Do any men have a "weird crush"?
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I was watching "Real Time with Bill Maher" with my wife, when suddenly she blurts out... "He's my weird crush. Who is your weird crush?". Obviously, this is a trap so she can give me the silent treatment whenever my "weird crush" appears on TV, but I genuinely could not think of any female, conventionally unattractive, that I had a crush on.
Maybe I'm just shallow, but anyone I like in that way is going to be attractive.
So, do *any* men have a "weird crush" or is it just a woman thing?
Bill Maher, in case you don't know him
Maybe I'm just shallow, but anyone I like in that way is going to be attractive.
So, do *any* men have a "weird crush" or is it just a woman thing?
Bill Maher, in case you don't know him
gotoPzero said:
fttm said:
That s Rubens Barricello in a wig surely ?
Just choked on my Irn-Bru FFS LOL
One for the Doppelgänger thread. NB: I've already mentioned Theresa May on another thread... Time to move on.
(So I won't mention it again).
Edited by Milkyway on Wednesday 8th April 18:59
HTP99 said:
Early-bird said:
How is she a "weird crush"?There’s an odd psychological tension that can happen with public figures where physical attraction and ideological aversion pull in opposite directions. Emma Watson is a good example of that dynamic for some people.
On a purely superficial level, she fits many of the traits that people tend to find attractive. She’s conventionally good-looking, clearly keeps herself in excellent shape, and carries herself with a kind of polished confidence that naturally draws attention. From a biological or instinctive standpoint, attraction is fairly simple: the brain responds to visual cues like symmetry, health, posture, and body language. Those signals trigger an immediate, almost automatic response.
But attraction isn’t purely physical once you know more about a person. The moment personality, beliefs, and values enter the picture, the brain starts layering a second evaluation on top of the first. In Watson’s case, her very public advocacy around progressive or “woke” politics—particularly her activism tied to modern feminism and identity-driven social issues—can produce a strong negative reaction in people who fundamentally disagree with that worldview.
That creates a kind of cognitive dissonance. One part of the mind reacts to the visual cues and says “attractive,” while another part hears the political messaging and thinks “deeply unappealing.” The result is a strange push-pull effect: the instinctive attraction is still there, but it’s immediately countered by ideological repulsion.
For some people the second layer completely overrides the first. Physical attractiveness becomes irrelevant once someone’s beliefs or attitudes clash strongly with your own values. In that sense, attraction becomes holistic rather than purely visual. Someone can look great but still come across as unattractive overall if their worldview feels alienating or irritating.
It’s a reminder that attraction isn’t just about appearance. Looks might spark initial interest, but alignment of values, personality, and outlook often determines whether that attraction survives contact with the real person. When those elements move in opposite directions—physical appeal one way, ideological aversion the other—you end up with that oddly conflicted reaction.
Edited by Early-bird on Wednesday 8th April 19:05
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