years, and now as she she turns 70 and continues to fight a long dignified battle with breast cancer, I think she looks surprisingly good.
I do hope life will be kind to them and allow them not to be apart for too long when the time comes
UKbob said:
I would be glad to see my father grow older, unfortunately I will never have the chance
Edited to add... Although I would dearly love to have my father still around to see my son, I do sometimes wonder whether it is worse to lose them in the prime of life but have all the good memories, or to watch them slowly degenerate and end up remembering them as a shell of their former self.
>> Edited by Mrs Fish on Thursday 15th September 10:23
Why not Mrs Fish, if you're not... sick, then he is?
He died in January this year aged 59
Mrs Fish said:
I would be glad to see my father grow older, unfortunately I will never have the chance
Edited to add... Although I would dearly love to have my father still around to see my son, I do sometimes wonder whether it is worse to lose them in the prime of life but have all the good memories, or to watch them slowly degenerate and end up remembering them as a shell of their former self.
>> Edited by Mrs Fish on Thursday 15th September 10:23
my mum died when she was 45 it wasn't fun and it took a while to get over but i'd rather people died quickly and happy than as you say 'degenerate slowly'. thankfully most people in my family have gone quickly due to brains, hearts or both packing up quickly. there'd be nothing worse than going def and blind and dying over 12 years or something.
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