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bobtail4x4 said:
I used to find that mates wifes didnt like the idea of me being single,
one fixed me up 3 times with different girls,
Thats not altruistic. one fixed me up 3 times with different girls,
Single men are likely to take their partners out on "guys nights"
If their partners go out they might meet a lady better than themselves.
And will be part exchanged.
Better to get the single friend tied up, so it reduces the ability of their partners to go out without them
I know. I'm the single friend!
BunkMoreland said:
bobtail4x4 said:
I used to find that mates wifes didnt like the idea of me being single,
one fixed me up 3 times with different girls,
Thats not altruistic. one fixed me up 3 times with different girls,
Single men are likely to take their partners out on "guys nights"
If their partners go out they might meet a lady better than themselves.
And will be part exchanged.
Better to get the single friend tied up, so it reduces the ability of their partners to go out without them
I know. I'm the single friend!
BunkMoreland said:
Thats not altruistic.
Single men are likely to take their partners out on "guys nights"
If their partners go out they might meet a lady better than themselves.
And will be part exchanged.
Better to get the single friend tied up, so it reduces the ability of their partners to go out without them
I know. I'm the single friend!
I don't follow.Single men are likely to take their partners out on "guys nights"
If their partners go out they might meet a lady better than themselves.
And will be part exchanged.
Better to get the single friend tied up, so it reduces the ability of their partners to go out without them
I know. I'm the single friend!
Single men don't have partners (by definition) so how can they take them along on a 'guys' night out when the partner doesn't exist?
Getting on Plenty of Fish or Tinder is in my opinion the most realistic way of finding someone quickly. If it's not working, you're likely not using it efficiently.
If you're determined to meet someone in person, the idea being that it's more organic, then take up a hobby that tends to be gender balanced.
Outside of that, attend every work do, wedding, funeral, birthday or any other social gathering you can get to. Get comfortable in talking to people, and look for clues that someone is single.
No point waiting for someone to fall into your lap, keep being proactive.
If you're determined to meet someone in person, the idea being that it's more organic, then take up a hobby that tends to be gender balanced.
Outside of that, attend every work do, wedding, funeral, birthday or any other social gathering you can get to. Get comfortable in talking to people, and look for clues that someone is single.
No point waiting for someone to fall into your lap, keep being proactive.
OP I feel your pain, dating apps are full of damaged people incapable of having a relationship hence why they are on the apps. Women do not struggle for male attention and the good ones are not sitting around waiting, so the apps are like a reverse filter. The very good looking ones are just there to boost their Instagram followers “I don’t come on here much better to contact me on iG @“ we’ve all seen it.
In answer to your question, get out and about, coffee shops restaurants, pubs even if it’s on your own there will be hundreds of women that pass you by and you only need to hit it off with one.
In answer to your question, get out and about, coffee shops restaurants, pubs even if it’s on your own there will be hundreds of women that pass you by and you only need to hit it off with one.
t to find a diamond.Magnum 475 said:
Not sure if it s still the case, as I ve been married for years .
Ceroc. Salsa.
Most blokes don t dance. Ceroc & Salsa classes always used to have more women than men. That gives you plenty of choice!
I've a 22 year old son reporting that salsa classes are indeed stuffed with the ladies....he is in NZ mind.Ceroc. Salsa.
Most blokes don t dance. Ceroc & Salsa classes always used to have more women than men. That gives you plenty of choice!
Find something you enjoy doing then a join a club.
Enjoy yourself, get to know the people there and have fun, you may find someone but don't be pushy, just let stuff happen. You will probably make some new friends as well (which can be difficult) but a couple of years down the line, it may lead to something else.
Pretty much what happened to me, and several others in my club.
Enjoy yourself, get to know the people there and have fun, you may find someone but don't be pushy, just let stuff happen. You will probably make some new friends as well (which can be difficult) but a couple of years down the line, it may lead to something else.
Pretty much what happened to me, and several others in my club.
How old are you OP and what are your social interests?
I met my wife 13yrs ago when I was 40, in a dive bar during Reading Festival. We hit it off chatting about bands and it was immediately obvious that we had a lot of similar interests.
We’ve been together ever since, now got a 10yo kid who I took to Glastonbury last month - she couldn’t go as she works in a school, unlucky!
I met my wife 13yrs ago when I was 40, in a dive bar during Reading Festival. We hit it off chatting about bands and it was immediately obvious that we had a lot of similar interests.
We’ve been together ever since, now got a 10yo kid who I took to Glastonbury last month - she couldn’t go as she works in a school, unlucky!
SDarks said:
OP I feel your pain, dating apps are full of damaged people incapable of having a relationship hence why they are on the apps. Women do not struggle for male attention and the good ones are not sitting around waiting, so the apps are like a reverse filter. The very good looking ones are just there to boost their Instagram followers I don t come on here much better to contact me on iG @ we ve all seen it.
In answer to your question, get out and about, coffee shops restaurants, pubs even if it s on your own there will be hundreds of women that pass you by and you only need to hit it off with one.
Not so sure about women struggling for male attention. I was out last week with Miss Java 2023 and two of her friends, met her in a bar I own. I would add that she is 24 and I’m 57 and married - so that’s all very much above board. In answer to your question, get out and about, coffee shops restaurants, pubs even if it s on your own there will be hundreds of women that pass you by and you only need to hit it off with one.
Said I’d show them a few local evening spots the next night. She was complaining that guys are too intimidated by her looks, training as a doctor and expertise in martial arts. They hit on her friends but not her.
I’ve heard this before from other beautiful women. It’s either too intimidated or they are approached by guys who define themselves by watches and cars.
(Here it’s overly confident crypto/influencer man-buns immediately telling you how many villas they are building…ya but like the environment ya…here are three villas I’m building on a rice field…)
Mind you a mate nearly got stabbed by Miss Peru who also flushed get his passport and wallet down the loo. so there is that……Also a Miss mongolia took hours to get ready to just go to the local shops when a friend was dating her in China. He got fed up and dumped her.
I have a niece just signed by a modelling agency who would give the same story. Struggles to get a date.
My advice - what’s worked for me anyway - is play music. Chicks dig music, man.
I did an impromptu music set in a bar - ended up married.
Currently have a decent ish looking young chap who does some DJing for me; never short of women!
If I was single, please god no, I’d play music more often. Easy to chat to women who are already feeling good about you because you are making them feel good.
Pebbles167 said:
Outside of that, attend every work do, wedding, funeral, birthday or any other social gathering you can get to.
Funerals are a great place for this as there’s a 50% chance of their being a woman there who has very recently lost her husband, has a life assurance policy that’s about to get cashed, and needs a shoulder to cry onKerching
Oh, and you’ll get to attack a buffet too. Double win.
I did my fair share of dating, I found apps and sites were great for one thing, but meeting well adjusted, decent women you would want to settle down with wasn't it. I won't elaborate as it's crude but I think you get my drift.
Meeting people in real life is the best plan and really I just reiterate what's already been said, step 1 actually meet people, work, clubs/groups/hobbies (not nightclubs), friends social groups. One point I actually disagree with is going to dancing classes etc. it's a bit like internet dating, yes you will meet people, but unless dancing is something you really enjoy anyway you aren't going to meet a good match for you, do things you enjoy, even if it's train spotting and startrek conventions, yes it will be a total sausage fest, but if you do meet a woman there she will be in to the same things as you, and that's hugely important in a relationship imo.
Step 2 and this is where your edge comes over your fellow Trekkies/spotters. Learn to talk to women without giggling like a child or asking weird inappropriate questions. Chances are you are a normal human being who can do this, but it's amazing how many blokes are either at the idolise and are terrified to talk to a woman or have some sort of weird woman hating thing going on in the background with odd views. Just be normal, women are just like men, a range of different personalities and views, there are plenty out there who will share yours, find common ground, chat, laugh a bit, ask her out for a drink sometime, "sorry I need to go as I've got X on, but it was really nice meeting you (gauge response), do you fancy a drink or something sometime?" Worst she will say is variations on no. Move on and find another.
Actually that's probably the biggest difference between men who are perceived to be good with women and men who aren't, don't get me wrong being an Adonis and being able to charm a nun in to bed are all helpful, but the successful men know when to give up and move on, some women just aren't in to you, when I met my wife she was just out of a relationship, a work colleague was trying to chat her up, we both had similar financial situations, I wouldn't say I'm better looking, our personalities are very different. He didn't get anywhere with her, but she and I hit it off and ended up married,there's nothing wrong with him, he just wasn't her type. He did make a pest of himself not giving up, don't be that guy, persistence isn't the key in most cases. It's the lead up to being a stalker.
Meeting people in real life is the best plan and really I just reiterate what's already been said, step 1 actually meet people, work, clubs/groups/hobbies (not nightclubs), friends social groups. One point I actually disagree with is going to dancing classes etc. it's a bit like internet dating, yes you will meet people, but unless dancing is something you really enjoy anyway you aren't going to meet a good match for you, do things you enjoy, even if it's train spotting and startrek conventions, yes it will be a total sausage fest, but if you do meet a woman there she will be in to the same things as you, and that's hugely important in a relationship imo.
Step 2 and this is where your edge comes over your fellow Trekkies/spotters. Learn to talk to women without giggling like a child or asking weird inappropriate questions. Chances are you are a normal human being who can do this, but it's amazing how many blokes are either at the idolise and are terrified to talk to a woman or have some sort of weird woman hating thing going on in the background with odd views. Just be normal, women are just like men, a range of different personalities and views, there are plenty out there who will share yours, find common ground, chat, laugh a bit, ask her out for a drink sometime, "sorry I need to go as I've got X on, but it was really nice meeting you (gauge response), do you fancy a drink or something sometime?" Worst she will say is variations on no. Move on and find another.
Actually that's probably the biggest difference between men who are perceived to be good with women and men who aren't, don't get me wrong being an Adonis and being able to charm a nun in to bed are all helpful, but the successful men know when to give up and move on, some women just aren't in to you, when I met my wife she was just out of a relationship, a work colleague was trying to chat her up, we both had similar financial situations, I wouldn't say I'm better looking, our personalities are very different. He didn't get anywhere with her, but she and I hit it off and ended up married,there's nothing wrong with him, he just wasn't her type. He did make a pest of himself not giving up, don't be that guy, persistence isn't the key in most cases. It's the lead up to being a stalker.
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