Starting over, pressing the reset button, clean slate etc.

[timmy30]

Something that strikes me is that quite a few regulars at the Pie and Piston have had to do this at some point, either because it has been thrust upon them, or as an active choice.

To have to completely rebuild ones life from scratch as an adult, I think is both scarey / daunting but must also offer many opportunities to start with a clean slate and do things better second time around.

To those who've done this what are your regrets? What were the greatest challenges, what have been the greatest rewards? Would you have done anything differently?

[B17NNS]

can imagine it can be quite liberating.

we acquire so much baggage as we go through life it could be like a great weight has lifted from your shoulders.

we all started this life with nothing and we will leave with nothing too. to not enjoy and embrace the bit inbetween is foolish.

[cossie.]

So basically Timmy30, your g/f has had enough, walked out on you and you're faced with a week's worth of dirty laundry and ironing? My advice is tackle it little but often, it's simply too much to cope with otherwise.

[anonymous-user]

timmy30 said:

Something that strikes me is that quite a few regulars at the Pie and Piston have had to do this at some point, either because it has been thrust upon them, or as an active choice. To have to completely rebuild ones life from scratch as an adult, I think is both scarey / daunting but must also offer many opportunities to start with a clean slate and do things better second time around. To those who've done this what are your regrets? What were the greatest challenges, what have been the greatest rewards? Would you have done anything differently?

Timmy... I got divorced last year just before my 42nd birthday and moved to the South Coast from Berkshire as always wanted to live there and seemed like a good idea to start again. Came here with no lady, no friends nearby, no job etc etc etc. Best thing EVER!!!!

Challenges....meeting new people at 42. Getting over the thought that you are getting on and probably not as "in your prime" as you used to be where women are concerned. All totally rubbish as you can join clubs etc and online dating is just agreat thing!!! Now have a lovely lady and a great group of friends!!!!! Greatest reward is realising what a great thing life experience is and how it makes you such a more "rounded" and interesting person. I would do nothing differently and once you have done it and gone thorugh the painful times you realise what a fabulous experience it can be!!

[minimax]

I've started over completely about 5 (or is it 6) times so far...it becomes boring after a while so I up sticks and move everything somewhere else...new job, house, friends, lifestyle..

it's a costly business but I have an extremely short patience threshold and I simply get bored

[simpo two]

Starting again or running away?

[timmy30]

simpo two said:

Starting again or running away?

Either I suppose. Doesn't one lead to the other, as it were?

[ProPlus]

Just done it, moved from the North down to London with the then gf, she had issues, ended it, I knew no-one. Its been hard but I have started to make a great set of friends, joined a few clubs and Im moving into a house this weekend and sharing with what seems like a decent bunch of people.

I still see my friends up north, but building a brand new life down here has been challenging and fun....... other than sometimes missing the ex, I have no regrets.

Enjoy it while you can.

[Eric Mc]

I came to the UK 20 years ago. Wasn't running away from anything but looking for a major change of scene - both professionally and socially. I have to say, it was the best thing I've ever done.

[timmy30]

anonymous said:

[redacted]

Children... ..... Runaway.

Anyway I wanted to make the thread quite general rather than being about me, then I was going to discreetly pick up some of the PH collective wisdom from the usual flotsum and jetsum of posts. You Bedford however have seen through my ruse and appalling gammar once again.

Anyway I want a Cerbera or a 308, she wants a baby and a house in Italy.

>> Edited by timmy30 on Thursday 2nd March 11:32


>> Edited by timmy30 on Thursday 2nd March 11:33

[hughesieII]

Wow, this threads been going exactly an hour and Rich12345678987654321 hasnt posted on it yet

[timmy30]

hughesieII said:

Wow, this threads been going exactly an hour and Rich12345678987654321 hasnt posted on it yet

Come on Rich you know you want to

[cossie.]

timmy30 said:

Anyway I want a Cerbera or a 308, she wants a baby and a house in Italy.

What's the problem? A Cerbie is a family car.

[406tm]

cossie. said:

timmy30 said: Anyway I want a Cerbera or a 308, she wants a baby and a house in Italy. What's the problem? A Cerbie is a family car.

From what I have read on these forums, a TVR cost about as much as kids to run

[Mad Dave]

timmy30 said:

hughesieII said: Wow, this threads been going exactly an hour and Rich12345678987654321 hasnt posted on it yet Come on Rich you know you want to

If you have the means for any of those things, you're doing better than me, so stop moaning

[minimax]

simpo two said:

Starting again or running away?

done it for both reasons, more than once

[simpo two]

garyhun said:

All totally rubbish as you can join clubs etc and online dating is just agreat thing!!! Now have a lovely lady and a great group of friends!!!!! Greatest reward is realising what a great thing life experience is and how it makes you such a more "rounded" and interesting person. I would do nothing differently and once you have done it and gone thorugh the painful times you realise what a fabulous experience it can be!!

Actually on a (much) smaller scale that's how I felt when I left the TVRCC and started PH East Anglia

[timmy30]

minimax said:

simpo two said: Starting again or running away? done it for both reasons, more than once

The running away option seems quite popular actually.

[vixpy1]

Thinking of doing a Regie Perin then?

[Rob_F]

cossie. said:

So basically Timmy30, your g/f has had enough, walked out on you and you're faced with a week's worth of dirty laundry and ironing? My advice is tackle it little but often, it's simply too much to cope with otherwise.