Dating - The crazy world out there
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https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn01z4gylqyo
Interesting if disturbing recount of the experience of dating in current times.
Interesting if disturbing recount of the experience of dating in current times.
I read this yesterday and I did think that there is the elephant in the room that he still had a lot of baggage from his deceased wife and that will, I'm sure, not have helped in his dating. I imagine there was a lot of 'but my wife didn't do that' or similar when meeting/dating new partners.
Huzzah said:
TBF nothing has changed much since I was at it 35 yrs ago, except no Internet then.
I think a lot has changed even since I left the dating pool under 20 years ago. Tinder and similar has skewed peoples views on dating massively. I have a mate who is still trying to date and about to turn 40. I hear some very funny stories. Jamescrs said:
Huzzah said:
TBF nothing has changed much since I was at it 35 yrs ago, except no Internet then.
I think a lot has changed even since I left the dating pool under 20 years ago. Tinder and similar has skewed peoples views on dating massively. I have a mate who is still trying to date and about to turn 40. I hear some very funny stories. What options would your nearly-40 mate have 20 years ago? Meet someone at work / a friend introduce him to someone?
Try and find mates his age to go out to try and meet someone?
Or have the whole world of dating on his phone (plus the above)?
Surprised the guy in the article was able to have so much success with online dating. I know a lot of single blokes who get nowhere with it.
I met my wife through online dating but I still think it's one of the main reasons over 50% of people are single and birth rates are completely through the floor.
Speaking generically, the top 10% of men interact with 80% of the women and the other 90% of men struggle. 2 people that live locally, would be perfectly matched and would have married in previous generations now rarely do. She gets an occasional date but never commitment from the best looking, most successful men (who quickly move onto the next one) and then won't look at the middling man. Both end up single or find eachother later in life when it's more difficult to have kids.
I met my wife through online dating but I still think it's one of the main reasons over 50% of people are single and birth rates are completely through the floor.
Speaking generically, the top 10% of men interact with 80% of the women and the other 90% of men struggle. 2 people that live locally, would be perfectly matched and would have married in previous generations now rarely do. She gets an occasional date but never commitment from the best looking, most successful men (who quickly move onto the next one) and then won't look at the middling man. Both end up single or find eachother later in life when it's more difficult to have kids.
MrBogSmith said:
Jamescrs said:
Huzzah said:
TBF nothing has changed much since I was at it 35 yrs ago, except no Internet then.
I think a lot has changed even since I left the dating pool under 20 years ago. Tinder and similar has skewed peoples views on dating massively. I have a mate who is still trying to date and about to turn 40. I hear some very funny stories. What options would your nearly-40 mate have 20 years ago? Meet someone at work / a friend introduce him to someone?
Try and find mates his age to go out to try and meet someone?
Or have the whole world of dating on his phone (plus the above)?
What I find most interesting in dating stories is the fairly consistent commentary from those attached, that thank God they no longer have to date! For an activity that we are meant to enjoy and so many of us spent our younger lives devoting so much of our attention to, it is somewhat amazing how horrified our older selves are by it now!
GMT13 said:
Surprised the guy in the article was able to have so much success with online dating. I know a lot of single blokes who get nowhere with it.
I met my wife through online dating but I still think it's one of the main reasons over 50% of people are single and birth rates are completely through the floor.
Speaking generically, the top 10% of men interact with 80% of the women and the other 90% of men struggle. 2 people that live locally, would be perfectly matched and would have married in previous generations now rarely do. She gets an occasional date but never commitment from the best looking, most successful men (who quickly move onto the next one) and then won't look at the middling man. Both end up single or find eachother later in life when it's more difficult to have kids.
Yes, when I clicked on the thread I was expecting more that rather some of the women he meets being understandably wary of a widower with 3 kids. I met my wife through online dating but I still think it's one of the main reasons over 50% of people are single and birth rates are completely through the floor.
