Pregnancy Ultrasound Scans (Advice needed)
Pregnancy Ultrasound Scans (Advice needed)
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stc_bennett

Original Poster:

5,253 posts

294 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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Hi all,

I was just wondering what you guys would do if your wife was wanting an extra ultrasound scan to see if we were having a boy or girl.

The scan that my partner wants is on the link below (click on the top banner for the Pics of a scan)

www.createhealth.org/

It comes down to the fact the NHS only is not going to pay for the scan and they will only do 2 scans then you have to pay.

So the question is would you pay for the scan (400 with all fees) or would you spend it on something that you want (Set of Zertec interiour upgrades for example????)

Cheers

Steve



>>> Edited by stc_bennett on Tuesday 7th January 22:40

flasher

9,310 posts

311 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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No bloody way! Half the fun of having a child is Natures secret of not knowing the sex. Unless there is a health risk or special reason then there is no need to know. Don't waste your money!! As long it's a healthy baby the sex doesn't matter, surely?

rude girl

6,937 posts

286 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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I wouldn't pay the money. Are you going to get £400 of benefit from knowing now rather than later? If it was a question of the baby's health then I'd pay (but in that case you'd get it on the NHS anyway).

What's the point, let's face it, you can't send it back if it's not what you wanted. I say Zertec need the money.

robp

5,815 posts

291 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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flasher said: No bloody way! Half the fun of having a child is Natures secret of not knowing the sex. Unless there is a health risk or special reason then there is no need to know. Don't waste your money!! As long it's a healthy baby the sex doesn't matter, surely?


In other words go for the Zertec!

bigtone

1,211 posts

311 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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Congrats on the impending arrival Steve!

I, personally, wouldn't want to know. Don't know strictly why, but I guess it takes the 'fun' out of it, for want of a better word. We had a son in the Luton and Dunstable Hospital, just under two years ago, and we didn't want to know what we were having. The bizzare thing is, even if we had asked, they couldn't have told us. Apparently, the hospital covers such a racially diverse area, it's too dangerous to tell certain parents what they're having - if families from certain religions (etc) are expecting girls, the mothers might accidentally fall down the stairs, for example!!!!!! So basically the same rule applied to us. We weren't even offered a payment option, but as I said, it wasn't for us.

Just think of the fun you'll have painting the nursery a nice neutral yellow - thats what I did!! You know how much you want the Zertec bits!

All the best, Tony

Ballistic Banana

14,706 posts

294 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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I've always thought that was all part of the Experience of having children was the not knowing what sex it was going to be.
I dont know many people who have wanted to know.

Congrates on your forecoming Birth and arrival of Zertec thingys

BB

sadoksevoli

1,232 posts

284 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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Spend the £400 (or more if you've got it) on the widescreen tv, dvd player and surround sound for endless happy nights in. If you already have those by all means get lots of scans and bore everybody senseless with "this is its legs, this its arse and this might be the head...".

Whatever - good luck - its a daunting but brilliant experience.

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>> Edited by sadoksevoli on Tuesday 7th January 23:21

bigtone

1,211 posts

311 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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Interesting to know, however, after looking at the site, that this process can also help in screening for Downs Syndrome. We had a real quandry over this - my sister was born with Downs, she died when she was three, and I was seven. My wife and I really didn't know what to do about this, but we went with the amniosentisis anyway for our little (9lbs !) one, even understanding the risks, but not realising there was an alternative. At the end of the day, what is meant to be, will be, as they say. What ever you two have, you will love it as your own, and thats the important thing. She turned out, for a short time, to be a very special sister to me.

All the best, Tony

Edited to say, thats just me, and it's only an extremely slim chance - didn't mean to panic or upset you my any means. Tony.


Edited again to say - bet you're glad you got a cerbie!! Are you going to keep it?

