What would you do?
Discussion
Being a mother myself now I would find this dilemma very hard, on the one hand you have invested 6 years bringing up and loving a child as your own, then you find out it isn't your natural child, I still can't decide what I would do.
[quote=ananova][b][big]No damages for baby mix-up couples [/b][/big]
Two couples whose babies were mixed up in hospital have been denied compensation because they don't want their real children back.
Cesar and Maria Rodrigues, and Griselda and Gabriel Nunez both had boys in hospital in Concordia, Argentina, six years ago.
Mrs Heras was suspicious that the boy, Angel, given to her was not her natural child and eventually uncovered the truth.
Angel was really the son of the Rodrigues who were bring up the Heras boy, Soledad, as their own.
But the couples decided they want to keep the children they were given as opposed to their natural ones.
They still tried to sue the state for £50,000 compensation.
But judges dismissed the case because the couples didn't want their natural sons back. Both couples said they will appeal.
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[quote=ananova][b][big]No damages for baby mix-up couples [/b][/big]
Two couples whose babies were mixed up in hospital have been denied compensation because they don't want their real children back.
Cesar and Maria Rodrigues, and Griselda and Gabriel Nunez both had boys in hospital in Concordia, Argentina, six years ago.
Mrs Heras was suspicious that the boy, Angel, given to her was not her natural child and eventually uncovered the truth.
Angel was really the son of the Rodrigues who were bring up the Heras boy, Soledad, as their own.
But the couples decided they want to keep the children they were given as opposed to their natural ones.
They still tried to sue the state for £50,000 compensation.
But judges dismissed the case because the couples didn't want their natural sons back. Both couples said they will appeal.
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Vipers said:
We live in a "I want compensation world" today, just look at all the junk ads on sky, "Had an accident de da de da de da".
Sadly those who deserve it, dont always get it, scroungers do..............
But the mothers apart from that made the right call I think.
I don't think it's unreasonable asking for compensation for two reasons:
1) Doubtless the mistake by the hospital would have cause severe distrress;
2) If the hospital get penalised they'll be more motivated to ensure that they won't make a similar mistake in the future;
If the same cock-up were made in the USA, paradoxically you could add three more zeroes to the claim.
I think keeping them is probably the best decision, but I would tell the child as soon as is reasonable, but to try and involve each set of parents as part of an extended family. Maybe when they are older the children can then make a choice who they want to live with, or have an extra set of parents/'aunt and uncle'.
Depends if the like the one you've got 
Seriously - no idea, even worse if the 2 families can't agree and you have to fight it out in court. Suppose a lot would depend on how long you had had the child for. 6 years would be a long time to miss out on them growing up and you'd have to consider how traumatic the re-adjustment would be for them too.
Seriously - no idea, even worse if the 2 families can't agree and you have to fight it out in court. Suppose a lot would depend on how long you had had the child for. 6 years would be a long time to miss out on them growing up and you'd have to consider how traumatic the re-adjustment would be for them too.
The natural response would be to keep the child, whilst enduring the emotional turmoil of knowing its the wrong one.
But life someitmes asks that you take a blow on the chin, in order to make progress. And the most grown up response would be to swap children again, go through a period of pain and loss, and 6 months later know that you did the right thing for your own child, who will not have to deal with the issue themselves, when they are fully grown.
The younger years are formative, adolescence is confusing enough, and a teenager would rather have a "Guess what, I lived with the wrong family for the first 6 months of my life
" story, than discover "Bloody hell, my parents are NOT my parents 
" story.
I know which I would rather deal with, and talk abotu with my mates, when I eventually found out. And it wouldnt be wise to assume or think that they will never find out.
Just my opinion, with loving parents it could work wonderfully either way. Good luck to them all.
But life someitmes asks that you take a blow on the chin, in order to make progress. And the most grown up response would be to swap children again, go through a period of pain and loss, and 6 months later know that you did the right thing for your own child, who will not have to deal with the issue themselves, when they are fully grown.
The younger years are formative, adolescence is confusing enough, and a teenager would rather have a "Guess what, I lived with the wrong family for the first 6 months of my life
" story, than discover "Bloody hell, my parents are NOT my parents " story. I know which I would rather deal with, and talk abotu with my mates, when I eventually found out. And it wouldnt be wise to assume or think that they will never find out.
Just my opinion, with loving parents it could work wonderfully either way. Good luck to them all.
anonymous said:
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Jeepers! Praps I should get glasses! No debte - Anyone can (and should) love their child so much, the child would never wish for another family or life. Im sure they will all be very happy just as they are
and a little compensation seems in order. Although chasing after it would not be a wise investment of energy. Surely no parent could bring up a child for 6 years and be prepared to swop them even though a mistake had been made!
I love my kids to bits. I couldn't part with any of them whatever the reason, even if it turned out that I wasn't the real father.
Oh dear, here comes the flack.......
p.s. I too was adopted but don't see that it makes any difference in this matter.
I love my kids to bits. I couldn't part with any of them whatever the reason, even if it turned out that I wasn't the real father.
Oh dear, here comes the flack.......
p.s. I too was adopted but don't see that it makes any difference in this matter.
pdV6 said:
I have to wonder why they bothered going to the trouble of finding out the truth if they couldn't (quite rightly) bear to swap back anyway. Perhaps it was purely for the prospect of compensation?
Possibly they just wanted to KNOW and have their doubts laid to rest.
personally, I couldn't give up a child I've raised and loved for ANY amount of time in favour of a child that's genetically 'mine'. I think the parents made the right decision, but I would hope that they are ALL involved in the lives of these children.
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