Adults still living with their parents.

[anonymous-user]

I notice on the Luton thread there were some interesting comments about some asians living with their parents as adults.

TBH I always thought white British people who did this were a bit inept but that it was the norm amongst some other cultures. I lived in the far east where there were often two or three generations of people living together.

Do we need to leave home as some kind of rite of passage or is it just another example of the modern western break up of the family unit?

I expect many people live at home because they simply can't afford to leave. Sure it must have advantages but what about things like trying to have 'relationships' whilst still living with your parents?

What do people think?

[littlegreenfairy]

I couldn't go back and live with my parents - someone would end up dying.

Now that I've left home we all get on a lot better

[Shay HTFC]

One thing I will say is that I doubt there are thousands of old people just deserted in care homes in the Eastern countries. The Western way of life is far more selfish I would say, where a older family member is not seen as a loved one who could greatly benefit from your company (just like you relied on them as a child), but rather like an annoyance that we just don't want on our hands while we live our own life.

Then it bites us in the arse when our own kids desert us themselves.
Only playing devil's advocate.. I wouldn't want to live with my family all my life.

P.S. It is still quite common in traditional working class cities that whole families will live within a mile of each other. It sounds sad, but when I am old I would appreciate it if my child would pop in everyday for a cuppa and to bring some cake, rather than ditch me in some Old People's home.

[Heskey]

My family all live in the same valley as me, about a 10-15 minute drive to each of them.

My assumption is people still live with parents now due to the impossibility of buying a house in our current housing crisis.

Asain families on the other hand have much more family connections and values; they look after their own elders out of respect, much like many young asains don't blend into western culture and hold strong religious values out of respect for their parents, I'd imagine.

Edited by Heskey on Wednesday 30th July 10:18

[shirt]

i left home at 18 but moved back for a year aged 24 as they lived a lot closer to my new place of work and i was saving for a mortgage deposit.

benefit was free rent and a token contribution for food. everything else was a nightmare. think you get nagged by your live in OH, having your mum blathering on at you is 10 times worse and you can't tell her to fk off as she's your mum!

dad was sound throughout, think he liked the banter. mum was a total nightmare. jumped for joy when i left, its much better keeping them at arms length!

[Mr POD]

I'd happily live with my inlaws, but I couldn't live with my mother.

[Saddle bum]

I understand that, as a child of the householder, if you have never lived anywhere else but in the family home, you do not have to pay death duties when the inevitable happens.

[Baby Scuff]

I live in a rural area of the south west and work in one of the Cities, people I work with found it odd that I didn't move out till just after I turned 26 (could afford first house) as they all moved out and rented after Uni.

Friends from my home town still live with their parents at 29-30 with seemingly no intention of moving out.

Edited to add, I moved 2 miles from my Parents and still se them a few times a week.

Edited by Baby Scuff on Wednesday 30th July 10:23

[Heskey]

Mr POD said:

I'd happily live with my inlaws, but I couldn't live with my mother.

I could live with my OH's father-in-law, but I couldn't live with her mother!

[Podie]

shirt said:

... benefit was free rent and a token contribution for food.

Blimey. I moved back home for a year after Uni to save for a deposit. The moment my first payday arrived I was charged rent.

[okgo]

I find it a bit odd, people over 25 that still do.

I moved out at 17 and have no inttentions of moving back with them.

You can rent, its not like you have to buy a house. Its independance, you can't live a full life if your mothered all the time, and don't endure the pressures of finacial life.

[anonymous-user]

I wonder why so many asian families can all live together. Do they somehow get along better with their parents?

What's the difference?

[Silverbullet767]

I couldn't go back, murder would be done.

Whats that, pick that up, wash that, move that, do this, do that, clean that, what do you mean you won't be home till 3am, etc etc....

[shadowninja]

Saddle bum said:

I understand that, as a child of the householder, if you have never lived anywhere else but in the family home, you do not have to pay death duties when the inevitable happens.

Now you tell us!! Goddammit. Mind you, 70 years of putting up with parents... I think I'd rather pay capital gains.

[Podie]

okgo said:

I find it a bit odd, people over 25 that still do.

I finished Uni at 25... choices are rent a sthole, or live at home for a year in a large house.

[Office_Monkey]

I had to move back home, but am rarely there tbh (round the gf's). Living in London is a money nightmare, and am paying towards my sister's uni instead of giving my parents rent money.

[sniff petrol]

Most youngsters prefer to live at home as it means more disposable income for binge drinking, fags, junk food and HP repayments on their badly modified Corsa whilst moaning that it's impossible for them to buy a place.

There's a difference to impossible and difficult.

[okgo]

Podie said:

okgo said:

I find it a bit odd, people over 25 that still do.

I finished Uni at 25... choices are rent a sthole, or live at home for a year in a large house.

Bit odd aren't ya.

On a more serious note, in this case its different, most people don't do a long degree like you must have.

Still I think entering the working world at 26 is very different aswell.

[Don]

Left home. Aged 18 (just).

Never lived there again. Visited for a month or so between jobs twice I think.

Simply could not have moved back.

I would have if cash strapped enough and if they offered/said yes. But I never tested that...

[Cara Van Man]

I left home at 16.

Could never go back. 24 hours in thier company is more than enough nowadays.

However, my brother only left home at the age of about 27....he liked being looked after by mummy too much.