Do Opposites Attract?
Discussion
I went speed dating last night 
Not the first time I've been 
However, something that always fascinates me is that the women I get on with like a house on fire and really fancy never tick me, and the women that I have nothing in common with and don't really fancy or 'click' with always do tick me.
This..err.. isn't the first time I've been speed dating or done online dating A definite pattern is emerging! Nothing in common and no spark? - they like me. Loads in common, a long conversation and a spark - they don't like me.
Can anyone explain this? Do opposites really attract? Not for me they don't!!
Not the first time I've been However, something that always fascinates me is that the women I get on with like a house on fire and really fancy never tick me, and the women that I have nothing in common with and don't really fancy or 'click' with always do tick me.
This..err.. isn't the first time I've been speed dating or done online dating
A definite pattern is emerging! Nothing in common and no spark? - they like me. Loads in common, a long conversation and a spark - they don't like me. Can anyone explain this? Do opposites really attract? Not for me they don't!!
petrol_noggin said:
so you're saying ugly women want you, but stunners will do anything to get out of the same room as you?
Not necessarily. It is just that for about 2 or 3 out of the 20 women there is a real 'spark' - you know: flirty and keen conversation - we also usually have things in common (a love of motorsport, music, keeping fit etc). These women never tick me. Some of the conversations that I have that go down like a lead balloon cause we've nothing in common and there's no spark. It is this latter group of women that fancy me. Strange!
That's how I read it... chim_knee said:
Serious question:
Why aren't you interested in the other ones? Could it be that what you are looking for is a bit skewed and you should give the "others" a go?
If you see what I mean.
Maybe "your type" are wrong for you in the first place and you should have a try with the others?
Story of my life, now I know where I've been going wrong!
chim_knee said:
Serious question:
Why aren't you interested in the other ones? Could it be that what you are looking for is a bit skewed and you should give the "others" a go?
If you see what I mean.
Maybe "your type" are wrong for you in the first place and you should have a try with the others?
Interesting. I don't really have a 'type' visually. What I'm referring to is that spark that you get with someone that you see eye to eye with. It's not that I'm not interested in the other ones, some of them are very attractive, it just surprises me that they fancy me when the conversation is dead and there's no charisma flying back and forth across the table.
This also works for my ex girlfriends. In a big meal out with friends and an equal number of men and women, we'd all be chatting about scuba diving, motor racing, each person's fast bike or fast car, music, clubbing etc; but my girlfriend would be totally lost because she'd typically have nothing in common with me!
I'm the sort of guy that gets on with anyone, and I'm more than happy to go out with these women, but it does puzzle me how I never get to go out with the girls that I really hit it off with - they just never fancy me!
The plot thickens when you discover who these Rob-like women go out with... They usually end up dating someone who is totally nothing like them! The relationship often ends because they don't get on. So, do opposites attract?
In my circle of friends, I traditionally never get on very well with my friend's partners. My friends are just like me, and their partners are total opposites. For the few friends that I maintain who are very different from me, I usually get on well with their partners because they're opposite to them and thus very similar to me.
I'm the sort of guy that gets on with anyone, and I'm more than happy to go out with these women, but it does puzzle me how I never get to go out with the girls that I really hit it off with - they just never fancy me!
The plot thickens when you discover who these Rob-like women go out with... They usually end up dating someone who is totally nothing like them! The relationship often ends because they don't get on. So, do opposites attract?
In my circle of friends, I traditionally never get on very well with my friend's partners. My friends are just like me, and their partners are total opposites. For the few friends that I maintain who are very different from me, I usually get on well with their partners because they're opposite to them and thus very similar to me.
Obviously you aren't saying much with the ones you don't get on with, thus they think you don't like them therefore they deserately feel the need to get your attention, no idea why this is, but it seems to be the case for me as well.
Either that or more likely that you keep your mouth shut and there is less chance for saying something stupid that will kill any chance you had (done that numerous times, now I am firmly efficent with words, still keep saying the wrong things though
must remain silent from now on...
Either that or more likely that you keep your mouth shut and there is less chance for saying something stupid that will kill any chance you had (done that numerous times, now I am firmly efficent with words, still keep saying the wrong things though
must remain silent from now on...Gassing Station | The Pie & Piston Archive | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff