People who are always late
Discussion
Firstly, I know I am OCD about being on time.
I've had a lot of hospital appointments recently and generally arrive 30 minutes before the allotted time. (Mostly because the next town has roadworks which have been very unpredictable).
However my eldest sibling is habitually late. Anywhere up to an hour. We have got over this by telling them an hour earlier than everyone else, but this doesn't always work.
It used to be really annoying on Christmas Day. Dinner was at 1pm and they would be there at two. All the other kids would be starving and eating the chocolate meant for post dinner. I used to say to my Mum, just dish up the dinner, but we had to wait for the golden child and their brood.
Christmas Day dinners are no longer a thing since the passing of the parents.
I really don't have any tolerance for people who are habitually late. It is almost as if they are saying that their time is more important than yours.
I went for an interview once and was kept waiting for 30 minutes in reception. I got up and left after thanking the receptionist for the coffee, and explaining why I was leaving. She gave me a massive grin, which made me think I had dodged a bullet.
I've had a lot of hospital appointments recently and generally arrive 30 minutes before the allotted time. (Mostly because the next town has roadworks which have been very unpredictable).
However my eldest sibling is habitually late. Anywhere up to an hour. We have got over this by telling them an hour earlier than everyone else, but this doesn't always work.
It used to be really annoying on Christmas Day. Dinner was at 1pm and they would be there at two. All the other kids would be starving and eating the chocolate meant for post dinner. I used to say to my Mum, just dish up the dinner, but we had to wait for the golden child and their brood.
Christmas Day dinners are no longer a thing since the passing of the parents.
I really don't have any tolerance for people who are habitually late. It is almost as if they are saying that their time is more important than yours.
I went for an interview once and was kept waiting for 30 minutes in reception. I got up and left after thanking the receptionist for the coffee, and explaining why I was leaving. She gave me a massive grin, which made me think I had dodged a bullet.
Sister & family were always late for Christmas/Boxing day family meet & lunch at our parents. Used to wind us all up. I suggested we "run a book" on what time they would arrive and put 50p each in the pot, winner takes all.
For some reason the BIL got the right hump and barely spoke for the rest of the day, which was a bonus.
For some reason the BIL got the right hump and barely spoke for the rest of the day, which was a bonus.
t losing, dummy spitting reaction from me. It reaaaaally is just about the only thing that will get that reaction too. Grrrrrr, Arrrrrrrrghhh, no, just no.markymarkthree said:
Sister & family were always late for Christmas/Boxing day family meet & lunch at our parents. Used to wind us all up. I suggested we "run a book" on what time they would arrive and put 50p each in the pot, winner takes all.
For some reason the BIL got the right hump and barely spoke for the rest of the day, which was a bonus.
For some reason the BIL got the right hump and barely spoke for the rest of the day, which was a bonus.
Might have to do this.
One family member is always late for major gatherings like this. Recently he turned up 4 hours late.
Spare tyre said:
Height of bad manners
Agreed, it is basically saying that they are more important than everyone else and they effectively don't care about anybody else.I once had a Tinder date with a girl who was 20 minutes late, she lived a 3 minute walk from the pub (hence why she picked it), immediately put me off.
I LOVE watching the YouTube video's where the last few cruise ship passengers turn up late as the ship is leaving and expect it to stop and collect them. They literally warn you about ten times before you leave the ship, yet they still can't manage to get there on time. These seem to be the sort of people who think that the rules are for "other people" and that they are somehow more important.
My sister in law refuses to fly a certain airline and will tell you how rubbish they are. The reason? She turned up to the check in desk five minutes after boarding had closed and they wouldn't let her board. I honestly think she thought the 180 odd passengers who managed to get there on time should have waited for her (and no doubt miss their take off slot).
ThingsBehindTheSun said:
Spare tyre said:
Height of bad manners
Agreed, it is basically saying that they are more important than everyone else and they effectively don't care about anybody else.I once had a Tinder date with a girl who was 20 minutes late, she lived a 3 minute walk from the pub (hence why she picked it), immediately put me off.
I LOVE watching the YouTube video's where the last few cruise ship passengers turn up late as the ship is leaving and expect it to stop and collect them. They literally warn you about ten times before you leave the ship, yet they still can't manage to get there on time. These seem to be the sort of people who think that the rules are for "other people" and that they are somehow more important.
My sister in law refuses to fly a certain airline and will tell you how rubbish they are. The reason? She turned up to the check in desk five minutes after boarding had closed and they wouldn't let her board. I honestly think she thought the 180 odd passengers who managed to get there on time should have waited for her (and no doubt miss their take off slot).
When you say that’s 5 hours combined, she looks puzzled
RDMcG said:
It is an odd thing- the always late are inevitably the same people. Years ago I was reporting to a very punctual CEO. On his first staff meeting after joining he locked the door at precisely 9am when the meeting was scheduled.
Nobody was late again.
It's not very odd. It's widely acknowledged that people with ADHD and some forms of ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder) find keeping time extraordinarily difficult because they don't have an internal sense of time. Imagine you lived your life constantly being distracted by everything, and had no ability to internally gauge how long you were spending on something. Not only that, but the amount of focus needed to accomplish every task means you forget about everything else you are supposed to be doing. They also find it difficult to gauge how long it will take to do something, so that even if they manage to start in good time, they may have wildly underestimated how long it will take.Nobody was late again.
Such people aren't lazy or uncaring about keeping to your schedule, it's a physical inability to function the same way as you. And if they are undiagnosed and do not have access to medication, then they have very few resources to help them function better.
If the host of a work call or meeting is more than 5 minutes late, I end the call or walk out of the meeting room. They eventually dial in or arrive and tell me they are ready, I tell them I’ve moved onto another piece of work and they should reschedule and send me another meeting request. If they kick off I tell them it’s rude and disrespectful.
RDMcG said:
It is an odd thing- the always late are inevitably the same people. Years ago I was reporting to a very punctual CEO. On his first staff meeting after joining he locked the door at precisely 9am when the meeting was scheduled.
Nobody was late again.
Don't accommodate it. Late for lunch or a meeting? Start without them. Nobody was late again.
I wouldn't be late for anything important but if we're meeting say in the pub then I won't agree to anything other than a rough time, E.g 3.00-3.15.
I am Mr Punctual and always have been - I think part of it is that I hate rushing and the other is a respect for the person or people I'm meeting.
I can't think of the last time I was late for anything, I always plan to get anywhere 20 minute early - which irritates Mrs NDA (not massively) as she doesn't like hanging about waiting for the allotted hour.
I can't think of the last time I was late for anything, I always plan to get anywhere 20 minute early - which irritates Mrs NDA (not massively) as she doesn't like hanging about waiting for the allotted hour.
NDA said:
I am Mr Punctual and always have been - I think part of it is that I hate rushing and the other is a respect for the person or people I'm meeting.
I can't think of the last time I was late for anything, I always plan to get anywhere 20 minute early - which irritates Mrs NDA (not massively) as she doesn't like hanging about waiting for the allotted hour.
That's interesting. It would seriously annoy me if you turned up at mine 20 minutes early. Far more than if you were 20 minutes late. I can't think of the last time I was late for anything, I always plan to get anywhere 20 minute early - which irritates Mrs NDA (not massively) as she doesn't like hanging about waiting for the allotted hour.
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