People dying. I'm fed up.
Discussion
I was born in the early 1970s, which I suppose means I am not all that young any more. Today I was about to wish an old friend (from years ago, no recent contact) a happy birthday on Facebook, only to see that she died in April.
In the last three years, I have lost both parents, my stepfather, my best friend from prep school, and three cruise ship friends, including my musical director from 2019. Aside from the parents, all of them have been my age or younger.
Not sure why I am posting this, really. I'm just fed up with people dying and think they should stop.
In the last three years, I have lost both parents, my stepfather, my best friend from prep school, and three cruise ship friends, including my musical director from 2019. Aside from the parents, all of them have been my age or younger.
Not sure why I am posting this, really. I'm just fed up with people dying and think they should stop.
paulguitar said:
I was born in the early 1970s, which I suppose means I am not all that young any more. Today I was about to wish an old friend (from years ago, no recent contact) a happy birthday on Facebook, only to see that she died in April.
In the last three years, I have lost both parents, my stepfather, my best friend from prep school, and three cruise ship friends, including my musical director from 2019. Aside from the parents, all of them have been my age or younger.
Not sure why I am posting this, really. I'm just fed up with people dying and think they should stop.
Sorry to hear about your losses.In the last three years, I have lost both parents, my stepfather, my best friend from prep school, and three cruise ship friends, including my musical director from 2019. Aside from the parents, all of them have been my age or younger.
Not sure why I am posting this, really. I'm just fed up with people dying and think they should stop.
I'm in a similar situation, a little older than yourself, so have some idea how you feel.
When I was at school, a friend died in an accident.
Barely into our twenties, a friend hanged himself.
Another friend drank himself to death in his thirties.
i could go on, but I do not want to belittle your sense of loss.
Everybody dies, and the worst thing is, it's always too soon.
You just have to remember the happy times.
The thing about life, it is a limited time experience.
Nobody lives forever. Dying is the flip side of living. It is one of the things that define living. It is the caveat to being born and experiencing the joys of life. We all have to die, in order to be a living thing.
I would not want to be immortal, I would get bored.
All you can do is enjoy your life, and appreciate spending time with friends and family while you can.
I was born in 1972, similar age to you.
In the last 12 months I have lost my Dad (Alzheimer's), my mother-in-law (Sepsis, related to a broken hip from a fall she bever recovered from) and a schoolmate of 40 years (he had MND, but then copped a brain tumour which did for him, the poor bugger).
Therefore my funeral suit is well and truly dusted off and I have shed a fair few tears.
However you just have to put it down as part of life. We are all here hopefully for a long time, but some of us go before others.
Make the most of life whilst you can is my motto, and try not to dwell on the passing of others too much.
If you are struggling, I'm told that grief counselling can help.
In the last 12 months I have lost my Dad (Alzheimer's), my mother-in-law (Sepsis, related to a broken hip from a fall she bever recovered from) and a schoolmate of 40 years (he had MND, but then copped a brain tumour which did for him, the poor bugger).
Therefore my funeral suit is well and truly dusted off and I have shed a fair few tears.
However you just have to put it down as part of life. We are all here hopefully for a long time, but some of us go before others.
Make the most of life whilst you can is my motto, and try not to dwell on the passing of others too much.
If you are struggling, I'm told that grief counselling can help.
paulguitar said:
I was born in the early 1970s, which I suppose means I am not all that young any more. Today I was about to wish an old friend (from years ago, no recent contact) a happy birthday on Facebook, only to see that she died in April.
In the last three years, I have lost both parents, my stepfather, my best friend from prep school, and three cruise ship friends, including my musical director from 2019. Aside from the parents, all of them have been my age or younger.
Not sure why I am posting this, really. I'm just fed up with people dying and think they should stop.
I'm the same age as you and, I'm sorry to say, it gets worse from here onwards. We seem to have lost so many close family over the last 10 years, the youngest must have been early 30's (cancer) and the oldest was 105. Age doesnt make a difference, they still leave a hole in the heart.In the last three years, I have lost both parents, my stepfather, my best friend from prep school, and three cruise ship friends, including my musical director from 2019. Aside from the parents, all of them have been my age or younger.
Not sure why I am posting this, really. I'm just fed up with people dying and think they should stop.
Firstly, sorry to hear that.
I was born in late 70s and fortunately still have both parents and many good friends, but I dread the days that I start losing them and my circle gets smaller.
I know it is inevitable and we should expect this, but I don't think anything can prepare you fully. I suppose the biggest worry I have is that I am the last one standing and become lonely once my kids have left home and began their own lives.