Speaking generically, the top 10% of men interact with 80% of the women and the other 90% of men struggle. 2 people that live locally, would be perfectly matched and would have married in previous generations now rarely do. She gets an occasional date but never commitment from the best looking, most successful men (who quickly move onto the next one) and then won't look at the middling man. Both end up single or find eachother later in life when it's more difficult to have kids.
I've been with my wife for a very long time but I don't think I'd go on any dating website.
I worked with a couple of ladies who were on dating sites - they literally went out every night and from her stories was going the full deal. She thought that she was unlucky in love but in reality she was in denial. She loved the fun of it.
I think if you are even mildly attractive it could bring out the nasty side of your personality/desires. For everyone else there's just an endless stream of rejection.
I worked with a couple of ladies who were on dating sites - they literally went out every night and from her stories was going the full deal. She thought that she was unlucky in love but in reality she was in denial. She loved the fun of it.
I think if you are even mildly attractive it could bring out the nasty side of your personality/desires. For everyone else there's just an endless stream of rejection.
Hugo Stiglitz said:
I've been with my wife for a very long time but I don't think I'd go on any dating website.
I worked with a couple of ladies who were on dating sites - they literally went out every night and from her stories was going the full deal. She thought that she was unlucky in love but in reality she was in denial. She loved the fun of it.
I think if you are even mildly attractive it could bring out the nasty side of your personality/desires. For everyone else there's just an endless stream of rejection.
And based on the stats the men on the sites are more likely to be rejected than the women, which will likely prove a bit depressing for them. I worked with a couple of ladies who were on dating sites - they literally went out every night and from her stories was going the full deal. She thought that she was unlucky in love but in reality she was in denial. She loved the fun of it.
I think if you are even mildly attractive it could bring out the nasty side of your personality/desires. For everyone else there's just an endless stream of rejection.
Hugo Stiglitz said:
I worked with a couple of ladies who were on dating sites - they literally went out every night and from her stories was going the full deal.
I have to say that I’d not go near a lass who has been on one of these sites. There’s more than a fair chance that they’ve seen an awful lot of, er, action. Dog Star said:
Hugo Stiglitz said:
I worked with a couple of ladies who were on dating sites - they literally went out every night and from her stories was going the full deal.
I have to say that I’d not go near a lass who has been on one of these sites. There’s more than a fair chance that they’ve seen an awful lot of, er, action. Mr Pointy said:
Why would that be an issue? It doesn't wear out you know.
There is a theory that some modern women struggle to form permanent attachments due to number of prior partners. What we call love is often just pair bonding driven by chemicals released during intercourse, followed of course by a longer term attachment driven by familiarity. I'm glad I'm not having to deal with that. At 47 I can say that if things fell apart between my Wife and I, I'd happily ride out the rest of it single.
Some of my mates were doing the whole online dating thing a few years ago, seemed like an utter clusterf
k. People seem to be searching for relationships like they're shopping for a washing machine, it has to have A, but not B, must be C, but if there's D no way etc. Mostly superficial / material things. The whole idea of "someone I might be happy spending time with" doesn't seem to be part of it.
If the 'Loveislanders' are in any way representative of people in their 20s today, it must be 10 times worse. They're looking for social accessories not people. It's usually on when I'm home, I can't imagine how a group of outwardly pretty people can be quiet so soulless and twisted. They need counselling, not putting on a TV pedestal.
Some of my mates were doing the whole online dating thing a few years ago, seemed like an utter clusterf
k. People seem to be searching for relationships like they're shopping for a washing machine, it has to have A, but not B, must be C, but if there's D no way etc. Mostly superficial / material things. The whole idea of "someone I might be happy spending time with" doesn't seem to be part of it. If the 'Loveislanders' are in any way representative of people in their 20s today, it must be 10 times worse. They're looking for social accessories not people. It's usually on when I'm home, I can't imagine how a group of outwardly pretty people can be quiet so soulless and twisted. They need counselling, not putting on a TV pedestal.
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