Asking friends for a huge favour
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Morning. It won't be long until I have to move out of what I've always called home. I won't have the money to buy a place of my own until things are sorted financially and so I'm going to be without a place to stay for several months, maybe a tad longer.
I've had several friends come forward and say that I can crash with them, but it's an awful thing to ask for and a real imposition. Has anyone asked friends for help like this? I'm a bit worried it could ruin the friendship.
Simon.
I've had several friends come forward and say that I can crash with them, but it's an awful thing to ask for and a real imposition. Has anyone asked friends for help like this? I'm a bit worried it could ruin the friendship.
Simon.
A friend of my wife’s moved in with us for 3 months while she went through a divorce.
It worked out fine - she cooked, cleaned, looked after the kids, bought food and generally got involved in family duties as if she was one of the family.
I would say 3 months was the absolute limit though.
Personally I’d rather rent a bedsit than house share with friends.
It worked out fine - she cooked, cleaned, looked after the kids, bought food and generally got involved in family duties as if she was one of the family.
I would say 3 months was the absolute limit though.
Personally I’d rather rent a bedsit than house share with friends.
JQ said:
A friend of my wife’s moved in with us for 3 months while she went through a divorce.
It worked out fine - she cooked, cleaned, looked after the kids, bought food and generally got involved in family duties as if she was one of the family.
I would say 3 months was the absolute limit though.
Personally I’d rather rent a bedsit than house share with friends.
Thank you, so it can work then? I forgot to say, that all the Friends that have offered, are living alone, and are mainly single, they just happen to have a spare room.It worked out fine - she cooked, cleaned, looked after the kids, bought food and generally got involved in family duties as if she was one of the family.
I would say 3 months was the absolute limit though.
Personally I’d rather rent a bedsit than house share with friends.
Simon Bags said:
JQ said:
A friend of my wife’s moved in with us for 3 months while she went through a divorce.
It worked out fine - she cooked, cleaned, looked after the kids, bought food and generally got involved in family duties as if she was one of the family.
I would say 3 months was the absolute limit though.
Personally I’d rather rent a bedsit than house share with friends.
Thank you, so it can work then? I forgot to say, that all the Friends that have offered, are living alone, and are mainly single, they just happen to have a spare room.It worked out fine - she cooked, cleaned, looked after the kids, bought food and generally got involved in family duties as if she was one of the family.
I would say 3 months was the absolute limit though.
Personally I’d rather rent a bedsit than house share with friends.
As others have said, pay your way, buy food, clean the house, cook, don’t make a mess, be an asset to the household. Offer to split bills, if they refuse, pay them back by taking them out for meals or some other treat.
Had my wife’s friend treated our house like a hotel she’d have lasted 5 minutes.
Simon Bags said:
Thank you, so it can work then? I forgot to say, that all the Friends that have offered, are living alone, and are mainly single, they just happen to have a spare room.
I could see it going either way with single friends; either they will love the company, or they will hate their routines being disturbed. JQ said:
That makes it easier then.
As others have said, pay your way, buy food, clean the house, cook, don’t make a mess, be an asset to the household. Offer to split bills, if they refuse, pay them back by taking them out for meals or some other treat.
Had my wife’s friend treated our house like a hotel she’d have lasted 5 minutes.
I would absolutely make sure I'm helping with everything you've said.As others have said, pay your way, buy food, clean the house, cook, don’t make a mess, be an asset to the household. Offer to split bills, if they refuse, pay them back by taking them out for meals or some other treat.
Had my wife’s friend treated our house like a hotel she’d have lasted 5 minutes.
Simon Bags said:
JQ said:
That makes it easier then.
As others have said, pay your way, buy food, clean the house, cook, don’t make a mess, be an asset to the household. Offer to split bills, if they refuse, pay them back by taking them out for meals or some other treat.
Had my wife’s friend treated our house like a hotel she’d have lasted 5 minutes.
I would absolutely make sure I'm helping with everything you've said.As others have said, pay your way, buy food, clean the house, cook, don’t make a mess, be an asset to the household. Offer to split bills, if they refuse, pay them back by taking them out for meals or some other treat.
Had my wife’s friend treated our house like a hotel she’d have lasted 5 minutes.
I would say ask for what they want and expect and talk it all through first. Some people will think it best to keep out of the way so will treat it like a hotel which might be what the friend would also prefer, some might prefer the company and want you around all of the time.
You won't know what they want if you don't sit down and have a chat about it over a beer or something first and that's where it can all go tits up.
Definitely chip in financially, help with the cleaning, make as little disruption as possible and don't out stay your welcome.
I had a few people live with me when I was younger as I was one of the first with my own place, didn't kill a single one and we all stayed friends after
You won't know what they want if you don't sit down and have a chat about it over a beer or something first and that's where it can all go tits up.
Definitely chip in financially, help with the cleaning, make as little disruption as possible and don't out stay your welcome.
I had a few people live with me when I was younger as I was one of the first with my own place, didn't kill a single one and we all stayed friends after
s p a c e m a n said:
I would say ask for what they want and expect and talk it all through first. Some people will think it best to keep out of the way so will treat it like a hotel which might be what the friend would also prefer, some might prefer the company and want you around all of the time.
You won't know what they want if you don't sit down and have a chat about it over a beer or something first and that's where it can all go tits up.
Definitely chip in financially, help with the cleaning, make as little disruption as possible and don't out stay your welcome.
I had a few people live with me when I was younger as I was one of the first with my own place, didn't kill a single one and we all stayed friends after
I would certainly be doing that, in fact I'd get them to put things in writing.You won't know what they want if you don't sit down and have a chat about it over a beer or something first and that's where it can all go tits up.
Definitely chip in financially, help with the cleaning, make as little disruption as possible and don't out stay your welcome.
I had a few people live with me when I was younger as I was one of the first with my own place, didn't kill a single one and we all stayed friends after
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