>> Edited by bigtone on Tuesday 7th January 23:18

>> Edited by bigtone on Tuesday 7th January 23:31

Simonelite501

1,440 posts

295 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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A peice of string with a wedding ring attached is a lot lees expensive than £400! Hold it over the bump, if it spins clockwise is a boy, anticlockwise its a girl (may be wrong way round, sure to be a pikey on here somewhere to put me right ) Now go out and buy the Zertec stuff!

paul-wh

378 posts

292 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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I've heard that if the mum-to-be puts weight on mainly at the front then it tends to be a boy, and a girl if she puts on weight all over. This was certainly the case with my wife for all 3 of our boys.

I nearly got into trouble with this theory with a girl I used to work with though. I predicted a girl as she had put weight on all over. When I told her my reasoning she seemed put out as she had only thought she had put weight on at the front. She had a girl.

I guess there will be others who have heard the opposite though.

Graham

16,380 posts

311 months

Tuesday 7th January 2003
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Id have to go with the majority here, we were asked if we wanted to know before my daughter ( now 7 months)
was born and nope we waited for the end..

mind you the nhs scans are terrible compaired to what you can get privatly

a mates wife had the downs scare from the first scan and it was going to be 2 weeks before they could have another look, so my mate paid the 400 quid and the video (in colour) they got the next day was amazing
great to watch after a few pints....

ramble over

if its just to find out the sex...dont bother
if its medical pay it ...

G

plotloss

67,280 posts

297 months

Wednesday 8th January 2003
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Nah dont spend the money, wait and find out, its much more fun that way

Matt.

Farmer

1,287 posts

301 months

Wednesday 8th January 2003
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You don't want to know mate! but as my missus is "in the trade" I could do you a deal £350 for cash . no Questions

Congrats. and good luck

Mrs Fish

30,018 posts

285 months

Wednesday 8th January 2003
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I'm with everyone on here, just wait and see, that's all part of the excitement. Oh and BIG CONGRATULATIONS to the both of you

kevinday

13,766 posts

307 months

Wednesday 8th January 2003
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Congratulations. We found out the sex of our son on one of the regular scans, it was actually pretty obvious, I can't remember what stage it was at and here in Hungary you can have a free scan fairly regularly, I think we had 3 or 4.

NDT

1,767 posts

290 months

Wednesday 8th January 2003
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interesting - didn't know you could get a 3D scan...

my wife and I are in exactly the same situation - she'd like to know boy/girl, I'd prefer a surprise.

fortunately, at Bedford the NHS will tell you if you want to know. Milton Keynes and Luton don't for 'cultural' reasons as mentioned before...
We went for an early scan privately to check for Downs, but I wouldn't bother with one just to find out the sex.

On the other hand, those 3D images are amazing...

NDT

1,767 posts

290 months

Wednesday 8th January 2003
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more importantly.....what car are you getting to haul the baby + assorted accessories around in?

pdv6

16,442 posts

288 months

Wednesday 8th January 2003
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Personally I wouldn't want to know, but if its just to find out the sex, I'm sure you could ask the operator at one of the later scans to have a look.

As has been posted many times before, if its for a medical reason, pay the cash!

{edited for splng}

>> Edited by pdv6 on Wednesday 8th January 08:42

SGirl

7,924 posts

288 months

Wednesday 8th January 2003
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Congratulations on the impending arrival!!

Would you peek at all your presents before Christmas? Probably not. So wait and see - much nicer that way! Scans will never be 100% accurate, anyway - I've heard of several couples that "knew" they were having a boy and ended up with a girl, for example.

What's more, my brother and his girlfriend knew from blood tests (100% accurate - can't argue with chromosomes!) that they were having a boy, and she was induced. Took all the fun out of it when my mum phoned in the early morning to tell me she'd had a boy - there was a definite "I know, I know..." factor about it.

And anyway, they tell me lilac and lemon are in this year. No, best to wait and see IMHO unless there are medical reasons for knowing.

Spend the £400 on a nice piece of jewellery for the proud mum once the little one's born!

Marcos maniac

3,148 posts

288 months

Wednesday 8th January 2003
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kevinday said: Congratulations. We found out the sex of our son on one of the regular scans, it was actually pretty obvious,



Same here, found out on second scan.

I wanted to know, Mrs m wasnt bothered either way, I asked during second scan. Wouldnt have payed £400 to find out.