I was born in late 70s and fortunately still have both parents and many good friends, but I dread the days that I start losing them and my circle gets smaller.
I know it is inevitable and we should expect this, but I don't think anything can prepare you fully. I suppose the biggest worry I have is that I am the last one standing and become lonely once my kids have left home and began their own lives.
the joys of getting old you get to watch others die
not that long ago I found out that a friend I used to do a lot of track days with had died, he had some amazing new car incl a V10 M5 wagon, but i lost touch after his divorce and his firm went to the wall
the only person who i talk to socially and a friend of the above is currently starting final care for cancer
not that long ago I found out that a friend I used to do a lot of track days with had died, he had some amazing new car incl a V10 M5 wagon, but i lost touch after his divorce and his firm went to the wall
the only person who i talk to socially and a friend of the above is currently starting final care for cancer
I know how you feel, i'm a bit younger at 44 but me and my wife said goodbye to the her grandmother this year so we are now in a position where the oldest generation are our parents and in fact my Dad is the oldest at 75 and I am acutely aware that our parents won't be around forever now with both of my parents having significant health scares in the last 12 months.
It's no fun getting older and I feel I will see far more funerals than wedding's in the coming years
It's no fun getting older and I feel I will see far more funerals than wedding's in the coming years
I know how you feel too. I've just passed 51 and I'm unlucky enough to have lost my father when I was five years old so never really knew him. My mother had been a refugee and living in the UK away from most of her family, so we had a very small family unit. My mother died in 2022 and it's been very lonely with no local family and most of the family abroad that I knew from childhood are disappearing. And because none of us use social media, I often don't hear about it and only find out by chance.
But it's not just family and friends. Most of the heavy hitting presenters I remember from the days when I watched TV (before it became terrible) seem to be dying off, only to be replaced by sycophantic, moronic Gen Z presenters in whose opinion I have no interest or respect.
But it's not just family and friends. Most of the heavy hitting presenters I remember from the days when I watched TV (before it became terrible) seem to be dying off, only to be replaced by sycophantic, moronic Gen Z presenters in whose opinion I have no interest or respect.
Death & people eh buggering off leaving you , well that's what I thought when my mother died when I was 4yrs old... Had friends go 41, 49 , 54 , sister 60's . At 41 I named my daughter after my mother, it wasn't until Dad when I was 54 I discovered it was not her name ... I never had family as I was in care up late teens then it bye bye & Hi big World so I guess I am lucky that I was used to regularly seeing people I classed as friends /family go so I don't get emotions of loss as most seem to.
paulguitar said:
I was born in the early 1970s, which I suppose means I am not all that young any more. Today I was about to wish an old friend (from years ago, no recent contact) a happy birthday on Facebook, only to see that she died in April.
In the last three years, I have lost both parents, my stepfather, my best friend from prep school, and three cruise ship friends, including my musical director from 2019. Aside from the parents, all of them have been my age or younger.
Not sure why I am posting this, really. I'm just fed up with people dying and think they should stop.
I'm a little older than you, I'd like to say it gets better.In the last three years, I have lost both parents, my stepfather, my best friend from prep school, and three cruise ship friends, including my musical director from 2019. Aside from the parents, all of them have been my age or younger.
Not sure why I am posting this, really. I'm just fed up with people dying and think they should stop.
It doesn't.
Yeah... I think about death and dying quite a lot; as well as having friends and relatives who are older, I also work with pensioners so death, dying and illness are things I hear about a lot. I guess it's a reminder that I need to keep doing my stuff and not waste (too much) time. Hang on, there's the sound of a scythe knocking on my front door.
Sorry for your losses Paul, it's certainly a strange time to be alive. I'm 53 and in the last two years my wife has lost her mum, step dad and best friend. My dad has had prostate cancer for 13 years and it's starting to become more aggressive, my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and Vascular dementia in January and whilst my dad still cares for her, her symptoms are increasing at an alarming rate so she cannot be left alone.
We are all just trying to make the best of it, and the realisation that it's only going to get tougher over the next few years. Trying to make ourselves as happy as we can be by doing the things we love and spending time with those that are most important to us. My wife found grief counselling to be helpful, but ultimately you have to work through it yourself. Best wishes.
We are all just trying to make the best of it, and the realisation that it's only going to get tougher over the next few years. Trying to make ourselves as happy as we can be by doing the things we love and spending time with those that are most important to us. My wife found grief counselling to be helpful, but ultimately you have to work through it yourself. Best wishes.
Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff