how did you become happy?
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I worry about the things that I can control, everything else is water off a duck's back.
Focusing on my fitness this year has done wonders for my mental health, along with a new prescription for Fluoxetine.
I've struggled with MH since my Dad died in a hit and run back in 2018. I just stopped caring about myself, comfort ate, smoked weed, was on my phone in front of my kids constantly. I decided this year that it's a stupid way to deal with grief and I was making life difficult for my immediate family. I'm a different person now, it's made such a difference.
Focusing on my fitness this year has done wonders for my mental health, along with a new prescription for Fluoxetine.
I've struggled with MH since my Dad died in a hit and run back in 2018. I just stopped caring about myself, comfort ate, smoked weed, was on my phone in front of my kids constantly. I decided this year that it's a stupid way to deal with grief and I was making life difficult for my immediate family. I'm a different person now, it's made such a difference.
Discendo Discimus said:
I worry about the things that I can control, everything else is water off a duck's back.
Focusing on my fitness this year has done wonders for my mental health, along with a new prescription for Fluoxetine.
I've struggled with MH since my Dad died in a hit and run back in 2018. I just stopped caring about myself, comfort ate, smoked weed, was on my phone in front of my kids constantly. I decided this year that it's a stupid way to deal with grief and I was making life difficult for my immediate family. I'm a different person now, it's made such a difference.
Well done you, it takes a lot to be able to spot it, realise it then do something about it.Focusing on my fitness this year has done wonders for my mental health, along with a new prescription for Fluoxetine.
I've struggled with MH since my Dad died in a hit and run back in 2018. I just stopped caring about myself, comfort ate, smoked weed, was on my phone in front of my kids constantly. I decided this year that it's a stupid way to deal with grief and I was making life difficult for my immediate family. I'm a different person now, it's made such a difference.
By not worrying about how much money I have, and for spending only what I earn.
A friend is way richer than me, with a big business worth millions. Sure, he's got a Range Rover and a swimming pool, but he's also got two divorces, a heart condition and a daughter who he never sees. I don't know if he is happy, but I certainly wouldn't be if I was in that position
A friend is way richer than me, with a big business worth millions. Sure, he's got a Range Rover and a swimming pool, but he's also got two divorces, a heart condition and a daughter who he never sees. I don't know if he is happy, but I certainly wouldn't be if I was in that position
Not sure happiness is a destination, there have been times where I have been extremely happy and contented but also times when I've been stressed and worried and not a little bit helpless, it's the circle of life, if you've never felt the rain you can't appreciate the sun and all that.
However you feel, one thing is for sure, it'll pass.
The breakdown of my marriage, and ultimately divorce. I started doing what I wanted, and only doing what I wanted. No more doing what I thought I should do as a "good husband".
There's some big things such as lots of cycling and learning to ride a motorbike, but the main difference is in the little day-to-day stuff. What I eat, what I watch on TV, what I do on a quiet Sunday morning, it's all 100% my choice. I can't comprehend going back to how it was before and compromising on all these daily things.
There's some big things such as lots of cycling and learning to ride a motorbike, but the main difference is in the little day-to-day stuff. What I eat, what I watch on TV, what I do on a quiet Sunday morning, it's all 100% my choice. I can't comprehend going back to how it was before and compromising on all these daily things.
How did, or how do you? Because ultimately you have a baseline happy value and short term "positive" *or* "negative" events will move the needle but over time it will return to your baseline happy.
The way apparently to change your baseline (for the better) is positive self talk.
Have some Hannah Fry to explain it. https://www.tiktok.com/@fryrsquared/video/73644476...
To sum it up, repeat to yourself as often as you can "These are the good days".
The way apparently to change your baseline (for the better) is positive self talk.
Have some Hannah Fry to explain it. https://www.tiktok.com/@fryrsquared/video/73644476...
To sum it up, repeat to yourself as often as you can "These are the good days".
t that. Deranged Rover said:
Found a job I like, married a woman I adore, have a great circle of friends and don t sweat about minor stuff, or stuff I can t control.
And I make a decent "dry martini.
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Whisky Sour
But yes to all the others.
It took me a lot of hard work to have great financial security and this contributes to my happiness.
I generally just have always had a good baseline of being content/happy. Learnt to appreciate the small things, let go of things that don't need to be stressed about, deal with what can be dealt with and move on from the rest.
Don't sweat the small stuff really, it's interesting to see how many people lose their heads over relatively insignificant things....
Don't sweat the small stuff really, it's interesting to see how many people lose their heads over relatively insignificant things....
3 years ago I started going for counselling - was a revelation to be able to talk to someone...
weirdly, one of the things that held me back was not knowing who to speak to or how much it cost - £40/hour to speak to a trained psychologist
when I think about it now I could almost cry that I hadn't done it sooner, it's such a low-cost for what it has returned
anyway, long story short, put a lot of things (relationships) into perspective, realigned my compass in terms of work/money and earlier this year dealt with a lot of crap from childhood
I'm 44 and can now honestly say, for the first time in my life, I'm happy
weirdly, one of the things that held me back was not knowing who to speak to or how much it cost - £40/hour to speak to a trained psychologist
when I think about it now I could almost cry that I hadn't done it sooner, it's such a low-cost for what it has returned
anyway, long story short, put a lot of things (relationships) into perspective, realigned my compass in terms of work/money and earlier this year dealt with a lot of crap from childhood
I'm 44 and can now honestly say, for the first time in my life, I'm happy
Dunclane said:
Discendo Discimus said:
I worry about the things that I can control, everything else is water off a duck's back.
Focusing on my fitness this year has done wonders for my mental health, along with a new prescription for Fluoxetine.
I've struggled with MH since my Dad died in a hit and run back in 2018. I just stopped caring about myself, comfort ate, smoked weed, was on my phone in front of my kids constantly. I decided this year that it's a stupid way to deal with grief and I was making life difficult for my immediate family. I'm a different person now, it's made such a difference.
Well done you, it takes a lot to be able to spot it, realise it then do something about it.Focusing on my fitness this year has done wonders for my mental health, along with a new prescription for Fluoxetine.
I've struggled with MH since my Dad died in a hit and run back in 2018. I just stopped caring about myself, comfort ate, smoked weed, was on my phone in front of my kids constantly. I decided this year that it's a stupid way to deal with grief and I was making life difficult for my immediate family. I'm a different person now, it's made such a difference.
'Well Done You'
Good thread
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